**I just walked out... my kind of hair my not welcomed... smh**

LunadeMiel

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So yesterday I decided to have my hair wash and blow-dried. The salon that I usually go to was bit far so I decided to try one that was closer to where I live. Now, one would think that in this economy business would be happy to have customers but apparently if you are the wrong hair type you business in not wanted . At first I tried one place that was closest to me. I wanted to know how much they charge for a wash and set and blow out. I know that normally Mon-Wed. it is usually 15 and up. The first stylist I found I decided to asked her about the salon. She looked at my hair with a puzzled look then spoke to another stylist who then proceeded to grill me she. Her reply was, oh well, your kind of hair, you will have to just blow it out :yawn:, (insinuating that my hair can't be roller-setted ). I quickly pointed out to her that in fact, I roller set my hair weekly therefore I know it won't be an issue. She again looked at me up and down :lol: and said oh, you do huh....well it's $30. Well that was awkward...:look: I said thank you then walked back to my car and had DH drive me to another place :driver:. I just knew that this place was not for me. Not to be defeated, I decided to try another Salon that I used to to go when I was relaxed. Mind you, I never had any issues doing my hair there when I was relaxed. So I reasoned that they couldn't possibly have any issues doing my hair now... right?

When I arrived at the second place, I did the exact same thing I did with the first place. This stylist's response was a bit less antagonist than the first ones so I decided to give it a try :yep:. I had left my handbag in the car with DH so I left quickly to go retrieve it. I walked back in, stood there for about 30 seconds before the owner (stylist 1) told me to go sit in the back. As I took my seat, the other stylist in the salon at the time noticed that I was waiting to get my hair done. She angrily turned towards the other one and proceeded to talk about me in Spanish :perplexed. She was telling the first one that she should not be charging me $30, instead it should be $45$-50. Let me point out that normally the price starts at $17 for a wash and set. I knew that they were charging me nearly double to price but since I didn't want to do it myself I was ok with it. Well the second stylist was not happy about the prospect of working with my kind of hair . She walked towards the wash basin, pulled out a wet wide tooth plastic comb and handed it to me without a word, no instructions, nada. Of course I was a bit confused. Why would this stylist hand me comb? What the hell am I suppose to with this? By the way these are all questions that I asked her. You see the problem was that she couldn't even understand me because she spoke very little English. While sitting there, still a bit confused and going over where I had gone wrong in my life :sad: I said you know what *** this :censored:. I'm not going to sit here, give them my money and they can't even treat me right. For quick moment I thought about telling them off, but really what would have been the point? One of them wouldn't even have understood me and most likely my rant would have been in kreyol (I tend to do that when I'm upset ). So there I was with a cheap plastic comb in my hand and a fuzzy ponytail on my head contemplating how I should leave this place. Should I diva it or take the graceful route. Ultimately, I opted for the graceful, less dramatic and honestly less immediately gratifying departure. I gently laid the comb on a cart, lifted my bum off the chair and pride off the floor (I admit I was a bit hurt by their treatment of me. I know that my hair is fiyah so why couldn’t they see it too :perplexed ) and I just walked out.


Oh I forgot... Below is a pic that I took of the sign of the salon. Lila's Beauty Salon, located on Main street in Bridgeport, CT :grin: Both were Domincan Salons btw.
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What a dayum shame. This REALLY angers me. Were they Dominican? Regular old blackity-black? What? At any rate :bighug: to you. Im SOOOOOOOOO glad you left both places. You know a lot of us would have sat there and took more abuse.
 
Girrrrl - I feel you. I can't beleive they would act like that!! Then again - yes I can. Because it happened to me also back in 2002 when I went to a Dominican salon. I had been there before when I was relaxed and they did a great job. I went back as a natural and the lady looked at my hair and said "The lady who can to that isn't here today" THAT!? Talking about my natural hair. Needless to say there was no further discussion.
 
I hope this comes out the right way but if the hair is not relaxed or not naturally 2-ish/3a-ish, they will charge you double because of the extra effort to produce the same results. They are there to make money. Granted, they shouldn't ever mistreat anyone but I can see their point because of the time, product, extra technique etc. What they should definitely do at Dominican salons and others...for that matter....is put it in writing. If your hair is naturally very curly and doesn't straighten easily, then the charges are extra. Think of a BKT treatment for shoulder-length hair and one for WL hair. The excess product used is going to cost you.

Sorry this happened to you. If anything, this is the opportunity Black American stylists need to hop on - the natural market and blow-outs. Rather than curse the Latinos for their success, take it back and provide this service to women with natural 3-4 textured hair with no attitude, no questions, only great service. Shoot, I wish I owned such a salon.

Edit: they actually do "hundreds" per day and at 15-20 bucks, they have got to do more volume to make the money. That means time-limits. It's business, not laziness.
 
Insane. Doing hair, no matter what the type is their JOB, those stylist were acting you were asking free salon services. I don't get why people get pissed when you ask them to do their JOB.

Honestly, I think the main problem is laziness. They don't want to deal with what they perceive as a difficult hair texture.
 
Sorry you had to go through this, but I'm very happy you didn't let them put their negativity laden hands in your beautiful hair.
 
That's why I just don't do salons. (Although I never really did even when relaxed).

While I was transitioning, I went to a salon with a coupon for a free doobie (yeah, otherwise you wouldn't see me in a salon). I had my hair in a ponytail and so at first they were completely okay with doing it. But after the wash, apparently the guy was in for a rude awakening and was pissed that he had to press out the new growth (which by that point was admittedly more than the permed ends). Mind you I already told him I was mostly natural but he thought my hair was of a certain "type" so said it was okay. He went through with it but there was no problem and he did nothing different than he wouldn't have done with relaxed hair. Luckily, he kept it professional and made it look cute too.

OP, find a natural salon. That's what they are here for.
 
And so you should have. You averted disaster.

PSA: NATURALS...scratch that....LADIES, SCREEN ANY POTENTIAL STYLIST THOROUGHLY. As a natural myself I would NEVER, I repeat NEVER let just anyone do my hair. I'm the kinkiest 4 a/b and if a stylist does not SPECIALIZE in working with my type of hair then you will not come near me. If you do not style my type of hair on a consistent basis you simply will not have the patience or the skills to care for my hair properly. That means I need to be comfortable and familiar with both you AND any assistant that may lay a hand on my head. And now that I have found 2 excellent stylists that eat naps for breakfast and can give me the blowout of my dreams I WILL NOT be deviating from them.

Oh, and there should be no "spur of the moment" random salon visits. If I don't plan ahead, then I'm just not getting my hair done.
 
I hope this comes out the right way but if the hair is not relaxed or not naturally 2-ish/3a-ish, they will charge you double because of the extra effort to produce the same results. They are there to make money. Granted, they shouldn't ever mistreat anyone but I can see their point because of the time, product, extra technique etc. What they should definitely do at Dominican salons and others...for that matter....is put it in writing. If your hair is naturally very curly and doesn't straighten easily, then the charges are extra. Think of a BKT treatment for shoulder-length hair and one for WL hair. The excess product used is going to cost you.

Sorry this happened to you. If anything, this is the opportunity Black American stylists need to hop on - the natural market and blow-outs. Rather than curse the Latinos for their success, take it back and provide this service to women with natural 3-4 textured hair with no attitude, no questions, only great service. Shoot, I wish I owned such a salon.

Edit: they actually do "hundreds" per day and at 15-20 bucks, they have got to do more volume to make the money. That means time-limits. It's business, not laziness.

The thing is, my hair does not take much longer than a relaxed head my length. These people were plain lazy. The salon that I usually go to takes on a lot of naturals. What I've noticed is that they outright want to blow out the hair which takes longer than a rollerset and blow out. Most natural I've seen can get their their hair relatively straight with just a roller set so yeah... this is just a cop out. I have enough experiece with salons as a natural to know that they were spitting out BS. If anything I would understand them wanting to charge me more because my hair is longer than most of their clients (something they couldn't have known since my hair was wrapped around my ponytail)
 
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That is horrible because I know your hair is gorgeous. I kinda guessed it was a Dominican salon before I even click this thread. I have never heard of people despising kinky, curly hair so much! Don't let it get you down. *hugs*
 
Sorry you had to go through that .ell. They want your money but can't admit they don't know how to manage your hair. Just say that. I am glad you walked out they could have done some real damage to your hair. I have you tried google salons that also provide service for natural hair. I think in either place you would not been happy with their services and $30 out of your pockets later. Maybe the ladies on the boards can suggest a place you can go. Where are you located?
 
And so you should have. You averted disaster.

PSA: NATURALS...scratch that....LADIES, SCREEN ANY POTENTIAL STYLIST THOROUGHLY. As a natural myself I would NEVER, I repeat NEVER let just anyone do my hair. I'm the kinkiest 4 a/b and if a stylist does not SPECIALIZE in working with my type of hair then you will not come near me. If you do not style my type of hair on a consistent basis you simply will not have the patience or the skills to care for my hair properly. That means I need to be comfortable and familiar with both you AND any assistant that may lay a hand on my head. And now that I have found 2 excellent stylists that eat naps for breakfast and can give me the blowout of my dreams I WILL NOT be deviating from them.

Oh, and there should be no "spur of the moment" random salon visits. If I don't plan ahead, then I'm just not getting my hair done.

You're right about the bolded though. I should just stick to who I know or just do it myself :(
 
i've had a very similar experience. the stylist said she cant braid my hair unless she blowdried it first because my hair is "a knotty mess". she said several other derogatory things that i wont repeat. I picked up my purse and left.
 
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You did right to walk out. If they don't treat you well as a person they probably won't treat your hair well. If the initial reaction doesn't feel right the best thing is to walk away.

I had a salon trying to get my business so I asked about cornrows. The first lady pointed at the 2nd and said she does natural hair. The 2nd lady says you want hair added, I said yes. She said oh, I don't do that she does that. Now I'm just enjoying the amusement of this because I know these women are clueless. I ask the 1st lady how much cornrows are with extensions. She makes up a price $85 (ridiculous). I just smile and say thank you. If I let either of these clueless women touch my hair, I would have to check myself into a mental ward.

Loving yourself means walking away.
 
The thing is, my hair does not take much longer than a relaxed head my length. These people were plain lazy. The salon that I usually go to takes on a lot of naturals. What I've noticed is that they outright want to blow out the hair which takes longer than a rollerset and blow out. Most natural I've seen can get their their hair relatively straight with just a roller set so yeah... this is just a cop out. I have enough experiece with salons as a natural to know that they were spitting out BS. If anything I would understand them wanting to charge me more because my hair is longer than most of their clients (something they couldn't have known since my hair was wrapped around my ponytail)

Well if they normally do so, then it was just a cop-out. Stylists can have horrible attitudes. From my experience and from what a stylist told me, naturals take much longer. Relaxed hair is straight when wet (well, maybe most?). I seriously wish I could have such a business.
 
@ ~Sparklingflame~
Yes, they were both Dominicans :nono: I was shocked since a lot of them have hair just like mine.
 
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This is RIDICULOUS!!! That kind of treatment is unacceptable!! Why didn't they put a sign outside the door telling customers they will only service a certain type of hair! This would have no doubt saved you the trouble of even venturing into their establishment. this is why I truly believe that those of us here who live close enough should get together to either support each other in our own beauty salon endeavors, or open our own shops, or SOMETHING!!! Why is it that none of hairdressers we frequent are members of hair boards? *sigh*...why is it that they think they know everything they need to know about growing/managing healthy hair?? There's ALWAYS new things to learn. We are ever evolving, ever progressing. The stuff they don't know about healthy hair techniques is shameful. Yet they are proud to grace their salon walls with certificates of accomplishment from so-called accredited beauty schools - Good Grief!! SMH...I wish I had the funds myself...I would open a shop and I would make it a REQUIREMENT that my beauty salon employees get a hair board membership, and spend at least an hour a day on the doggone boards!!! :-/

*rant over* Breathe......
 
wow, I'm sorry you had to go through this...but I'm glad you left and calling them out on the board was cool too!
 
I am glad you walked away. I don't see the need to pay to watch a train wreck in slow motion.

Having suffered through more than a few horrible hair salon disasters, they really did you a favor. Trust that.
 
This is one of the many reasons that I refuse to go to a salon again! :nono: I'm so sorry you had to go through that mess! I already know that many hairstylists don't want to deal with hair that is anything more than semi straight or going to be relaxed into submissivenes. I'm just glad that you didn't give them your money! I used to get upset, but it is what it is. There are just some who are stuck with the mentality that dealing with Afro textured hair is too difficult and unmanageable (and it's ugly :rolleyes:) That's why I say *** them and do my hair myself!
 
This is why I never went to non-black salons and stopped going to black salons. Too many of them act a fool when it comes to natural, afro-textured hair. It's best to carefully screen stylists or do your own hair. Cuts down on the nonsense and what *I* personally see as racially motivated insults.
 
I'm not surprised honestly, a lot of Dominican salons have this attitude. One girl burned the front of my hair with the blowdrier because I didn't want to get a relaxer. I don't *** with them too hard. Btw, OP your hair is lovely.
 
Domincans are Black. SO you would think...
Would you really want them touching your hair anyways? I would definately give them as many bad internet reviews as possible!

Sorry that happened to you!
 
(((hugs))) -- sorry this happened, glad you walked away. for a split second, i too would have thought about getting crunk on them but like you said, what would be the point. you exited with grace and professionalism and for that, we all applaud you.
 
Thanks for the words of support ladies (it looks like the thanks button is missing). I'm definitely sticking to what I know.
 
And so you should have. You averted disaster.

PSA: NATURALS...scratch that....LADIES, SCREEN ANY POTENTIAL STYLIST THOROUGHLY. As a natural myself I would NEVER, I repeat NEVER let just anyone do my hair. I'm the kinkiest 4 a/b and if a stylist does not SPECIALIZE in working with my type of hair then you will not come near me. If you do not style my type of hair on a consistent basis you simply will not have the patience or the skills to care for my hair properly. That means I need to be comfortable and familiar with both you AND any assistant that may lay a hand on my head. And now that I have found 2 excellent stylists that eat naps for breakfast and can give me the blowout of my dreams I WILL NOT be deviating from them.

Oh, and there should be no "spur of the moment" random salon visits. If I don't plan ahead, then I'm just not getting my hair done.

Same here. I'd rather just do it myself than to have to deal with some random stylist I have to coach through the process. If they don't specialize in doing my type of hair I don't want them touching my head. Most of them don't want to touch it anyway.

OP - Sorry you had to experience that.
 
Most Dominican Salons do not want to invest the time and the patience in combing hair that is not btwn a 1a-3a(much less roller setting it). Although they had hair like you because they work there the other stylist deal with roller setting it. You just walking in did not have a chance in hell with having that same luxury with a smile on their faces.

After watching a documentary on how curly hair is viewed in the domincan repbulic a while back it is always in the back of my head about how they view "kinky hair." They are taught to hate their hair and they are always considered to be more "black" than "latin". They dont like their own hair but tolerate it because of their less african features. They are taught to hate any hair that is not from a 1a -3a texture unfortunatley.

Like I mentioned before taking care and doing "our hair" is a process that takes time and patience. My DD has been natural since birth and I am now getting it right thanks to this site and others. I always tell har be careful where you have your hair done because many "stylist" do not take the time to do it and they will rip your hair right out of your hair, and many will cut it without thinking twice.

OP continue going where you went before, just set time to get there. Be glad you did not stay at those salons because they would have probably shampooed your hair with dishwashing detergant. Yes they do this, it has happened to me this is one the reasons I stopped going and if I did go it was armed with my own products.
 
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If a salon doesn't know how to handle your type of hair then you don't want to give them your money. Many stylists of color including some/many AA stylists these days are not trained or experienced with the full range of afro textures. So as someone with hair on the far end of the "natty" scale I prefer a stylist who's honest and says s/he doesn't know what to do with it than to take my money and trying to style it and failing.
 
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