People who are really gung ho about it might change their tune if it does happen to them.
I don't think life is s straight line but I keep my OWN moral compass. Not cause it means anything to anyone else but it means something to me. If poorly behaved and immoral people now run how everyone else thinks and acts....[/QUOTE]
This was my point.
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I don't care what everyone else is doing, I do what I want instead of following what others are doing. And I just have a high moral compass and try to stick to it as best I can. I couldn't care about jump off love and their partners. Those types of guys I don't want in my life so I don't consider it a win. But good for them if they do. They can do what
they want while I do what
I want.
Usually to me when a guy doesn't care that's a problem...because some guys care about who they marry. That is the kind of guy I want in my life. Usually when someone lacks good judgment it carries on in other areas of their lives. We need to think about who we are attracting and why we want to be with them. Sure there are instances out of our control, or unexpected and nothing is perfect, but when you don't even
try... I don't want that type of person who shrugs and throws caution to the wind all the time in reference to their values.
Hence why people were shocked about Amber's divorce from Wiz. I know she's not a jump off but they were actually shocked that Amber and a serial pot (and other drug) head with a baby couldn't stay together. You get what you get. Sometimes you pay for getting what you get by not getting what you want in the end. Yes a man wants what he wants. But what do
you want? Sometimes they don't align. And
what does he want. What kind of discretion is he using in his life? It says a lot about him.
You want to be equally yoked. If you like drinking till late at night and partying all the time, you can't be aligned with the quiet guy who likes reading books and doesn't drink or go out. There will be conflict every five seconds once married life tak s over. So I guess my point earlier was, though everyone wants to live a judgment free life, you have to use discretion in order to align yourself with a partner that will make you happy. So in other words if you're the type to be a jump off then you would of course be happy to attract a man who is okay with that and you can live happily ever after with a guy who has the same values as you. And if you're the type to avoid that, then maybe that type of guy isn't for you. Everything is not a win at all costs.