Trimming Setbacks.... How do you Deal? (vent)

[Ediese]

Just know that setbacks are setups for comebacks

I like that...very positive thinking!

 

[Sirens_Song]

Hi amara,

Like another poster said I NEVER let a stylist put a scissor to my hair. I do my own trimming (which admittedly has been very aggressive as of late) but at least YOU control what is going on with your hair,

I go to the Dominicans for my relaxers and I simply never let them cut regardless of what they say. I've watched them cut others and they just cut too much. Point blank, end of story.

Positive for you: At least you are starting with VERY healthy ends. Baby them and your hair will look better than before the cut when it grows out.

 

[Kneechay]

This sounds good! Do you know what kind of hair she used?

im unsure, but Ill ask her tomorrow and get back to you. It looked great.

 

[lilsparkle825]

the last trim i had was my BC in june, so i can't relate to that per se, but i have been toying with the idea of a sew-in. bohyme brazilian is what i would get if i were going for a natural-looking sew-in. check here:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=265363&highlight=bohyme+brazilian
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=251397&highlight=bohyme+brazilian (this one is by Ediese, go figure, lol...her hair always seems to be on point)

HTH

 

[amara11]

I'm sorry you went through this. I went through the same thing a couple of weeks ago when I got my stylist to relax my hair. I did NOT ask for a trim or anything...she just went ahead and do it. Any other time she would ask but she did it. She literally complimented me on my lenght and trim my ends. I looked like what I did before the relaxer. I am trying not to be as upset, but I do know that when I return in December for my next touch-up, I'll let her know what I DONT want. You'll be okay. Just know that setbacks are setups for comebacks

LOVES it! Awesome.

im unsure, but Ill ask her tomorrow and get back to you. It looked great.

Thanks, I have sooooo many questions for you (I just stalked your fotki) but I'll ask later- it's late, I need to high-tail it to bed.

 

[Chevelure618]

I'm available for micro or megadustings. I'm great with hair. I live in Westchester County, New York. PM me.

We've all been there....I understand.

 

[The Princess]

Oh Im sorry to hear that. Well at least now you know you won't have to get a trim or cut for awhile. It just sucks that your hair was past APL. But don't stress cause it will show in your hair.

 

[Ediese]

the last trim i had was my BC in june, so i can't relate to that per se, but i have been toying with the idea of a sew-in. bohyme brazilian is what i would get if i were going for a natural-looking sew-in. check here:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=265363&highlight=bohyme+brazilian
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=251397&highlight=bohyme+brazilian (this one is by Ediese, go figure, lol...her hair always seems to be on point)

HTH

Thanks girl! I'm about to get this done in December too. I've had long, short, so now I want some curly!

 

[Misseyl]

Sorry this had to happen to you Amara11... I am thinking of getting bangs and was planning on having a stylist cut it for me but now that I'm reading your story, I think I'll do it myself..All your progress down the drain, something that took you months to grow.. I hate those people and that's why I take care of my own hair.. I don't go to them for anyting -- touchups/cutting and stuff because you go in with hair and they do they best to take it off.

 

[gabulldawg]

On my last touch-up I actually gave my stylist permission to give a heavy trim on my hair, since I had a bit of breakage and unevenness on the front. It was the BEST thing I could've done for my hair. I still actually managed to make it to APL by the end of the year (with some time to spare, just in case ) even after the cut. So I think in the grand scheme of things it can be very helpful for your hair, and may not set you back that much. I would just recommend aggressive protective styling and backing off of the heat (if you use it).

 

[Misseyl]

On my last touch-up I actually gave my stylist permission to give a heavy trim on my hair, since I had a bit of breakage and unevenness on the front. It was the BEST thing I could've done for my hair. I still actually managed to make it to APL by the end of the year (with some time to spare, just in case ) even after the cut. So I think in the grand scheme of things it can be very helpful for your hair, and may not set you back that much. I would just recommend aggressive protective styling and backing off of the heat (if you use it).

I feel you.. I did the same thing yesterday.. Saturday, I gave myself a touchup then on Sunday I proceeded to cut/even up my hair.. I love the results.. I even things up and cut myself a bang.. Now I have a style and when the wind blows my hair falls into place... I thought about it a lot before I did it and I didn't want to part with any of my hair because it takes so long to grow, but after yesterday's trim, my hair look and feel like a new entity.. Glad I took the step..