Looser guys trying to win back women they did wrong too.

[tmichelle]

Has anyone else noticed that the biggest loser men ever are the ones that keep coming back like a bad nightmare? I noticed that when these loser men get over their girlfriends/wives and kick them to the curb, they come back when the woman seems to be getting her life together. As a friend it is so hard to sit by and watch this happening, it's like watching a train wreck.

Case in point. I had a friend that stayed with us after her husband divorced her (the marriage lasted only a few months and I had warned her not to marry him anyway). Well here she is living with my dh and me in another state and getting her life together really well. She was starting to get some self confidence, had her dream job and was growing spiritually. Well, here comes ex-husband back into the picture. He heard she was doing well and thought he'd contact her. My friend was still not enough over this loser so she fell for it. It was terribe.

He called one morning (after they had exchanged a few e-mails and cards) and they talked on the phone for 4 hours! She lost her dream job because of that call and started becoming the needy woman with him she used to be. He dumped her for good in no time flat. Why couldn't she have moved on? Why did she insist on returning to vomit?

ETA: Sorry for all the spelling errors.

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

Did you say "returning to vomit" ROFLMBAOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

 

[tmichelle]

Did you say "returning to vomit" ROFLMBAOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

Sorry for the graphic image

 

[VirtuousGal]

That is really frightening...you think she would have known better, but love can be a helluva drug sometimes. I'd tell my friends to break their foot off in my behind if I were about to make a foolish move like that. As hard as it is NOT to say I told you so, try not to do this, because there is no way that she doesn't realize the error she made. Obviously, you are a really good friend, s just continue to be their for her, but I would also suggest that you nudge her to get counseling, for some reason its easier to hear the truth and deal with issues from an objective party as opposed to family and other loved ones.

 

[shorthairdiva09]

lol, unfortunately in the state i am in now if i was propositioned to go back in a relationship my dumb ass will consider return to vomit and mucus. somethings just need to stay flushed but like posted above, love is a helluva drug and that drug leads to an addiction that is hard to recover from

 

[tmichelle]

That is really frightening...you think she would have known better, but love can be a helluva drug sometimes. I'd tell my friends to break their foot off in my behind if I were about to make a foolish move like that. As hard as it is NOT to say I told you so, try not to do this, because there is no way that she doesn't realize the error she made. Obviously, you are a really good friend, s just continue to be their for her, but I would also suggest that you nudge her to get counseling, for some reason its easier to hear the truth and deal with issues from an objective party as opposed to family and other loved ones.

Yeah, I never said, "I told you so". In fact, she never gave me the chance. She felt I wasn't being supportive of her relationship so she moved out. (Of course I wasn't but I didn't talk bad about him or anything). She had free rent at our home for months and could eat any of our food and she still chose to move out. Well, like I said he dumped her in no time flat and she has been moving around from place to place since she left our home. She can't find anything she can afford. She doesn't come to church now b/c she had to move so far out so I don't see her much at all.

She did reach out to get counseling but she drove some of them crazy with her constant calling at all hours of the day and night. Other counselors seemed just as disjointed as she was.

 

[tmichelle]

lol, unfortunately in the state i am in now if i was propositioned to go back in a relationship my dumb ass will consider return to vomit and mucus. somethings just need to stay flushed but like posted above, love is a helluva drug and that drug leads to an addiction that is hard to recover from

That reminds me. You've got to rerepresent him in your mind. He can no longer be thought of as that romantic love interest/intriguing male or anything else like that. We used to say that certain males lost their privaledges to a name. That was one of the best ways to start rerepresenting someone and presenting them in the light they are truly cast in.

For instance, my loser boyfriend no longer had the right to be called ____. He became what he actually was, "Mr. Phlegm". So whenever I spoke of him or thought of him, that is what I thought about. All my good friends and even my dh now refer to him as that.

 

[LookingandListening]

Yeah. I've been there. Now i'm

 

[tmichelle]

Yeah. I've been there. Now i'm

I wanna kiss that baby!

 

[treybaby2005]

That reminds me. You've got to rerepresent him in your mind. He can no longer be thought of as that romantic love interest/intriguing male or anything else like that. We used to say that certain males lost their privaledges to a name. That was one of the best ways to start rerepresenting someone and presenting them in the light they are truly cast in.

For instance, my loser boyfriend no longer had the right to be called ____. He became what he actually was, "Mr. Phlegm". So whenever I spoke of him or thought of him, that is what I thought about. All my good friends and even my dh now refer to him as that.

:thatsall:

 

[LookingandListening]

I wanna kiss that baby!

Girl, thats all I can seem to do. I WUB him.

 

[prettypuff1]

That reminds me. You've got to rerepresent him in your mind. He can no longer be thought of as that romantic love interest/intriguing male or anything else like that. We used to say that certain males lost their privaledges to a name. That was one of the best ways to start rerepresenting someone and presenting them in the light they are truly cast in.

For instance, my loser boyfriend no longer had the right to be called ____. He became what he actually was, "Mr. Phlegm". So whenever I spoke of him or thought of him, that is what I thought about. All my good friends and even my dh now refer to him as that.

BUWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA


They always seem to come back... and I get annoyed with it.. Like don't send me messages on myspace. I got the other 4 and number 5 isnt gonna change my mind

 

[Poobity]

Going through that now.

I do wish he'd leave me alone.

 

[sunnydaze]

Girl, thats all I can seem to do. I WUB him.

That's cute!

 

[Ms.Honey]

That reminds me. You've got to rerepresent him in your mind. He can no longer be thought of as that romantic love interest/intriguing male or anything else like that. We used to say that certain males lost their privaledges to a name. That was one of the best ways to start rerepresenting someone and presenting them in the light they are truly cast in.

For instance, my loser boyfriend no longer had the right to be called ____. He became what he actually was, "Mr. Phlegm". So whenever I spoke of him or thought of him, that is what I thought about. All my good friends and even my dh now refer to him as that.

This is so, so, so true. I named mine poophead(well the S word) and my girlfriends referred to him by that name also It get's you over them so quickly that it makes your head spin. To this very day if he's ever brought up, he's only referred to as poophead

 

[NYAmicas]

You're a good friend and I feel for her.
I had one dude I was plumb stupid over (sad times when I look back on it) and everytime I'd try to establish a new relationship he'd try to worm his way back in. I let that break up a really good thing I had going and when I went to him, he had nothing to offer. So months later Im in another relationship and he wants to call me again. Soon as he started with the, "I still love you" he got the *click*. Realized the error of his ways too late!

 

[tmichelle]

This is so, so, so true. I named mine poophead(well the S word) and my girlfriends referred to him by that name also It get's you over them so quickly that it makes your head spin. To this very day if he's ever brought up, he's only referred to as poophead

Poophead is a good one. It's got to be something as gross as they behave.

You're a good friend and I feel for her.
I had one dude I was plumb stupid over (sad times when I look back on it) and everytime I'd try to establish a new relationship he'd try to worm his way back in. I let that break up a really good thing I had going and when I went to him, he had nothing to offer. So months later Im in another relationship and he wants to call me again. Soon as he started with the, "I still love you" he got the *click*. Realized the error of his ways too late!

Good for you! No more trifling men messing up your life. You can do bad by yourself, you don't need any help.

 

[misskris816]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It sounds like her ex really has a good grip over her.

There was a guy I dated and fell head over heels for. I had never gotten along with someone so well and we always enjoyed each other's company. After months of dating, he told me that he wasn't emotionally ready to give me what I wanted and completely took me for granted. After trying to change his mind for a while, I finally moved on.

Several months later I met someone who I ended up with for 5 years. Of course, after I finally moved on the guy realized the error of his ways and called me all the time talking about how he was never going to forgive himself for letting me go and begged me to come back to him. He spent the next 4 years begging me to come back and I just couldn't. When I move on, I REALLY move on. Poor guy

 

[tmichelle]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It soundslike her ex really has a good grip over her.

There was a guy I dated and fell head over heels for. I had never gotten along with someone so well and we always enjoyed each other's company. After month of dating, he told me that he wasn't emotionally ready to give me what I wanted and completely took me for granted. After trying to change his mind for a while, I finally moved on.

Several months later I met someone who I ended up with for 5 years. Of course, after I finally moved on the guy realized the error of his ways and called me all the time talking about how he was never going to forgive himself for letting me go and begged me to come back to him. He spent the next 4 years begging me to come back and I just couldn't. When I move on, I REALLY move on. Poor guy

Now if we could just fuse this backbone onto other women I think guys would learn their lesson a lot quicker and women would be happier.

 

[misskris816]

Now if we could just fuse this backbone onto other women I think guys would learn their lesson a lot quicker and women would be happier.

I hate to admit it, but I've been guilty of putting up with too much before finally moving on. But once I do, there's no turning back.

It feels good to move on from someone who can't treat us the way we deserve. It's definitely empowering.

 

[Ms.Honey]

I hate to admit it, but I've been guilty of putting up with too much before finally moving on. But once I do, there's no turning back.

It feels good to move on from someone who can't treat us the way we deserve. It's definitely empowering.

Doesn't it feel sooooo good to dump a loser? Especially when they do a full court press trying to get you back When they start pulling out all their tricks and you shoot them down one by one with an emphatic NO!!! and they have nothing left but plain ole begging and you shoot that down too......... Whenever I'm feeling moody, I just think back on dumping him and the look on his face and it brightens my day

 

[Honey6928215]

Oh it never fails. They leave you in the dumps and don't want nothing to do with you. But once you bounce back, start feeling better about yourself and gotten over them, here they come. It's truly disgusting to me. I had that happen to me twice. I don't go back because I think about the reason why we broke up in the first place or should I say that I keep thinking about how he dumped me and kept going.

 

[Princess4real]

Doesn't it feel sooooo good to dump a loser? Especially when they do a full court press trying to get you back When they start pulling out all their tricks and you shoot them down one by one with an emphatic NO!!! and they have nothing left but plain ole begging and you shoot that down too......... Whenever I'm feeling moody, I just think back on dumping him and the look on his face and it brightens my day

It tis a wonderful feeling.

 

[Ms.Honey]

It tis a wonderful feeling.

Yes it is. I'm reminicing on it right now. My mind and heart feel so light and carefree I want to sing

 

[AstroQueen77]

i dont know why it tends to happen this way.
But, if the looser REALLY changed his way and really regrets all the ways he acted, if he realized with his heart and soul the things he should have a long time ago, would any ladies on here take the man back?

 

[Ms.Honey]

i dont know why it tends to happen this way.
But, if the looser REALLY changed his way and really regrets all the ways he acted, if he realized with his heart and soul the things he should have a long time ago, would any ladies on here take the man back?

Nope. It's a set up. He would dump you so hard you'll still be standding in the same spot with your mouth hanging open three days later
If he's changed, Praise God. Go be changed somewhere else

 

[misskris816]

i dont know why it tends to happen this way.
But, if the looser REALLY changed his way and really regrets all the ways he acted, if he realized with his heart and soul the things he should have a long time ago, would any ladies on here take the man back?

He would have to do something so incredibly romantic before I would even think about it. He'd have to buy me every bouquet at the florist, fly me on a private jet to Italy, then get on his hands & knees and beg for forgiveness in front of the Trevi Fountain. I might consider it then.

All I've ever gotten are phone calls during their self-created pity parties. Sometimes sorry isn't enough, sometimes you have to actually change.

 

[AstroQueen77]

He would have to do something so incredibly romantic before I would even think about it. He'd have to buy me every bouquet at the florist, fly me on a private jet to Italy, then get on his hands & knees and beg for forgiveness in front of the Trevi Fountain. I might consider it then.

All I've ever gotten are phone calls during their self-created pity parties. Sometimes sorry isn't enough, sometimes you have to actually change.

yeah, im not talking about when the man has a pity moment and calls, im talking after some time, probably a while after youve broken up, he really steps to you in a way that makes you feel hes really changed his ****.
I dont know, a part of me would feel like, "oh he finally grew the **** up" but the other part of me would think "damn, all the crappy **** you did in the beginning makes me see you as damaged goods anyway"

 

[AstroQueen77]

Nope. It's a set up. He would dump you so hard you'll still be standding in the same spot with your mouth hanging open three days later
If he's changed, Praise God. Go be changed somewhere else

 

[misskris816]

yeah, im not talking about when the man has a pity moment and calls, im talking after some time, probably a while after youve broken up, he really steps to you in a way that makes you feel hes really changed his ****.
I dont know, a part of me would feel like, "oh he finally grew the **** up" but the other part of me would think "damn, all the crappy **** you did in the beginning makes me see you as damaged goods anyway"

In that case, I would take him back if I felt that I was still in love with the guy. That's probably the only exception.