Guitarhero
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How and why or why not? Any middle ground? My thoughts are haven't many women already made men feel like they're in control and manly (albeit, sexual prowess is mostly on the mind)? Perhaps a little backwards, though. Because so many men are in control of womens' wombs and lives. But if they feel like the "big man," why don't they put a ring to it (ideally, first) and stick around to raise their children, even those who've married? There are good men and there are bad men. Is being in charge and delegating responsibility to them truly the issue? Partially the issue?
If he's stable and confident, he won't have a crisis when she is capable of making a decision on something faster and better than he can. If he wishes to race her in making that decision and take control of the issue, then he needs to play the part and be smart, thinking it through to come to the best decisions and present it. Just letting a man control a situation that could adversely affect the family and or future isn't truly "letting him be a man," in that case, it's letting him be an idiot. Example? Soul Food. Remember when the grandmother's husband gambled away their money and she had to take on several jobs to make mortgage and other ends meet but silently, with no complaints? Her advice to her grandchild was to allow a man to be a man, no matter what. It was him who ultimately reached the decision to suffer his family.
Isn't that bad advice, tho? They have got to be quick to think and if she's quicker and smarter, he shouldn't complain if she's not willing to suffer through poor choices simply because he needs his ego stroked. Being a smart wife is not necessarily being one who has to live with his stupid choices and all the resulting difficulties. Female empowerment isn't about cruel domination.
Both men and women need to empower themselves - not giving up too much and not controlling too much but working together towards unity. If either party feels unappreciated, s/he should definitely look within to make sure the cause is not self due to a lack of personal development. Men and women complement each other naturally in nature but their gender traits and roles shouldn't prevent either one from assuming responsibility. Let the bigger "man" step forward in any given situation and if the other feels the lesser, let "him" develop himself and step it up. But we all know that, ultimately, it's going to be women who will often have to defer to a man's fragile ego to make peace when he could equally swallow his false pride. Peace has come to mean defeat.
erplexed. And why so? She'll be accused of driving him away but would he be ever accused of the same? Happy median other than equal respect? Manipulation?
What say you? Any wise words and thoughts on the subject?
If he's stable and confident, he won't have a crisis when she is capable of making a decision on something faster and better than he can. If he wishes to race her in making that decision and take control of the issue, then he needs to play the part and be smart, thinking it through to come to the best decisions and present it. Just letting a man control a situation that could adversely affect the family and or future isn't truly "letting him be a man," in that case, it's letting him be an idiot. Example? Soul Food. Remember when the grandmother's husband gambled away their money and she had to take on several jobs to make mortgage and other ends meet but silently, with no complaints? Her advice to her grandchild was to allow a man to be a man, no matter what. It was him who ultimately reached the decision to suffer his family.
Isn't that bad advice, tho? They have got to be quick to think and if she's quicker and smarter, he shouldn't complain if she's not willing to suffer through poor choices simply because he needs his ego stroked. Being a smart wife is not necessarily being one who has to live with his stupid choices and all the resulting difficulties. Female empowerment isn't about cruel domination.
Both men and women need to empower themselves - not giving up too much and not controlling too much but working together towards unity. If either party feels unappreciated, s/he should definitely look within to make sure the cause is not self due to a lack of personal development. Men and women complement each other naturally in nature but their gender traits and roles shouldn't prevent either one from assuming responsibility. Let the bigger "man" step forward in any given situation and if the other feels the lesser, let "him" develop himself and step it up. But we all know that, ultimately, it's going to be women who will often have to defer to a man's fragile ego to make peace when he could equally swallow his false pride. Peace has come to mean defeat.
What say you? Any wise words and thoughts on the subject?