If A Man Tells You This...do You Run For The Hills?

[Fine 4s]

Everything seems good so far with the guy you're seeing. First date was at a gala and while there was no second date yet, you talk on the phone often and eventually the conversation about sex comes up.
He tells you this: "I have a habit of losing interest after having sex with a woman. So please don't let me 'hit it'. I'm going to try, but please don't let me." And just to give more context, it was said in a bonding, closeness, sharing all things, honest, here are my flaws, let's be vulnerable, type of conversation. Fair warning I guess...

Do you hold off on the sex even if you don't want to, or do you peace out?

My vote is peace out because clearly he's only after excitement, the pursuit.
Assuming most of you would say peace out, WHY or WHY NOT?

PS- that's exactly what happened....smh

 

[RocStar]

Is this a real question?

 

[Fine 4s]

@RocStar
I kid you not!!!!
I'm sitting here thinking WHY didn't this girl, nice girl, I like this girl for him NOT see it coming...
I had to ask my homies....that would be ya'll lol

 

[C@ssandr@]

He's an @sshole.

He's setting it up so he doesn't have to take responsibility if they take it there "too" soon.

 

[MizAvalon]

This can not be serious!

Is the person in question very young? I can't imagine anyone over 25 even entertaining this man.

 

[Fine 4s]

Yup...thirties. But the person who said it is pushing 50.

 

[God_Favor]

Let his old arse go "hit it" somewhere else. He has some issues I'm not trained to deal with.

 

[ArrrBeee]

I feel like karate chopping him in the throat. I'm sure some women think he's not serious.

 

[intellectualuva]

Ugh.....gross. smh

 

[caribeandiva]

Let him go. Men tend to tell you what they're all about early on. Take them literally! He's in 50s so he's not going to change. If you're cool with that then hang in there but if that not-so little comment of his bothers you then get out now before you get in any deeper.

 

[hopeful]

Peace out, man some of these dudes. He's running some kind of weird game. Sounds like a very immature little boy who needs mommy to keep his hands out of the cookie jar. He is whack.

 

[B_Phlyy]

Peace out. He's already letting you (general 'you') know he has no interest in a real future but he thinks it might be interesting to watch you try to change his mind. At almost 50, he's way too be playing games.

 

[Foxglove]

It sounds like he's running game. Later you will be so beautiful/funny/insert whatever line that he couldn't resist himself and he has the perfect out once he does hit it

 

[bklynbornNbred]

Peace out.

That line will work on a certain type that's looking to "work with a brother". Make sure your friend doesn't think she's special and can get him to change.

 

[okange76]

When someone tells you who they are, believe them. What a dunce. He'll be looking for a caregiver once the light bulb hits at 60 that he will be facing his golden years alone. The sad part is that he will find one. He's too old for this foolishness.

 

[fula97]

he is a douche bag. Who is still playing these types of games at 50+

 

[Froreal3]

He's an old playa from the Himalayas, so no to that one.

 

[YaniraNaturally]

Good bye sir!

Reminds me of the SATC episode...

 

[Topsido]

He's an old playa from the Himalayas, so no to that one.

 

[Kindheart]

Peace out. He's already letting you (general 'you') know he has no interest in a real future but he thinks it might be interesting to watch you try to change his mind. At almost 50, he's way too be playing games.

Bingo !

 

[Fotchygirl]

Yup...thirties. But the person who said it is pushing 50.

That's even worse, nuff said.

 

[frizzy]

It doesnt matter what choice is made because the outcome will be the same. So why bother with this fool?

 

[ChasingBliss]

What a fool. Bet he wont be saying that when those dibilitating degenerating diseases take over. I work with quite a few vets who got so called serious about some chick only AFTER a heart attack and the like. They walk in my office looking like theyve been married 50 years. I be like "So, how long have you been married?" "Oh 5 years" After further discussion...the conclusions are all the same. Player got old and sick. Player ready to settle down now. Desperate woman woman longing for marriage with caretaker mentality and 'his money on her mind and her mind on his money' marries him.

 

[PeaceFlow]

I wouldn't deal with a potential partner that talked about sex with me after just one formal date. Especially using the phrase "hit it". I know this is not a big deal these days to some, but it's not something I'm used to.

Secondly, why if he asking this woman he barely knows to control what he does and does not do sexually. Sounds like he has some sort of sex addiction lol. Like if he wants things to be different with this one and take it slowly...he should be able to take it slowly All this begging after only a first date makes him sound like he has some thottish sexual issue and commitment phobia. Red flag, red flag.

 

[Kindheart]

Sounds like game .I wouldn't be interested .what happens if you end up together and after months of dating you start having sex 2 or 3 times a week ?would he lose interest in you within a couple of weeks? No thanks.

 

[Anaisin]

Corny af

 

[MuziqizLyfe]

Women including your friend probably see it as a challenge. They want to be the one woman that tames him, the one that was so amazing he actually stuck around. They probably fall for it every time, smh I'm sure at 50 his body count is super grossly high

The first lesson I had to learn dating after divorce was that what a man says means absolutely nothing. I don't care how vulnerable he may sound or how deep you think the convo is. 99% of what they say is ******** unless they are backing all of it up with consistent action over a long period of time. It was hard for me to grasp at first after dealing with the same man for all of my adult life. Now I'm like all the time while dating. I dont believe a damn thing

One of my best friends stays falling for words... "He said he prayed about us and where it was going" Oh ok so are ya'll in an exclusive relationship? "Well no, but can you believe he prayed about us? That's deep" I'm like

 

[SelahOco]

If he likes her so much that he doesnt want to hurt her, they should just stop talking. I am not sure what she should do with the information other than leave him be.

 

[Layluh]

He tells you this: "I have a habit of losing interest after having sex with a woman. So please don't let me 'hit it'. I'm going to try, but please don't let me."

This guy sounds like a weeknd song. Don't you fall in loooove with a nikka like meeeee.

 

[Curlykutie]

Run for the hills!