Update on: Is He Being Fair?
Update:
I called him (to tell him that I can't do this break thing) only to find out that he blocked my phone number. So tell me, did he really want a break or was he just leading me on? I think the latter. I was duped. This is the same dude who claimed I was the "love of his life". I'm sad and over it.
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My ex and I were in a relationship for 8 months before I broke up with him during Valentine's week. He was just being too weird. He didn't buy me any gifts/cards. He wasn't answering his phone. He was hanging out frequently with a girl whom he knew from college. When I tried to communicate with him about all of this, he was nowhere to be found. So I broke up with him over email. (Valentine's week was the icing on the cake; there were things building up to the breakup.)
Fastforward to 6 months after our breakup, I get an email from him essentially reaching out and asking for forgiveness. He was still in love with me. We talked about that Valentine's week and cleared everything up. We decided to open up communication again, take things slow, and eventually, if possible, renew our relationship.
So we've been talking for a month now, and the conversations have been going well. But then I get an email from him yesterday saying that he's going to speak with a therapist because some things are still bothering him about our past relationship. The "things" he's referring to are ugly arguments we used to have. He can't get them off his mind and feels like it's holding him back from giving our relationship a fresh start. The therapist he spoke to told him to basically "take a break" from us until he can give us a clean slate. No communication. No seeing each other.
When I heard this, I was hurt. I wondered if he was just copping out. I wondered why we were even talking again if he was just going to cut communication like that. I wondered why he couldn't put the past behind him as we continued to talk. I told him that I disagree with the therapist's advice, but that I would try to be supportive. He says that he hopes for this break to be temporary and productive so that our relationship can reach it's full potential.
Is he being fair?
Update:
I called him (to tell him that I can't do this break thing) only to find out that he blocked my phone number. So tell me, did he really want a break or was he just leading me on? I think the latter. I was duped. This is the same dude who claimed I was the "love of his life". I'm sad and over it.
________________________
My ex and I were in a relationship for 8 months before I broke up with him during Valentine's week. He was just being too weird. He didn't buy me any gifts/cards. He wasn't answering his phone. He was hanging out frequently with a girl whom he knew from college. When I tried to communicate with him about all of this, he was nowhere to be found. So I broke up with him over email. (Valentine's week was the icing on the cake; there were things building up to the breakup.)
Fastforward to 6 months after our breakup, I get an email from him essentially reaching out and asking for forgiveness. He was still in love with me. We talked about that Valentine's week and cleared everything up. We decided to open up communication again, take things slow, and eventually, if possible, renew our relationship.
So we've been talking for a month now, and the conversations have been going well. But then I get an email from him yesterday saying that he's going to speak with a therapist because some things are still bothering him about our past relationship. The "things" he's referring to are ugly arguments we used to have. He can't get them off his mind and feels like it's holding him back from giving our relationship a fresh start. The therapist he spoke to told him to basically "take a break" from us until he can give us a clean slate. No communication. No seeing each other.
When I heard this, I was hurt. I wondered if he was just copping out. I wondered why we were even talking again if he was just going to cut communication like that. I wondered why he couldn't put the past behind him as we continued to talk. I told him that I disagree with the therapist's advice, but that I would try to be supportive. He says that he hopes for this break to be temporary and productive so that our relationship can reach it's full potential.
Is he being fair?
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