Look what she did to my baby's hair.....cry, mad, angry!! I NEED HELP!!!

[Ms.Honey]

Beat her tail like she stole something from Jesus!!!! No don't do that. Calm down and enjoy the time you have left with your kids before you have to go back. Get her hair braided and shame your mom and sister til they commit to taking her to her hair appointments. She and her hair will be fine. And you're gonna be ok too.

 

[seeminglysweet]

My comments echo everyone elses.

Perhaps there is a long-time LHCFer near your family that wouldn't mind caring for Naomi's hair each week or bi-weekly. This kind of damage needs more care and TLC than your cousin is able (or willing) to give.

 

[Rae1234]

omg my heart! damn wow... i'm so speechless...

 

[BlkOnyx488]

This made me flash back to when I was little my MOTHER did this to me

I think you should let some growth come in a little then cut it off and keep her hair in braids until it's healthy again. only if she has a problem with having short hair.

How is your daughter doing?
And the cousin no words for her.

 

[MissLawyerLady]

First, thank you for the service you are doing in Iraq. May God bless you and keep you!

Second, your daughter is so beautiful- I would almost kill for skin as smooth and gorgeous.

Third, your cousin...there are no words! I'm pissed for you! I can't even imagine your shock. Look, I try to live by "follow peace with all men", but I'm sorry I'd of had a sinner's flashback (to use Coffee's phrase) and beat her tail! She didn't even ask you before she permed your baby's hair?!

The good thing is that hair grows back, but you need to tell you cousin... and I mean put fear in her heart... that if she does anything else to jack up your child's hair ... when you see her again there will be MAJOR CONFUSION!

 

[LynnieB]

wtf was she thinking, lazy sorry ass neglectful *****. no excuses NONE.

Things have a funny way of coming back on you when you don't do the right things.

i am sooooooo sorry {{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[Lexib]

OMG!!! Not even my child and I'm PISSED OFF for you!! Aside from the fact that I don't beleive in giving kids relaxers & that I agree that it's beyond messed up that she didn't respect your wishes for your daughter's hair, the thing that's really getting me is that it *is* possible to relax a child's hair bone straight and still have it come out looking half way decent! This is true even if the person taking care of the hair isn't educated on how to take care of AA hair, as most people aren't. I remember I was 9 when I got my first relaxer - TCB Bone Straight. Yet in all of my pictures in my youth, my hair still looked like your daughther's in the first picture. Point of the story? What happened to that poor little girl is beyond not respecting your wishes, it looks like she just didn't give a f*** about your baby's hair!

I'm sooo sorry. Short of getting someone else to take care of her/her hair, I agree that the best bet is probably to just get her some nice braids and keep it braided until you get back and it grows out.

She'll have her hair back to where it was before in less than a year.

 

[Mrs.Green]

Lord help me. I didn't even read the whole thread before posting this comment. But this woman needs her @zz whoped to the white meat :hardslap:.

Both my children have long beautiful hair. My daughter is 16 with APL and my son who is 13 and has NEVER had his hair cut is Mid Back. I would have to tear sombodies head off, if something happened to their heads.

I am so fired up *this isn't even my child* Lord help me!

 

[Southernbella.]

I am so sad. I am more upset at something I see in this MUCH deeper than her hair. She is the ONLY Black little girl in her class. I take extreme pride in taking care of my children and making sure that they look well-groomed and put together. To think that my poor baby was going to school, cheer-leading practice, just out and about LOOKING TORE UP by the head just KILLS ME!!! Her hair was completely natural. I can look at the little new growth and see that the last perm was maybe about two weeks ago? I asked my cousin WHAT THE HELLLL....she said that Naiomi's hair was:

UNMANAGEABLE!!
HARD TO COMB!!
TOO THICK!!
A PERM WAS THE ONLY THING TO FIX IT!!

I said BULL****! I have been managing it fine for 8 years and YOU CALL THIS FIXED??!! How is what it looks like now fixed! Oh, I get it, it's fixed to look like all the other little Black girls running around with broken off, damaged hair.

I am equally MAD at my own mother and two sisters who live 45 minutes away who never cared to check on their ONLY grand-daughter and niece. That's my biggest dilemna, finding someone who is going to consistently care for her hair.

MAD!!

I just got tears in my eyes reading this. You are right, this is deeper than her hair. Not only is it everything you said, but you are off in another country, trusting your family to take care of your baby, and they are either neglectful or, in your cousin's case, abusive? I'm so angry right now.

I'll be back with something substancial to say.

 

[Hair Iam]

First things first ..yes I'm sister to Jesus Christ, Baptise, Holy ghost filled , Speaking in tongues woman but this is for your cousin:killlurk:


now this is for you and your daughter...God Bless you both for the sacrifice you making for North America...your not just where you are for American;s bit for all who live in North America and believe in freedom. Much of what the other ladies have said sounds great...braiding ...having someone else take care of her hair . The Lord will find a way ..trust Him to show you.

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

Omg I almost said curse words!!! Man...I would first kill your cuz! She knew what she did!! And she saw that her hair was thinning and coming out! She could ahve at LEAST called you and took her to the shop if she didn't know what the hell she was doing!!

I would teach your lil one how to half way do her own hair. I would probably put her hair in something easy like braids and teach her how to keep it moisturized and add MN to her scalp nightly. It will grow back in no time!

 

[Mrs.Green]

I was in such a rant i forgot to leave a suggestion. I suggest braids like everyone else. I would trim it up to get as even as possible without cutting ALL of her hair off * I feel my pressure going back up* and lots of TLC.

 

[january noir]

She could ahve at LEAST called you and took her to the shop if she didn't know what the hell she was doing!!

AMEN! That is exactly what I was thinking.

 

[Southernbella.]

First, thank you for the service you are doing in Iraq. May God bless you and keep you!

Absolutely. God bless you and your daughter.

 

[cieramichele]

Oh my Jesus!

Im sure you'll find a LHCF lady in your area that wouldnt mind nursing her hair back to health.



And thank you so much for your service, we really appreciate you!

 

[lusciouslocks]

Argh!!! I am so heated that this happened to your beautiful little girl. I hate when people don't give children the TLC they need. You've been given great advice in this thread -- I agree with the suggestions to either braid her up, or perhaps set up a regular appointment with a healthy hair stylist. It would be lovely if someone in the LHCF family could provide assistance. I wonder how this triflin' cousin managed to keep this a secret from you while you were away -- did she tell your daughter not to say anything? erplexed

Hopefully this setback can be turned around and made into a positive lesson because it's clear you love your princess very much. Anyway, big hugs to you, and stay safe.

 

[Amber_moon]

OMG! Your poor baby!

Your cousin is STUPID.

 

[Growinpainz]

She need her A$$ whooped!!!

My sentiments exactly!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Aubergold]

OH SWEET JESUS. OH LORD.
My heart just dropped. I am so sorry. I................OH HEAVENS

 

[LondonDiva]

Lawd she even got Allandra angry. Now you KNOW she was wrong.

Ol unfit *****. You should give her an extra strength tbc relaxer mixed with rio and copa and let it sit on for an hour.

I had to scroll back up cause I was like "Did Allandra say bull****?" and re-read it twice.

 

[Aquafina]

This post really made me sad and angry. I'm sry but Cuz is very trifling. I feel like beatin her arse for u and I ain't even the violet type. There were so many other things she could have done, but to put chemicals in ur daughters head without ur consent. Thats so wrong.

 

[JLove74]

Oh my gah..... I can't even get words out. The ladies have pretty much covered how I feel for you and your daughter.

Now......get out ya vaseline, take off your earring, contacts, jewelry, etc,
take this:

you might need it to open this:

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

I feel your pain, I'm practically in tears, I know it must have taken all kinds of restraint not to beat her senseless!!! I definitely would not let her touch my child's hair again. Please try to find someone else to do it when you go away again, hopefully you can find something to nurse that baby's hair back to health before you leave. My heart goes out to you.

 

[mturner0516]

ohhhhh you left the relaxer part out of the story when i heard it............Nothing short of killing her will do in this instance..........I'll talk to you in a few and we'll discuss a plan of action!

 

[Dearlove]

Spiced,

I am so sorry! It's tough enough being overseas to get a job done while leaving your dollbaby in the care of another without having to worry about whether she is being taken care of!!

You know, anytime I kept someone else's kid for any period of time, I made sure the child looked better at pick up than drop off. There is no excuse!!

The fortunate thing is that she is young and her hair will grow back quickly. I agree that you should have it braided or cornrowed monthy with weekly washes. Maybe mom or sis can at least handle having the cornrows done? Don't worry, it will all be OK.

I wish you and DD all the best. God bless!!

 

[la mosca]

I'm sure the ladies with far more hair care experience will chime in with how to handle the damaged hair.

The only thing that I can recommend it showing your daughter in the next week how to take care of her own hair and also making sure that she is comfortable telling the adults around her what to do for her hair. She is only 8 years old and probably reluctant to say no to an adult, but in this instance you can give her permission to tell adults no when it comes to messing up her hair. And also show her what products you want used (or have them delivered to the house).

I am so sorry that this happened to your daughter My friend had this happen to her too - and she is a stylist. Her mother-in-law permed her daughter's hair one weekend without permission. Her baby will be 8 years old in June.

This is a great suggestion. I am really sorry this happened. And thanks so much for your service in Iraq.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

SpicedTee. my jaw dropped and I, too am very saddened and angry about what your cousin did. Looks as though you have a secure, happy child-no matter what foulness was done to her; thank God. Please take up the offer of at least one of the trusted {by you} members here who offered to care for your daughter's hair. Yes, this mess was a deliberate violation to your child; cuz can handle her own child's hair but doing her best to destroy your child's beautiful hair-don't trust her.

 

[NYAmicas]

Im speechless......simply speechless.

But I'm also very angry! Your cousin is a nitwit. I hope any of the advice given can help you regain your daughter's beautiful hair. I know its going to take time and patience which seems to be lacking when you're not around.

 

[jade998]

I am so sorry to see this.

Maybe investigate salons in your area and pay them in advance,explaining your situation so all your cousin has to do is drive her to the appointment and KEEP AWAY FROM HER HAIR.

If you can put her in box braids for now, untill she has grown some inches and then cut it. She doesn't need to keep the perm, I would not be surprised if ur cousin used SUPER - talking about unmanageable. She was plain WRONG!!!!!!!

 

[Songbirdb]

I'm am so sorry this happened to you, I wanna kill her for you. I can't believe she would be this envious and do this to you're child's hair. Her baby wasn't looking like this. Girl, if you need some back up, hit me up cuz I'm ready to hurt that girl for you.