Ladies, I have a lunch date tomorrow and I's scared! HELP!!

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Je Ne Sais Quoi

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Ladies, I am meeting my internet hookup tomorrow for lunch and I'm extremely nervous. I am truthfully having self doubts about my looks :perplexed and I'm not the thinnest chick (though I've been exercising for a few months I need to lose 20-25lbs) and this is making me nervous. Also, I don't know what the heck to talk about!!! I haven't been out on a date in over 6 or 7 years and feel so out of my element.

Ladies, please help me!
 
I'm assuming that your date has seen pics of you already right? So what reason is there to have doubts about your looks? He must already be attracted if ya'll are going on a date! :grin: I rarely go on dates so I don't have much advice. I dunno if you drink or not, but in the past it has helped me to have a glass of wine or something to ease my nerves before going out. :look: Anyway, good luck! I'm sure everything will be fine and you will have a good time! :yep: Just be yourself and let the conversation flow naturally.
 
SeatownSista said:
I'm assuming that your date has seen pics of you already right? So what reason is there to have doubts about your looks? He must already be attracted if ya'll are going on a date! :grin: I rarely go on dates so I don't have much advice. I dunno if you drink or not, but in the past it has helped me to have a glass of wine or something to ease my nerves before going out. :look: Anyway, good luck! I'm sure everything will be fine and you will have a good time! :yep: Just be yourself and let the conversation flow naturally.
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Yes, he's seen face shots but not really body ones because I didn't have any available (no one to take them) and again my body is not quite on point :lachen: I wish I could have a glass of wine but I can't because I will be going on my lunch break then heading back to the office.

Thanks for the well wishes:)
 
JUst go and try to have fun,look your best and whatever is going to happen will happen :) Check in and let us know how it went!
 
Have fun; treat him like you interviewing him for a cool summer job. I don't know. I don't have any advice; I am married, but I think that it should be cool and casual. Look your best, smell good, and don't ask him questions about things are not really important at this time: marriage, kids, any other areas that you are aware of that might be an issue for you or him. Bring up something stupid or silly that you all did online. I am silly and goofy that is what I would do.
 
I have advice....chill out!!! You are beautiful. God made you that way and if you know who you are in Him, you know you have no reason to be nervous. I don't do net hook ups but I say just relax and do you. I mean, it's not like you ever have to see this guy again if you don't want to lol. At least you dont work together or something. He might not even be good enough for YOU. Wear your fav outfit, be yourself and don't take it so seriously...duh! You're great :)
 
Only one of two things are gonna happen...he's either gonna be feelin you or he is not....the only thing at this point you can possibly change overnight is your outlook on yourself, this is me, this is what Im workin with gotta love it or leave it...

put on an outfit you feel flatters your body, do whatever else you may want to do to enhance and ... it can be unnerving to date especially when you haven't done it in so long but lunch dates can be very casual, so keep it casual and friendly....don't go in with any expectations and especially don't keep it in ur head that he may not like you for whatever reason.....shoot you may not like him in person......just go with the flow
 
Mrs.Pretty08 said:
Have fun; treat him like you interviewing him for a cool summer job. I don't know. I don't have any advice; I am married, but I think that it should be cool and casual. Look your best, smell good, and don't ask him questions about things are not really important at this time: marriage, kids, any other areas that you are aware of that might be an issue for you or him. Bring up something stupid or silly that you all did online. I am silly and goofy that is what I would do.
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This is great advice!

Go for it Fabulosity and live up to your name. Remember, he's probably as nervous as you are... just go and have fun and be that same personality that attracted him to you on line.

Congrats! :D
 
Good luck and loosen up Fab. If he doesn't like your body then he isn't the man for you. I dont know about that treat it like a interview advice. I wish a kneegrow would try to interview me when out on a date. LOL I'd knee him in the groin! Just remember not to wear that desperation perfume so many women wear today and everything will be alright.
 
firecracker said:
Good luck and loosen up Fab. If he doesn't like your body then he isn't the man for you. I dont know about that treat it like a interview advice. I wish a kneegrow would try to interview me when out on a date. LOL I'd knee him in the groin! Just remember not to wear that desperation perfume so many women wear today and everything will be alright.
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Right on! The right man for you will like you however you are at the moment y'all meet. To paraphrase someone else, he won't be able to see past you. So just know that, and have fun.
 
Awww shucks!!! Girl, have your fun and BE,BE, BE yourself. Keep in mind that you are a cool lady that is out having fun, while further getting to know your internet friend.

Let's see, talk about general things only, you are not about to marry this guy so no need for the interview. This will only make him run for the border. Take it slow and get to know each other on a general/friendship level first.
 
Girl, hush!

You changed your SN to what it is for a reason. You'll be fine.

Just don't make that face you were making in that pic where your hair reverted, LOL.
 
If you posted a recent picture of yourself or gave and/or accurate description, then there shouldn't be a problem. Don't worry.


Fabulousity said:
Ladies, I am meeting my internet hookup tomorrow for lunch and I'm extremely nervous. I am truthfully having self doubts about my looks :perplexed and I'm not the thinnest chick (though I've been exercising for a few months I need to lose 20-25lbs) and this is making me nervous. Also, I don't know what the heck to talk about!!! I haven't been out on a date in over 6 or 7 years and feel so out of my element.

Ladies, please help me!
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I'm so happy to hear that you have a date!!!! Have fun! Concentrate on if this is the guy YOU want to date, not if he will like you... He either does or he doesn't. Make sure he's the one you want because that is the only thing you can control.
 
Also, Fab, I'm not thin neither. And I never had a guy complain about my looks on a date - even though, like you, I was nervous about it. :perplexed

Relax. Everything will work out fine. And if you are nervous, the advice to drink a glass of wine works wonders. :lol:
 
I hope it goes well. I think this is why its important to include a full body shot or at least a small detail about how you are shaped or body type so you dont second guess yourself about what he is physically attracted to when that time comes. (which i thought most dating websites do anyway). Its not necessarily a bad thing...some guys dont like women shaped like me or as thin as i am so they dont click my body type when they are looking. Either way I think you'll be fine.
 
Just be yourself and enjoy! If he doesn't want you because you have some extra pounds then you don't need to continue dating him.

How exciting! The other ladies have already given you great advice. Enjoy yourself lady!

ETA:Since we haven't heard anything yet, I'm sure she is having a great time!
 
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