glamazon386
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ETA: Sorry this is so long but I needed to vent... You can skip to the last 3 paragraphs if need be.
Well my childhood friend just pretty much professed his love for me. And now I really don't know what to do...
I'll give y'all some background.... We used to talk when I was a sophomore in college. Very briefly. I bumped into him in the mall once with my mom and he was pretty much in shock and stuttering the first time. This was right after we graduated high school (I didn't go to middle or high school with him. I was bussed to schools outside our neighborhood. We never really talked like that other than seeing each other in passing. I knew he lived 2 streets over from me but I didn't know what house.). The second time I was in the mall again (I was there with my HS sweetheart but he was in another store. We weren't dating then.) and we exchanged numbers. We kept in contact after that. We went on a few dates. He told me he always liked me but I was too far up my high school sweetheart's butt at the time and in school an hour away. He ended up meeting this girl and they got together. A few months later I ended up getting with my HS sweetheart for good. We broke up a year later but still dated off and on up until maybe a year and a half ago.
They were together 3 years. We remained friends the whole time and saw each other on occasion (he used to live 2 streets over from me) but we never went out or anything. We talked online from time to time but that was about it. I never met his gf. I knew they had problems because sometimes he would talk to me about them but I never met her. She tried to start some mess with me once maybe 2 years ago online because I left a comment on his MySpace. He made her apologize but that was the only time I ever really interacted with her. I never really understood what he saw in her but I never said anything to him about it. If he wanted to talk, I would listen but that was as far as it went. Sometimes he would make little sly comments saying things like "It could have been you" or stuff like that. I never really paid it any mind back then but now it's starting to bother me.
They broke up this past May. They were living together for the last year. He was moving out of his parents house and she went with him. He said he assumed the issues they had would get better (mostly communication and some other things) when they started living together but they didn't. She ended up leaving him because she wanted to get married. She pretty much gave him an ultimatum and left. When he didn't step up to the plate she came back and got her stuff. We had a few conversations about it. More him talking and me listening. IMO, he was great to her and she was just difficult for no reason. But of course I can only go off what he told me.
So anyway... Fast forward to now the past few months we've been hanging out. We've been on some dates and have been hanging out. For Christmas he really surprised me and went out of his way. He bought me some great presents and I really didn't expect anything from him. Clearly he was listening to things I had said in the past and went out and got them. We never exchanged presents in the past or even talked about exchanging presents this year. I never even told him what I wanted for Xmas. He continues to go out of his way to do things for me just because. It was just really weird because I couldn't figure it out. I couldn't figure out why. He's never really made any moves on me. Not like that. A few days he caught me off guard because he said he missed me. I guess he had gotten used to me being around lately.
He works for a utility company here in town and with the wind and outages they've had him working around the clock and traveling from county to county. Last night and tonight. He hasn't really slept since Friday night. He called me a few times when he was out in the field. We were on the phone most of the night last night until I fell asleep. He was stuck an hour away waiting for somebody to come relieve him. When he finally got off tonight he called me. He said he was going to get something to eat and then head home. He called me back when he was on his way home. Around 1 or so. Half sleep and dead tired. Knowing he had to be up in a few hours to be back to work. The convo starts off with him doing something and I commented about us being too comfortable with each other. Mainly him but whatever.
He said he's completely comfortable around me because we've been good friends for a long time. So then he just starts talking out the blue about how great I am and that he's glad he has me in his life. He said he likes to do things to make me happy because I'm his oldest friend (13 years). He loves that we talk everyday. (At first it was via IM and text. He used to keep me company during the day when I worked full time. But lately it's turned into phone calls. Multiple calls a day.) And I'm like is that the only reason? He says yes at first...
Then he lets it slip out that it's really because I've always been there for him. Especially during the hardest time in his life (the breakup) and he appreciates that. And for that reason whatever I want or need he has it for me. He said I deserve it. Then he says that he loves him some T. That I'm gorgeous and beautiful and smart. That I'm the only person in his life that's Ryde or Die for him. That he feels the same way about me. That that's what he wants in a mate. And that anything I want from him I can have because I'm always there for him. All this stuff. And I'm like wow. You're serious. Wow. I was in shock and he got quiet. Then he said he was confused. I could tell he was about to pass out at any moment because he was so tired. So I let him get off the phone and try to get some sleep. I told him I would call and check on him tommorow around lunch time. I really just needed to get off the phone because I didn't know what to say. That and to digest all of this info.
Why did he have to tell me all this? Why now? And why at 2 in the morning when he's dead tired? I'm wondering if he feels like he picked the wrong girl 4 years ago... But I don't want to be the rebound chick either. They've been broken up for like 8 or 9 months now. I don't think he's totally over her yet. He tries to act like it but he's not. He realizes that it wasn't meant to be. And that they weren't good for each other now that he's looking back at the relationship. But on the flip side I think he's still a little bitter behind the whole thing.
I really don't know what to do now. I mean he's my friend and I love him to death but IDK I just feel like things are gonna be awkward now. Like I'm walking on egg shells or something. I never really know what he's thinking. And we've never really had a convo about me and him before. It just kind of came out of nowhere. Maybe it had been on his mind all day or all night last night when he was out in the field. IDK. I don't know why he came out the blue with this now. Or what his intentions are. I'm so lost.
Well my childhood friend just pretty much professed his love for me. And now I really don't know what to do...
I'll give y'all some background.... We used to talk when I was a sophomore in college. Very briefly. I bumped into him in the mall once with my mom and he was pretty much in shock and stuttering the first time. This was right after we graduated high school (I didn't go to middle or high school with him. I was bussed to schools outside our neighborhood. We never really talked like that other than seeing each other in passing. I knew he lived 2 streets over from me but I didn't know what house.). The second time I was in the mall again (I was there with my HS sweetheart but he was in another store. We weren't dating then.) and we exchanged numbers. We kept in contact after that. We went on a few dates. He told me he always liked me but I was too far up my high school sweetheart's butt at the time and in school an hour away. He ended up meeting this girl and they got together. A few months later I ended up getting with my HS sweetheart for good. We broke up a year later but still dated off and on up until maybe a year and a half ago.
They were together 3 years. We remained friends the whole time and saw each other on occasion (he used to live 2 streets over from me) but we never went out or anything. We talked online from time to time but that was about it. I never met his gf. I knew they had problems because sometimes he would talk to me about them but I never met her. She tried to start some mess with me once maybe 2 years ago online because I left a comment on his MySpace. He made her apologize but that was the only time I ever really interacted with her. I never really understood what he saw in her but I never said anything to him about it. If he wanted to talk, I would listen but that was as far as it went. Sometimes he would make little sly comments saying things like "It could have been you" or stuff like that. I never really paid it any mind back then but now it's starting to bother me.
They broke up this past May. They were living together for the last year. He was moving out of his parents house and she went with him. He said he assumed the issues they had would get better (mostly communication and some other things) when they started living together but they didn't. She ended up leaving him because she wanted to get married. She pretty much gave him an ultimatum and left. When he didn't step up to the plate she came back and got her stuff. We had a few conversations about it. More him talking and me listening. IMO, he was great to her and she was just difficult for no reason. But of course I can only go off what he told me.
So anyway... Fast forward to now the past few months we've been hanging out. We've been on some dates and have been hanging out. For Christmas he really surprised me and went out of his way. He bought me some great presents and I really didn't expect anything from him. Clearly he was listening to things I had said in the past and went out and got them. We never exchanged presents in the past or even talked about exchanging presents this year. I never even told him what I wanted for Xmas. He continues to go out of his way to do things for me just because. It was just really weird because I couldn't figure it out. I couldn't figure out why. He's never really made any moves on me. Not like that. A few days he caught me off guard because he said he missed me. I guess he had gotten used to me being around lately.
He works for a utility company here in town and with the wind and outages they've had him working around the clock and traveling from county to county. Last night and tonight. He hasn't really slept since Friday night. He called me a few times when he was out in the field. We were on the phone most of the night last night until I fell asleep. He was stuck an hour away waiting for somebody to come relieve him. When he finally got off tonight he called me. He said he was going to get something to eat and then head home. He called me back when he was on his way home. Around 1 or so. Half sleep and dead tired. Knowing he had to be up in a few hours to be back to work. The convo starts off with him doing something and I commented about us being too comfortable with each other. Mainly him but whatever.
He said he's completely comfortable around me because we've been good friends for a long time. So then he just starts talking out the blue about how great I am and that he's glad he has me in his life. He said he likes to do things to make me happy because I'm his oldest friend (13 years). He loves that we talk everyday. (At first it was via IM and text. He used to keep me company during the day when I worked full time. But lately it's turned into phone calls. Multiple calls a day.) And I'm like is that the only reason? He says yes at first...Then he lets it slip out that it's really because I've always been there for him. Especially during the hardest time in his life (the breakup) and he appreciates that. And for that reason whatever I want or need he has it for me. He said I deserve it. Then he says that he loves him some T. That I'm gorgeous and beautiful and smart. That I'm the only person in his life that's Ryde or Die for him. That he feels the same way about me. That that's what he wants in a mate. And that anything I want from him I can have because I'm always there for him. All this stuff. And I'm like wow. You're serious. Wow. I was in shock and he got quiet. Then he said he was confused. I could tell he was about to pass out at any moment because he was so tired. So I let him get off the phone and try to get some sleep. I told him I would call and check on him tommorow around lunch time. I really just needed to get off the phone because I didn't know what to say. That and to digest all of this info.
Why did he have to tell me all this? Why now? And why at 2 in the morning when he's dead tired? I'm wondering if he feels like he picked the wrong girl 4 years ago... But I don't want to be the rebound chick either. They've been broken up for like 8 or 9 months now. I don't think he's totally over her yet. He tries to act like it but he's not. He realizes that it wasn't meant to be. And that they weren't good for each other now that he's looking back at the relationship. But on the flip side I think he's still a little bitter behind the whole thing.
I really don't know what to do now. I mean he's my friend and I love him to death but IDK I just feel like things are gonna be awkward now. Like I'm walking on egg shells or something. I never really know what he's thinking. And we've never really had a convo about me and him before. It just kind of came out of nowhere. Maybe it had been on his mind all day or all night last night when he was out in the field. IDK. I don't know why he came out the blue with this now. Or what his intentions are. I'm so lost.
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I couldn't even go to sleep when we got off the phone around 3. So that's why I posted. 
. He wants to go away for the weekend for his bday and wants me to go. Then he said well I'm glad she didn't get that idea while we were out in Vegas because I would have been like hell no I'm not marrying you. They went away for his bday when he turned 21. But that joke made me put on the brakes for a minute. Who jokes about that? So I was a little confused in that regard too. I've kind of kept a brick wall between us all this time because of the whole situation with that girl. He's been extra touchy feely lately when we were together. Even around his friends. It weirded me out at first because he never acted like that before. 
