Hello Ladies,
A friend in college advised me to stay in contact with this boy that I really liked. He is smart, attractrive, ambitious, kind, and very successful. I knew these things when we were in college, and I enjoyed spending time with him, but he transferred to another school up North the year after we met to finish his degree (he was doing a dual degree program).
He visited me at college the semester after he left, we exchanged e-mails, and he sent me post cards. Once he sent me an e-mail saying that he loved me...it was very long, but I did not believe him because I thought if he meant it he would tell me in person (at least by telephone). Things waned off as time progressed. Once in a while I would hear from him, but it was not often. I got engaged to someone else and got married a couple of years after all that, and I told him that I got married when he contacted me.
Now I'm divorced, and I saw him again on a social networking website (not facebook and not a dating site). I think he might have a girlfriend, but I'm not sure. I sent him a message, and he responded, but he seemed short/distant. He said he was happy to hear from me, but I don't know. I got a weird vibe from him (maybe because of our relationship history~but we were never formally boyfriend and girlfriend or exclusive).
Anyway, I'm going to stop obsessing over this now that I got it off of my chest. I realized that I must really like him because I kept thinking about it/him (even though I'm casually dating right now).
Do you guys think it is a good idea to just keep things friendly and be encouraging when/if HE contacts ME (not the other way around, as I do not intend to stalk him or constantly find excuses to communicate with him) and stay in touch as my friend in college suggested because I NEVER KNOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN ONE DAY??
A friend in college advised me to stay in contact with this boy that I really liked. He is smart, attractrive, ambitious, kind, and very successful. I knew these things when we were in college, and I enjoyed spending time with him, but he transferred to another school up North the year after we met to finish his degree (he was doing a dual degree program).
He visited me at college the semester after he left, we exchanged e-mails, and he sent me post cards. Once he sent me an e-mail saying that he loved me...it was very long, but I did not believe him because I thought if he meant it he would tell me in person (at least by telephone). Things waned off as time progressed. Once in a while I would hear from him, but it was not often. I got engaged to someone else and got married a couple of years after all that, and I told him that I got married when he contacted me.
Now I'm divorced, and I saw him again on a social networking website (not facebook and not a dating site). I think he might have a girlfriend, but I'm not sure. I sent him a message, and he responded, but he seemed short/distant. He said he was happy to hear from me, but I don't know. I got a weird vibe from him (maybe because of our relationship history~but we were never formally boyfriend and girlfriend or exclusive).
Anyway, I'm going to stop obsessing over this now that I got it off of my chest. I realized that I must really like him because I kept thinking about it/him (even though I'm casually dating right now).
Do you guys think it is a good idea to just keep things friendly and be encouraging when/if HE contacts ME (not the other way around, as I do not intend to stalk him or constantly find excuses to communicate with him) and stay in touch as my friend in college suggested because I NEVER KNOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN ONE DAY??
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