Naturefreegirl
Well-Known Member
I have been with the man that I love with for a while now, although he was not legally seperated, him and his wife seperated and lived seperate homes and shared their son. I must say that are relationship was great and he really understood me and has always been there for me when noone else was.
Last week I decided that i wanted to get baptize, so I took a class and was making plans to go ahead with my decisions. Later that night we had a talk and i told him that the intimacy in our relationship would have to come to a halt, he told me that he knew that i would come at him with this and he asked me what I wanted to do. To be honest i did not have all of the answers, he is a man and I donot expect him to wait around until i figured things out. So he told me that he would wait just as long as there was a plan. He suggested that we got married and made it official.
This is where the sad part comes in, He is insiting that we get married, although he is not divorce yet, and I cannot do that . I told him if he is serious, after his divorce we will procede with out plans. I feel that I am being played for a fool. In my heart of all hearts I think he still wants to be with the ex and me too. I am so confused and so sadden that it's breaking my heart.
I desperatly in need of some advice.
Last week I decided that i wanted to get baptize, so I took a class and was making plans to go ahead with my decisions. Later that night we had a talk and i told him that the intimacy in our relationship would have to come to a halt, he told me that he knew that i would come at him with this and he asked me what I wanted to do. To be honest i did not have all of the answers, he is a man and I donot expect him to wait around until i figured things out. So he told me that he would wait just as long as there was a plan. He suggested that we got married and made it official.
This is where the sad part comes in, He is insiting that we get married, although he is not divorce yet, and I cannot do that . I told him if he is serious, after his divorce we will procede with out plans. I feel that I am being played for a fool. In my heart of all hearts I think he still wants to be with the ex and me too. I am so confused and so sadden that it's breaking my heart.
I desperatly in need of some advice.