Shinka
Well-Known Member
When is the best time to live together? How long did/ have you live with your DH/SO? Did you eventually marry?
I ask these questions because my boyfriend and I are like a true match made in heaven. He wants me to move in with him when my travels/training for my job is over in 2-3 months. I'm moving to his area. I would actually love to move with him and he constantly brings up marriage topics (i.e. Where would you want to get married, How would you decorate OUR House? Would you like it if i called you Mrs. His last name etc...)
I never initiate such talk, and gracefully shy away from the subject. I'm really not the eager about marriage, not that I don't want it, but I don't want to come off as disperate and play into his questions. Who knows his motives in asking these things.
Anyway...I would love to live with him, but I also have this belief in not playing house. I believe living together is a serious committment and should happen between fiances and married folks for many reasons. I told him that and he understands it and says whenever I feel comfortable basically his door is open.
Although this is my belief, I really would love to wake up next to time everyday. So do I stick to my guns or become his roommate?
BTW, I'm 23 and he's 29. We both have been married before ( he's divorced, and I'm in the process after 1 1/2 separation). He has 3 kids, none who lives with him at this time, although he planning to have 2 of his move in shortly. He's has only ever lived with his x-wife, and one girlfriend ( he moved her in due some financial issues she had and lost her place. so he felt bad and helped her out)
Opinions are welcomed
I ask these questions because my boyfriend and I are like a true match made in heaven. He wants me to move in with him when my travels/training for my job is over in 2-3 months. I'm moving to his area. I would actually love to move with him and he constantly brings up marriage topics (i.e. Where would you want to get married, How would you decorate OUR House? Would you like it if i called you Mrs. His last name etc...)
I never initiate such talk, and gracefully shy away from the subject. I'm really not the eager about marriage, not that I don't want it, but I don't want to come off as disperate and play into his questions. Who knows his motives in asking these things.
Anyway...I would love to live with him, but I also have this belief in not playing house. I believe living together is a serious committment and should happen between fiances and married folks for many reasons. I told him that and he understands it and says whenever I feel comfortable basically his door is open.
Although this is my belief, I really would love to wake up next to time everyday. So do I stick to my guns or become his roommate?
BTW, I'm 23 and he's 29. We both have been married before ( he's divorced, and I'm in the process after 1 1/2 separation). He has 3 kids, none who lives with him at this time, although he planning to have 2 of his move in shortly. He's has only ever lived with his x-wife, and one girlfriend ( he moved her in due some financial issues she had and lost her place. so he felt bad and helped her out)
Opinions are welcomed