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WOW @Chicoro that story was délicieux! (that means yummy in francais) :)


here is my story from last week....not that my hair is NOT that long, but IRW most people rarely see anyone with hair longer than apl around here. so to them, my hair is uber long. LOL

the security guard at my job is African American. she always comments on my hair and the style etc. even though it is usually in a bun.

last week she told me when she saw me walked up to the office she thought "omg, girlie got on a piece today."....but as i walked in she said aloud "that's YOUR HAIR?!" then she told me the story of how she thought my curly ponytail was a hair piece because it was so long.

that was such a nice compliment because her delivery was so honest. :)
 
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Chicoro said:
Okay...lemme see...ahm...I am in France and was staying in a hostel. A large group of men from a wedding party stayed overnight. They can't speak a lick of English and my French consists of "bonjour". The next morning, I regretfully make eye contact with one of them and smiled because HE was staring at ME. The hair was in a bun. Big mistake here- the smile not the hair style. Direct eye contact and a smile can mean open invitation [for sex]. Anyway, I sit down to look at LHCF on my IPAD and the guy comes over and asks to "see" my IPAD. Finally, after sitting all up on me and tapping the keys like he is a gorilla and us drawing pictures to communicate 'cause he doesn't speak English and I don't speak French, he gets up and leaves. I get up after all the traffic is gone and go and do my hair in the bathroom. The same guy peeks in to the bathroom (these are mixed bathrooms, rooms etc) and comes in and brushes his teeth next to me. I use my Kcutter comb to comb through my pony. My hair is very long so I have to pull it far away from my body in order for me to comb it from top to tip . He STOPS brushing his teeth and turns and stares at me. After being stared at for a good 2 minutes I turn and look like, "Do you mind?" He jumps and apologizes in French and says, "Pardon." He then says, "You are a very beautiful girl" IN PERFECT ENGLISH. It's funny how a man can't conjugate an English verb, but they ALWAYS know how to tell a woman she is beautiful in her language! Then he brings his face close to mine. I had my K-cutter in 'stab' mode. He goes,"In France we kiss." Then he places his cheek next to mine and I turn the other one and then he kisses me with his lips on my other cheek. It happened too fast to stab or argue. When I came out the bathroom everyone was gone. Went to my room to pack up and was sitting on the floor. Here he comes again. When he peeked in he made a sound and gesture like, "There she is!" He came straight over to me, extended his arms and reached for me and lifted me up. He said, "I go. I kiss you."We get a repeat of what happened in the bathroom. And YES, he was FINE. He was tall, blonde and blue-eyed. He was a roofer/construction worker from Switzerland and had a beautiful body, too.
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Oooh this is sooo romantic! I nearly melted reading it! :yep:
 
I went to a party last month and someone was playing with my long ponytail. I was having a conversation with my cousin, next thing you know, someone picks up my hair and starts twirling it like a jump rope. Not a huge story, but that really tickled me. :-)
 
I'm natural and I color my hair. Everytime I straighten my hair everyone who know me assume I relaxed it. My black friends are usually relieved because they want me to stay natural. And everytime I go back to curly my coworkers assume I cut it. I just laugh.
 
In fact one of my coworkers, an older white grandmother type lady, asked me yet again if I cut my hair last time I went from straight back to curly. I told her that my natural hair is curly and it shrinks up to fool people. I said that I have "deceitful" hair because the shrinkage is extreme. She looked at my curly hair and then said: "You have the best of both worlds then!" I thought: "Damn right!"
 
caribeandiva said:
In fact one of my coworkers, an older white grandmother type lady, asked me yet again if I cut my hair last time I went from straight back to curly. I told her that my natural hair is curly and it shrinks up to fool people. I said that I have "deceitful" hair because the shrinkage is extreme. She looked at my curly hair and then said: "You have the best of both worlds then!" I thought: "Damn right!"
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Darn skippy!!!! Thanks for sharing
 
Reason #2569755 to grow your hair long: being able to throw your hair in a barely moisturized, un-combed, rat's nest of a ponytail and still get compliments. Hey, I was in a rush this morning. :look:


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ilong said:
OK - so my goal is BSL and I already have a big "coming out " celebration in mind. But I think I just added somethng to the celebration.

I rollerskate and so do 2 ex SO's who have each seen my hair once. So I think I will show them how I roll :look: in 2014 with BSL hair. One of my favorite skates is "skating backwards - couples":spinning: - (you kno' where the ladies lay there heads back on the men's shoulders and just take a ride). :angel: Of course I plan on skating backwards with each of them - with hair hanging down. It would be selfish of me not to let the gentlemen get a whiff of the long haired brown shuga' :lick: - dontcha' think?:lol:

inspired by @sunnieb "hair flip ritual" :grin:
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:yay: I may have to change my goal from BSL to MBl :grin: if growth continues at this rate. :woot:
I just took out my 11 week weave and it appears I am not too far from BSL. My big "coming out" celebration is in 2014 (Lord able) - soooo I have time to grown some more "long pretty hair: for the gentlemen's pleasure. :lachen: dontcha' think? :yep:
 
ilong said:
:yay: I may have to change my goal from BSL to MBl :grin: if growth continues at this rate. :woot:
I just took out my 11 week weave and it appears I am not too far from BSL. My big "coming out" celebration is in 2014 (Lord able) - soooo I have time to grown some more "long pretty hair: for the gentlemen's pleasure. :lachen: dontcha' think? :yep:
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you kept a weave in for 11 weeks?! :blush:

I'm about to get one for the winter (bobraz). What kinda hair/reggie did you use? i'd love to keep mine in for 9 weeks and need tips on keeping the hair (and scalp) underneath healthy.
 
i was washing my hair the other day and realized i can braid my hair over my shoulder now instead of reaching behind my head. my wet hair reaches past my armpit so i can throw my hair over my shoulder and braid it to bun it up.....

i still can't believe my hair is long enough to do that.

at my mother's house there is an old picture of my great gran when she was just married....she had this long ponytail that hung over her shoulder....when i was a little girl i used to dream my hair would be that long to braid and hang over my shoulder. i'm almost there. so close i can taste it. :lick:
 
It just hit me how much my hair grew yesterday. I've already noticed when I wash it I I can feel it on my back, but yesterday is the first time I ever slapped myself in the face with my ponytail while turning my head.

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It just hit me how much my hair grew yesterday. I've already noticed when I wash it I I can feel it on my back, but yesterday is the first time I ever slapped myself in the face with my ponytail while turning my head.

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:lol: I can relate! I keep forgetting my hair isnt short and that i HAVE to put it in a ponytail just to eat!! Getting a mouth full of hair and cheeseburger is NOT the business.

Guess my hair has a thing for cheeseburgers:look:
 
Hi all!
Okay I just recently subscribed to LHCF after lurking for a few years and I always thought to myself that when I did subscribe my first post would have to be in this thread! lol You ladies can not imagine how much time I spent reading and re-reading posts, feeding off your delicious stories and just living vicariously through you :) It was a great source of inspiration.

Unfortunately I have no great stories to share (yet!!) But I remember being around shoulder length when this thread started and now I'm closing in on bsl!! To me who has never had hair past my shoulders, it is amazing! Can't wait to flatiron it in december to show off my length to all my naysayers!!:grin:
 
Thanks so much for making this thread, @exoticmommie. I think this thread was the one that first made me want to start posting. :grin:

Okay so even though my hair isn't long to me yet, I do have some mini stories to tell - nothing major or at least that I can remember. I will say I still do get the same compliments but it was more frequent before when it was MBL/WL. (These stories are from when I was growing my hair out, to when it was its longest at MBL/WL to now, BSB.)

EDIT: I really love this thread, I find it so positive! I guess that's the point of the title, so that those trying to reach their goals don't give up. If I remember more stuff or have encounters in the future, I'll come back to post.
Mini story #1: Back in high school I was starting to grow my hair out, one of my Korean friends was like "Wow Aireen, your hair looks longer, it's really growing so fast!" I felt really good about that because to me Asian hair seems to grow like 1 inch/month from what I've noticed from my friends. Plus she said it so genuinely, like she was trying to give me a sweet compliment. :love3:

Mini story #2: I have a friend, she's always in some type of braids. Her real hair underneath is rather damaged. She'll drop compliments and sometimes throw jabs lol. :lol: She'll ask me what I do to get my hair long and all that. (Seriously, my mum and I are the worst people to ask because we don't do that much. Really, all I had to do get my hair longer was to start washing it more and using good conditioner. My mum... well... she's worse than me, she's always had long hair.) So I tell her to just take care of it by washing and conditioning frequently but I don't think she's taking me seriously. Also, she's the type to kind of mooch so she asked me for some conditioner and I didn't mind since I have tons. I gave this girl a half-way used GOOD conditioner that I KNOW works and well... I don't know, her hair still is a mess. I mean, it's not like I gave her a full bottle of something I'm trying from the aisle that "we're not supposed to be in", I gave her some ORS Hair Mayo that I will always love because that stuff is amazing. Anyway, she's nice but I know she feels some type of way about my hair. She'll say things like "Oh wow your hair so nice, soft, and long! I wish mine was like yours!" Then turn around when I have a fresh relaxer and say "Oh your hair looks so skimpy now!" <- LOOOL WHAT?! (I have fine but dense strands so 'skimpy' is her way of saying my hair looks thinner.) She ALWAYS notices something about my hair so... I dunno... not saying she's jealous but I know she feels some kind of way about black girls with long hair. We were at a friend's house and she needed to describe me to our friend's younger brother and his peeps and she says "The black girl with long hair." :lachen:Seriously, she cracks me up.

Mini story #3: I went to a party last weekend and two people (white guy and Mexican girl) there were caressing my hair. I felt kind of weird about it because my hair NEEDED a wash. It felt rough (to me) and I wasn't in the mood for them to be all Discovery Channel about my hair. :giggle: Although, I was pleasantly surprised because one of them said I have really pretty hair. :grin:

Mini story #4: I was in the elevator a couple of weeks ago. I did a hair flip and a friendly Persian lady comments about me having nice hair.

Mini story #5: In class one day, I stated my background in a discussion so this other girl randomly says "Whoa you're from Trinidad? I thought you were from Ethiopia!" I reply with a no and a :look::nono:. Now it wasn't really shocking because I'm black, I can be from anywhere and I've gotten Ethiopia and Somalia before. I asked her why and she replies with "Oh because your hair is so long and thick." The professor nods and says yes in agreement, it seemed like she thought I was from there as well. Now, I'm not really all excited about people confusing where I'm from because it's a pride thing when people are able to guess I'm from Trinidad but the reasoning was nice. :grin:

Mini story # 6: My mum and I notice that when our stylist is done doing our hair she kind of basks in the glory of how it looks. Kind of like "Yeah... those are my clients. See their hair? Yeah... I'm helping maintain it." She's not a show off and she's rather reserved but still pleasant, I guess it's the little gestures she does. The owner has even come up to me to stroke my hair as well as other stylists. :blush: Last time we went, my mum and I had all the employees STARING at our hair. With me they were ooh-ing and ahh-ing but with her their jaws were on the floor. Makes sense, mine is growing back out and is BSB and she's working towards HL so she'd get the majority of the attention. Multi-racial salon, they do all types of hair but raised their price so it's super expensive now.

Whoa! I remembered more than I thought I would! Anyway, point is, people of other races - from my experience - DO notice when black girls have long hair and it's a big deal for them too! (If you read up to this point, thanks! I stated all the backgrounds of the people in my stories to make a point.) Universally, it signifies beauty and femininity. Healthy, long hair is really eye catching, especially when it's being flipped or blown in the wind. Hair in general can create hostility but for me, I've noticed more negativity from keeping my hair short than long.
 
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I have had some hair setbacks and I am trying to regain the thickness and length that I have in my siggy from 2 years ago. I love long hair and its feminity.. I want to reach past mid-back length so badly but I am at apl..... Back to my bunning routine and I am going to correct my protein/moisture balance.
 
I have a story! And maybe a soon to be story haha :)

My good friend never believed that "black" hair could grow. She thinks black people just don't have the kind of hair that grows past your back. I've tried to reach out to her about hair care but she's been giving me the side eye since day one. Moreso when I stopped relaxing my hair.

Fast forward two years later, she can't help pulling on my mini-twist to marvel at my shrinkage or ohh and ahh over my twisouts (when they don't look horrible) but now she says stuff like "but you've always had long hair!"

Wait. What?

We grew up together! She knows it ain't so. My hair was never past shoulder length natural or neck length relaxed. Anyways.

So last week she mentionned she was cutting her hair and starting from scratch. I told maybe this time she could aim to have hair down her back and she repeated again how black people just can't grow their hair. At this point I almost jumped her throat lol.

I told her I've been proving her wrong for the past two years by growing out mine and NO it was never this long or healthy when I was a child. She calmed down stat lol.

She pulled a strand of my hair which was in a streched twistout and was surprised when she saw it reach a little past my armpit. She then told me that if what I said was true, then I could still make it grow even longer. Therefore she will grow out her hair when mine reaches below my bra strap, which is basically mbl on me aka my goal length.

I'm getting there slowly but surely and I can't wait to show her!!
 

i tried telling à friend of mine black hair can be long healthy and ill make it.
her answer: long,yes but fake cause its à weave.
i was pissed! told her you shut up,wait and see. its just that many dont know hair care but we all could have that long beautiful hair.
so... i rarely flat iron my natural hair. last month i did it.
my hair was bouncing with shine and bsb lenth....
that same friend.said: you look so good and i love the hair. is it à weave?
BINGO LADIES! i said no its all mine,what did i tell ya...i havent finished growing it. wait and see. (its longer than hers although she doesnt mind her length ) but im happy. she was surprised and stopped saying only weaves gives us long hair...
 
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i had a few aha long hair moments lately.

1. i had to go buy those super large clips and scrunchies that i used to always see in stores and think "who is that for??? why do they need to be that big?!" :blush:

i FINALLY know what all those extra large hair accessories are for in Ulta. best part --- i genuinely had no idea whose hair needed all that. but when my scrunchies and clips refused to hold my hair anymore i realized why. and my hair is thin, so i can imagine the apparatus that ladies with thick hair like mwedzi need. good lawd! :yep:

2. i also used to wonder why this lady at my old job who always had long hair used two scrunchies to hold her ponytail. i used to think "all that ain't necessary" :sekret:...now i know it's from the weight of the hair!

i FINALLY have to use TWO SCRUNCHIES to hold MY ponytail! that bad boy, she is thick and heavy now compared to my relaxed shoulder length ponytail. i am soooooooooooo happy with my length. i never thought my hair could bring me so much joy.:bdance:
 
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i would like to have a nice story by the end of this year! i am closing in on BSL, but i still feel like a bald chicken. i think it will take me getting to MBL or WL to really have a good story. i do want my story to be something like, me and my man going out, and i have on a hot dress with my hair down to my WL. i would love to see the reaction he gives me, as well as others. i know it might sound vain, but i am vain! :lol: what woman doesn't like to be showed off and treated like arm candy at times?
 
My best friend and I were hanging out with our next door neighbor last night and washing and dcing our hair to prep for weaves. This man laid into us for not wearing our natural hair. I'm bslish and my bff is sl. He proceeded to tell us that most black woman don't have long hair and we should wear ours with pride. Then he told my best friend she was a natural beauty and I had hair most black women would kill for. :reddancer: I'm still putting in my weave for protective styling purposes and so is she but it still felt kinda special.
 
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