Ladies who married primarily for reasons other than love . . .

[Glib Gurl]

. . . did/does your DH know this? If so, how does he feel about it?

(Yes, Dlewis, I'm looking for you to respond )

 

[dlewis]

Yes, he knows it. Keep in mind I did love my husband but like I've said before (well, you already know so I won't go into that). I believe he looks at the whole picture. Yes, I might not have (whatever people expected) but he believes I'm a great wife, friend, supporter, mother....and our relationship has grown to the point that we are both very satisfied and happy.

We had a conversation recently about this and I know he would have loved if it were different but he's happy with what we have, our life together.

Life is different for everyone and we have to make the best of it. I made a choice I thought was right for me and my son.

 

[Glib Gurl]

Yes, he knows it. Keep in mind I did love my husband but like I've said before (well, you already know so I won't go into that). I believe he looks at the whole picture. Yes, I might not have (whatever people expected) but he believes I'm a great wife, friend, supporter, mother....and our relationship has grown to the point that we are both very satisfied and happy.

We had a conversation recently about this and I know he would have loved if it were different but he's happy with what we have, our life together.

Life is different for everyone and we have to make the best of it. I made a choice I thought was right for me and my son.

Thanks for responding so quickly! I'm actually reading a book (recommended by Bunny)that talks about looking at marriage from a different perspective . . . one where you're not expecting the person to be "The One" and fill all of your hopes and desires, but where you are compatible and can build a life together. Sounds like you got it right

Have I told you today that you're my hero?

 

[dlewis]

Thanks GG.

I'm very happy now. He is too.

 

[Almaz]

Exactly Love is fleeting at best. I love my husband dearly always will You have to look at the whole picture. We've accomplished everything that we wanted in life but it took work on both parts and lots of communication. Yeah he could have married so and so and I could have married so and so also. Sometimes in a long marriage you don't always love each other everyday. And sometimes it can be kind of crazy but in the end we do love each other and we both made the right decision to be together with all the obstacles in our way

 

[Ms Red]

Glib, what is the name/author of the book, if you don't mind?

 

[dlewis]

Almaz is right. I've been able to talk to my husband about most things. He's been able to talk with me about most things. Recently he shared with me something that kinda hurt my feelings but I felt thankful and blessed that he felt comfortable enough with me to share that. I didn't tell him it hurt my feelings because at that time it was about him and what he was going through.

 

[inthepink]

Well, now I want to do know dlewis' story and the name of this book! Do tell, girls!

 

[Glib Gurl]

Glib, what is the name/author of the book, if you don't mind?

First Comes Marriage