I would like to punch him in the face though! Sorry to sound evil, but I think he deserves it for being a loser and trying to play me stupid.
Told ya, he was attached. I am glad he confirmed it though, but you could have had all of this out of the way a week or so ago and I doubt that you would have had such a strong wave of emotions with regards to him.
It also sounds like he is blaming your for the state of affairs. That is not fair of him. He could have just said he was engaged and so be it. The "I longed for you years ago" stuff really isnt relevant. I am telling you it was just a ploy to suck you back in for a bit. Ultimately he is engaged to be married to another woman, that is all you need to know.
^^^^Yeah, I think you are right. It was wishful thinking on my part~ although he actually said he could never love her as much as he loves me, and he wanted to meet face to face to see if the feelings were as strong as it seemed before he got engaged...I was the one who said it wasn't the right thing to do...and I am currently ignoring his e-mails, as he continues to want to stay in touch after his engagement.
Also, it takes a lot for me to fall for a man. I loved him when I was a sophomore in college, and he was a junior. We just clicked. So, all of this has been hard to deal with. I am so grateful that I posted my feelings on this board because I got all of the emotional stuff out, and when I communicated with him, I could be logical, objective and brief. So, thank you ladies!!!
I just hope he turns out to be the best thing I never had!
That is the game. You should feel sorry for his fiancee', no telling how many other exgirlfriends he is spitting his venom on. Dude is fishing big time.He just said this:
you know something, it does not have to be this way. I thought that we are friends or as you American's say "homies." So why the cold shoulder?
I hold these truths to be self-evident:
1. I did not get engaged to hurt you, get back at you or punish you in anyway. ( I am not a spiteful or vindictive person!)
2. The intervening years have caused us to drift apart and we (especially me) are both coming to terms with the past. (When we last spoke on the phone several months back it seemed very clearly that we were no longer very compatible for various reasons).
3. It was a tragedy and a travesty what did and did not happen between us. It hurt back then and it will hurt for a long time to come.
4. I care for you deeply and wish the best for you. (That has never changed!)
5. I will never forget you or erase the imprint that you have had on my life.
6. Time heals all wounds.
7. Repeating past mistakes gets one nowhere.
8. Friendship is for a lifetime, love is eternal.
I spoke to some other former classmates- my girlfriends from college who knew both of us- and they think he's just confused. I think so too. I think he wants to be engaged and married to his fiance, but he also wants to be a single man and talk to whatever females he choses. I think he doesn't know how to be in a committed relationship.
hopeful said:I don't think he's confused. I think he knows exactly what he wants: a pretty Indian wife and side chicks to stroke his ego. He wants it all.
You are right hopeful. I really started to feel down for allowing it, and for being so gullible just because I used to think he was so trustworthy. Then, I realized that if it could happen to Halle Berry (re: Eric Benet), it could happen to anyone. This too shall pass. I hope to be happily engaged as soon as possible!
I thought that we are friends or as you American's say "homies." So why the cold shoulder?