Fine 4s
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My grandmother who lives in another state is turning 100 soon and I'm throwing her a party in her home town. I was looking for confirmation from SO and others as to whether they would be joining me. In my conversation with 'him', he stated that the event is not something he would enjoy and so he didn't think he was going to attend (or something like that). I'm not sure if my feelings are clues pointing to red flags.
Here are my thoughts: Is his decision to NOT go a reflection of how he views the relationship? Will he approach other family obligations like this; if I don't want to do it I will not do it. Does he like my family? Is he not big on the concept of "family"? Am I asking too much of him knowing that he doesn't have a lot of disposable income to fly as frequently as I am able to?
Should this clue me into something deeper? How do you achieve a balance between social/family obligations (when they are clearly established perhaps we are too new in the relationship?) and freedom to chose?
Thanks ladies and please do not quote
Here are my thoughts: Is his decision to NOT go a reflection of how he views the relationship? Will he approach other family obligations like this; if I don't want to do it I will not do it. Does he like my family? Is he not big on the concept of "family"? Am I asking too much of him knowing that he doesn't have a lot of disposable income to fly as frequently as I am able to?
Should this clue me into something deeper? How do you achieve a balance between social/family obligations (when they are clearly established perhaps we are too new in the relationship?) and freedom to chose?
Thanks ladies and please do not quote
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