pattyr5
Well-Known Member
I wanted to know how other ladies feel about helping an ex out with money. Someone I used to date went through some hard times and was out of work for a couple of months. Although he is back at work he has fallen behind on bills and is having trouble catching up. When we were dating, I used to look out for him, putting gas in the car, buying groceries, taking him out to eat and a couple of times I gave him some money. Though I never expected him to pay me back, he never made any attempt to do so am I'm okay with that.
Anyway, a few days ago this ex calls me and is sweet and friendly. We stopped seeing eachother about a month and a half ago without any real explanation. After something like a two hour conversation about nothing in particular, I said I had to go and didn't mention anything about us talking again. The following day he sends a text saying it was so good talking to me and that he missed me. I replied to that message, however I didn't say I missed him too even though I do. Two seconds later he sends me another text about how he is going to have to call up some creditors to see about making payment arrangements because he was behind on bills. All I said was good luck. That was the last text I got from him that day (yesterday) and he didn't call me last night. This morning he texted "Good Morning How Are You" and a few other things. Nothing mentioning his problems.
So my question is...what do you all think???...was this a setup for me to jump in and help him out again??...or did he already backhandedly ask by his telling me whats going on?? Or is there something deeper going on that I just don't get??
Anyway, a few days ago this ex calls me and is sweet and friendly. We stopped seeing eachother about a month and a half ago without any real explanation. After something like a two hour conversation about nothing in particular, I said I had to go and didn't mention anything about us talking again. The following day he sends a text saying it was so good talking to me and that he missed me. I replied to that message, however I didn't say I missed him too even though I do. Two seconds later he sends me another text about how he is going to have to call up some creditors to see about making payment arrangements because he was behind on bills. All I said was good luck. That was the last text I got from him that day (yesterday) and he didn't call me last night. This morning he texted "Good Morning How Are You" and a few other things. Nothing mentioning his problems.
So my question is...what do you all think???...was this a setup for me to jump in and help him out again??...or did he already backhandedly ask by his telling me whats going on?? Or is there something deeper going on that I just don't get??