sista how long have you been married?
One of my ex-boyfriends was adamant about not getting married because he said he has heard of too many instances where wives no longer give up the "goods" on a regular basis after marriage. My response was that maybe some of these husbands weren't doing the same things they did before the marriage to make her WANT to have sex on a regular basis. We never could see eye to eye on that. That's one of the MANY reasons he's an ex
As far as i know, Vevster isnt married. She was just curious i think. Ive heard about sex dwindling from married couples too.
For some maybe....but for ours....it definitely has increased. On average.....for us is 4xs a week.
Like Sistaslick said....the quality has increased as well. As I've gotten older.....I know my sex drive has increased tremendously and hubby has no complaints.
Wow! how do you make time for that? Do you have small children? Not to be in your business but is this something that just happens or is it planned, and if so how do you get things started. (If you don't mind me asking?)
When my kids were small I was always tired to. I don't see how you made another one so quickly.
For us it just happens. If it's something I've been thinking about all day I just hug DH and he's ready. With me it's takes a little more time.
Also I think when we had a smaller bed we tended to be intimate more because we were in close contact all night. Now with a larger bed I don't have to touch him at all.
We let our son sleep with us for 2.5 years. Once my daughter came home from the hospital all that changed. From that day just the two of us sleep in the bed.
My son sleeps with us. We might have slept by ourselves a couple of times.
I've tried to put my son in his own bed, but he wakes up twice at night and wants to cuddle on anybody who will let him. I believe that could be one of the many problems. I wished I had more energy to put on the sexy. My husband doesn't do much to get me in the mood. I think he is stuck in the time when we weren't married with no kids. I'm at a different place now in my life. I don't look the same, I don't feel the same, so I need him to put a little more effort into. I remember he went to the store to get some chocolate syrup and whipped cream and I was half sleep. He thought because he did this I was suppose to get all excited. I wasn't even in the mood. That's what my problem is, when the time is right he doesn't know how to set the mood. I used to be the one that would do stuff like that, but I don't feel like it. I'm too tired.
What is the longest time that you and your hubby have not done EET?
What time period do you consider too long?
I think that is the route we are going to have to go. Plus we just have a queen size bed! LOL!
Well I can understand you being tired...especially with being pregnant. I didn't have sex that often while pregnant.....I was very uncomfortable and my tummy was "Huge" My daughter aslo slept with us for 2 1/2 years....now that's when you have to find the time. Gotta keep it spicy.
Don't be mad at me for saying this and I know some women may not agree......but I agree with hubby. *ducks down*
If he was getting it before the kids....he should still be able to get it now. Husbands come before the kids and if you're not giving it to him.....someone else might. Sex plays a big role in a lot of people's relationship....sometimes us as mother's forget that. Maybe that's why a lot of men don't wanna get married. Ok....don't stone me. ((Hugs))
I agree with that. Women have so much work to do in a marriage!
Well I can understand you being tired...especially with being pregnant. I didn't have sex that often while pregnant.....I was very uncomfortable and my tummy was "Huge" My daughter aslo slept with us for 2 1/2 years....now that's when you have to find the time. Gotta keep it spicy.
Don't be mad at me for saying this and I know some women may not agree......but I agree with hubby. *ducks down*
If he was getting it before the kids....he should still be able to get it now. Husbands come before the kids and if you're not giving it to him.....someone else might. Sex plays a big role in a lot of people's relationship....sometimes us as mother's forget that. Maybe that's why a lot of men don't wanna get married. Ok....don't stone me. ((Hugs))
ITA.
But I would also like to add that its best for both of them to communicate and agree on when is good, not so good and how often. It's only fair.
Also, I would work towards first, chilling out the sex part and BOTH focus on getting the little one trained to sleep alone. This is enough pressure as it is, then to have a spouse worrying about sex creates more pressure.
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