If a man isn't hands-on with the kids is that divorce worthy?

[Southernbella.]

I understand if the mother refuses but what if she can't? Such as right after a c-section?

I don't personally know of any woman that refuses to take care of the baby, but I do know of a few male acquaintances (not friends) that have done so. I have a problem with that and very glad that was not my problem.

I say, if they both work, they both must pitch in for the sake of the children that they both created.

Why would any man/father want it any other way? What does that teach their sons?

I don't disagree with you. Of course it's a problem. I'm just saying...I don't believe people are arguing over the rights of the baby here, because the baby doesn't care who changes his diaper or feeds him a bottle.

The issue here is the dh not supporting the mother.