I know I am known for hella long post so I'll try my best to brief. Ok, I am in mid-30's, not married, no kids. I have been focusing alot on my career growth which is cool. I feel like I am becoming ( too a VERY small degree! one of those women who really,really wants the marriage and baby carriage. I feel like time is running out. As this rate I am working on having a teen in my 50's and that thought is just not cool!! I'm beginning to wonder if I have waited too long.
Here is the thing. There is guy who I will call "maintenance man"- no really. That's what he does. He is a supervisor and works at an apartment complex. Ran into him at the grocery several times in my neighborhood before I finally gave him the digits. It's so sad cause obviously I just ain't getting out enough! This man, as they all are, has been a PERFECT gentleman and has really been looking out for me! Dates, dinner the whole nine. I mean he is putting in work ya'll. Washed my car like new and even fixed my bumper. Insists on helping me with home repairs, none at my prompting.
The disadvantage. 3 kids, one ex wife and ex girlfriend between all the kids. He's 45, and seems to vascilate between wanting a son and being done. From what I understand he lives rent free at his job and pays child support ( as he should) I make more money I am pretty certain.
I can't seem to just enjoy this man for what he has to offer for the now! Whenever I start to date someone it opens a longing in me to be married, have the house and doting loving husband. I feel reasonably confident that this man can't offer me this ( without me having to contribute more to our lifestyle). You know how it goes. He seems so mature and says the right things to the trick questions. Pretty honest about his failed relationships and seem to know what is required of him as a man. Very Respectful. Caught him making sure he didn't disrespect me in public ( can't say that about other learing men I have dates recently) I am leary to continue dating him knowing that he has baggage that I don't think I can deal with. Why can't I just date him, have a good time, until the one more like Mr. Right appears? I'm afraid that if I spend time, I risk becoming emotionally involved. I have no intentions on having sex anytime soon, that's not what I am worried about. I don't have time to waste, but he is SO dang nice!!! It feels so good to be wooed so hard. I mean he is pulling out all the stops and making it quite clear he has more than a passing interest. It could all be game at this point, but I'm willing to wait it out. Who knew how much I miss my car door being opened for me. And we laugh all the time.
I just don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him if I find I just can't deal and more of what I am looking for comes around the corner.
What should I do? Stop dating him so that I don't lead him on. Or continue, tell him we can only be friends. It's obvious to me that is brother is pulling out all the stops to break me down! It's possible he will fade himself out at this point in the game, but what to do until then? He claims he hasn't had sex in a year. I dunno for sure about that one. If true, impressive....
Advice?
Here is the thing. There is guy who I will call "maintenance man"- no really. That's what he does. He is a supervisor and works at an apartment complex. Ran into him at the grocery several times in my neighborhood before I finally gave him the digits. It's so sad cause obviously I just ain't getting out enough! This man, as they all are, has been a PERFECT gentleman and has really been looking out for me! Dates, dinner the whole nine. I mean he is putting in work ya'll. Washed my car like new and even fixed my bumper. Insists on helping me with home repairs, none at my prompting.
The disadvantage. 3 kids, one ex wife and ex girlfriend between all the kids. He's 45, and seems to vascilate between wanting a son and being done. From what I understand he lives rent free at his job and pays child support ( as he should) I make more money I am pretty certain.
I can't seem to just enjoy this man for what he has to offer for the now! Whenever I start to date someone it opens a longing in me to be married, have the house and doting loving husband. I feel reasonably confident that this man can't offer me this ( without me having to contribute more to our lifestyle). You know how it goes. He seems so mature and says the right things to the trick questions. Pretty honest about his failed relationships and seem to know what is required of him as a man. Very Respectful. Caught him making sure he didn't disrespect me in public ( can't say that about other learing men I have dates recently) I am leary to continue dating him knowing that he has baggage that I don't think I can deal with. Why can't I just date him, have a good time, until the one more like Mr. Right appears? I'm afraid that if I spend time, I risk becoming emotionally involved. I have no intentions on having sex anytime soon, that's not what I am worried about. I don't have time to waste, but he is SO dang nice!!! It feels so good to be wooed so hard. I mean he is pulling out all the stops and making it quite clear he has more than a passing interest. It could all be game at this point, but I'm willing to wait it out. Who knew how much I miss my car door being opened for me. And we laugh all the time.
I just don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him if I find I just can't deal and more of what I am looking for comes around the corner.
What should I do? Stop dating him so that I don't lead him on. Or continue, tell him we can only be friends. It's obvious to me that is brother is pulling out all the stops to break me down! It's possible he will fade himself out at this point in the game, but what to do until then? He claims he hasn't had sex in a year. I dunno for sure about that one. If true, impressive....
Advice?
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