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when i used to press my hair i think soem of it got burned off and now the side is thin. still trying to get to shoulder length........
 
My BIGGEST setback was not properly neutralizing my last three relaxers, prior to my last one. I should be BSL by now, but my hair has been dry, tangled, and breaking. I was doing two quick shampoos with the neutralizer, but that wasn't enough. I couldn't figure out why my hair felt like brillo. As a result, I'm basically at the same length I was at last year. :mad:

I have learned my lesson::whip: NEUTRALIZING IS SERIOUS BUSINESS! The last time I relaxed, I neutralized for approx 25 minutes, and I've never had a better relaxer experience. Now, I'm on a serious mission to retain all the inches I can grow.
 
My main setback this year was over manipulating my hair with washing it too much and using too many products on my hair. I now know my hair can handle being washed every two weeks and my hair likes oils and serums better than heavy leave ins and moisturizers. I've finally learned to listen to my hair and not try to make it do something that it cannot and will not do.
 
constant trimming (trimming off knots)
co washing to much + after a certain length my hair is really soft and super coily so its the formula for knots and breakage for me
over manipulation
over conditioning
letting my hair shrink if it been streched out it shrinks into coil=knots
using protein in my hair at all (my hair can only take very small amounts)

oh yeah and when ever my hair gets past a certain length I feel the need to cut it
 
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This thread makes me feel better. While stretching my relaxer, my hair got matted with shed hair and part of my nape broke off. :mad:

Since then, I've discovered washing my hair in braids and detangling in sections has been a God send. :angel:
 
ok - I'm a at a set back as well and I'm so angry I had to step away from the board for a minute.

My hair is officially in the shedding phase and bad off my hair is already thin and fine but now it's thinner. So any legth I gained looks like nothing. On top of that I do have some breakage from switching from lye to no lye - but not a lot, but because of it I had to cut 3 inches off my front into bangs!!!! ok cool. the back, the ends were soo bad I had to trim off 1/2 inch. I immediately saw less breakage afer that but it's still shedding and I'm fed up with my hair.

I am now back to my wigs for protective styling.
 
My biggest setback was when I would regularly go to the salon a couple years ago and the stylist would always trim my ends (she always cut off at least an inch). One time I came home crying because she'd cut off so much growth. After that, I decided NO MORE. When I went to the salon this time at the end of September, I adamantly refused to let the stylist cut off any of my hair and my hair is still growing and I'm much happier. So yeah, I haven't had my ends trimmed in about two years and my hair has grown like crazy.
 
I think my biggest set back was doing way too much to my hair in short periods of time. Braids, relaxers, bleaching the works.

Right now I'm terrified to use any heat on my hair and that's kind of a set back for me because I know that low heat/sparse use isn't going to screw up my hair forever but it seems like it.

And shedding.

I shed a lot. I mean A LOT but my hair is insanely thick. I finally realized that it's a balance. As much as I shed there is still growth.

I think most of my setbacks have been more in my head than on it if that makes any sense. My confidence that I am doing well with my hair waxes and wanes.
 
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