LoVeMYLIfe
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Hello all,
I am mostly a lurker on all the boards here, but from time to time I will participate in some of the posts. This has been one board that I have never posted in, but I just have to get some advice on what has just hit me like a ton of bricks.
I have had a ongoing battle with my DH about well, EVERYTHING for the past few years. I would find myself complaining to him about things not being the way that they were when we first meet, even right after marriage. To make a long story a little shorter, I finally had enough of the stress, and packed our three kids up and left, that was about 2 years ago. I just did not understand his I don't give a damn attitude that he walks around with when it came to our oldest son not doing well in school, many financial problems (that would not have been problems had he did what he was supposed to do) on top of many other things.
We were separated for a few months before, yes, I let him come back to his family, of course he said the things that I wanted to hear, and did the things that he was supposed to do. Unfortunately, that lasted a hot minute and we fell right back in the same boat.
Now, I know that my husband has been a long time sufferer of anxiety/depression and has been on antideppresants for a long time, but I NEVER, not once suspected these meds to play a part in what we were going thorugh until the other day. My husband has been having a hard time getting a refill on his meds, without going in to see his doctor first, so he has been without them for a little over a 2 weeks now. It is like he has done a 360 degree turnaround as far as his attitude towards everything. He actually talked to me for hours about our problems and what needs to be done to change them and move forward with his family for the first time in what seems like forever. For some reason while we were talking I thought about the meds, and the way he has been while taking them and said to myself this may be exactly what has caused my DH to react the way that he has to our situations for soooo long. I have been reading online about different side effects that those on the meds can experience, and after having read what some were going through I know in my heart that the meds played a big part in our struggle.
The only thing that I am struggling with now is getting him to see it this way, and to not have his prescription refilled. I know it is easy for me to say this, because I am not a depression sufferer, and never had to take a antidepresant in my life, but I am asking those who have dealt with this, or knows someone who has to share what their experiences have been.
Whew... if you got this far, thanks for reading, I feel comfortable sharing things here with you ladies, seems to take a load off
I am mostly a lurker on all the boards here, but from time to time I will participate in some of the posts. This has been one board that I have never posted in, but I just have to get some advice on what has just hit me like a ton of bricks.
I have had a ongoing battle with my DH about well, EVERYTHING for the past few years. I would find myself complaining to him about things not being the way that they were when we first meet, even right after marriage. To make a long story a little shorter, I finally had enough of the stress, and packed our three kids up and left, that was about 2 years ago. I just did not understand his I don't give a damn attitude that he walks around with when it came to our oldest son not doing well in school, many financial problems (that would not have been problems had he did what he was supposed to do) on top of many other things.
We were separated for a few months before, yes, I let him come back to his family, of course he said the things that I wanted to hear, and did the things that he was supposed to do. Unfortunately, that lasted a hot minute and we fell right back in the same boat.
Now, I know that my husband has been a long time sufferer of anxiety/depression and has been on antideppresants for a long time, but I NEVER, not once suspected these meds to play a part in what we were going thorugh until the other day. My husband has been having a hard time getting a refill on his meds, without going in to see his doctor first, so he has been without them for a little over a 2 weeks now. It is like he has done a 360 degree turnaround as far as his attitude towards everything. He actually talked to me for hours about our problems and what needs to be done to change them and move forward with his family for the first time in what seems like forever. For some reason while we were talking I thought about the meds, and the way he has been while taking them and said to myself this may be exactly what has caused my DH to react the way that he has to our situations for soooo long. I have been reading online about different side effects that those on the meds can experience, and after having read what some were going through I know in my heart that the meds played a big part in our struggle.
The only thing that I am struggling with now is getting him to see it this way, and to not have his prescription refilled. I know it is easy for me to say this, because I am not a depression sufferer, and never had to take a antidepresant in my life, but I am asking those who have dealt with this, or knows someone who has to share what their experiences have been.
Whew... if you got this far, thanks for reading, I feel comfortable sharing things here with you ladies, seems to take a load off