Agreed.
I used to think "Oh, it's not that big of a deal..." until I dealt with a man whose indiscretions came out in a totally unnecessary and unfortunate way. Had I known that he had slept with such a ridiculous number of people, I would have been aware of certain tendencies he might have and what
his general attitudes towards sex, women, and relationships were.
So, now I ask if I feel compelled to...sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.
But regardless, there is NOTHING that cannot be discussed before you pledge your life to a person. Whenever I start feeling "uneasy" about asking something, I think about the 10 year forecast and the potential disasters of not asking what I
really want to know...and suddenly I'm Barbara Walters on a dude.
NOTHING is off limits. NOTHING.
No need to ask or pry about what you are not genuinely interested in, but if you want to know, ASK.