Kkinds
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So, since my current boyfriend has been back home it's been some good and bad. He's only been back a week and a half and we've already had 3 "disagreements". There have been a few red-flags I'm my book, but I don't think he has bad intentions. I told him yesterday "Maybe you need some time to sort things out before we move further" and he said he doesn't believe in "breaks"...that we're in a relationship and we work through problems together. Yeah I know that much, but I shouldn't have to come into to this telling you how to be in a relationship and fighting certain battles. For example, do y'all remover my previous post about the so called "friend" girl of his whose father died? Well, there was more to that story that he did not tell me! Yesterday when I met his son and little brother for the first time we were having a great time. My bf got out the car and in the store to get us something to drink and gas up the car. While he was gone the son called me the other girl's name(We have a very similar name) !! I didn't realize it a first because he's 4 and I really didn't what he was saying. So, the brother told the little boy her name is not *blank* it's *blank* I was shocked! When he got back in the car I told him what happened and he said we'll talk at the restaurant. I was so upset, but kept cool because kids were around. When the kids played in the arcade at the Resturant I asked...so what's this situation with the girl? You told me y'all were friends, but she sounds like an ex! How do they know her. He goes on to tell me that when he left for military duty the first time she dropped him off at the airport and met his parents by default. His cousin introduced them and she knew some of his family already. His mom keeps his son while he's gone (he's a single dad) and she was around sometimes hanging out with his cousin. I ask him why would he tell me she's just a "friend" when clearly it's more than that. He says we were just friends...I made it clear that I didn't want to be in a relationship and she was fine with a friendship and tried to work her way up with my family. Since he's been back he's been with me and she has called him several times. He told her he was with his gf and she went off talking about "I thought you said you didn't want a relationship/wasn't ready. Then, come to find out she began a relationship with his mom....when he tells her he's with me or doing something with me she has no comment. His mom texted him saying "don't forget who was there for you when you had nothing" so now I'm not comfortable with meeting his mom. He tried to force me to his house because he wants me to meet her, but I refuse because if she's already in favor of this girl then she's going to find reasons not to like me. He keeps asking "what can I do to make this right and prove to you that I'm here for good" but honestly there's nothing I can think of. I was sick today and he tried to come over and bring me food and check on me, but I told him not to come. I'm really upset over this. This is not the only reg-flag either...he doesn't know how to be a bf and I tell him what he's supposed to do...when I tell him he listens and straightens up, but dang dude. You're 28 and I'm wondering how you acted in your past relationship. He's trying really hard, but i can't get over some of this crap. I don't feel welcomed in his family and don't won't to meet them at this point. I'm not sure if I should break this off or give him an chance to fix things like he's trying.