GV-NA-GI-TLV-GE-I
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I hope this is your time. Thanks for posting. You are giving many hope that they are not forgotten.
I have a crush...
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BeautifulFlower
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God doesnt forget and he does listen. I guess your blessing comes from places you least expect. I didnt even like him at first. LMAO!
Wow, who is that man in the picture of your siggy? He's kinda hot.
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preciouzone
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Hey PrettyfaceANB ,
It's been a couple of weeks... any new progress?
It's been a couple of weeks... any new progress?
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
Precious,UPDATE!
So its been a lil bit over a month and things are almost fairy tale like for me. Its pretty serious.
Where do I begin about this guy? He makes my heart smile. We've seen each other every weekend since Mexico (we live 2 hours apart). We talk on the phone throughout the day (almost) everyday. We have not made things official yet but he gave me a date of when he was planning to make it official but neither of us think we'll last that long. He shared some very deep and personal things about his life with me this morning. He wants to tell his mom about me but I keep telling him to wait. He was talking to his mother yesterday and telling her he's saving his money to have a wedding next year and I looked at him like "UMM, when where you going to tell me about this?" I am sure we WONT be marrying next year. Prayfully, 2011 but who knows.
Last night, I sent him a text message telling him that he is the one for me and he's the one I want to spend my life with. He responded by calling me and telling me we need to start preparing for marriage spiritually, etc... I dont fear expressing a thought, feeling, or emotion. I have initiated saying I love you and I'm in love with you and he reciprocates always. He accepts and reciprocates everything. He's so affectionate, considerate, and attentive. He assures me all the time that I am everything he wants and needs and I will be the future Mrs. Day.
We've already discussed wedding destination ideas, themes, pre-marital counseling (a concern because we have a long distance relationship), church home (also a concern because we both love our church homes), where we will live, where the children should go to school, etc etc etc...
There are no games. There is no guessing. There is no confusion. I prayed and God answered. You know how some people find love when they least expect. Well, my husband coming to me was very intentional. I didnt expect him but I got him and I am so glad its him. There's a security in knowing that you prayed a prayer and this is your answer. There's also comfort in knowing that if he messes up, he'll have to answer to my sister and her DH (her DH is his best friend and his relationship with my sis and DH is VERY important to him). He knows that my sis and her DH will find comfort in knowing that the man that will marry me will be someone they are confidant will give me all the love, fidelity, care, affection, and protection a man can give.
Sigh...
God truly showed off. I thank God for him always and it increases my faith that God listens and will give you the desires of your heart if you delight in him. You dont have to be perfect but your obedience does make provisions for you. I am mindful to continue to grow in Jesus because He is my life line. All that I have comes from Him and is in Him and without Him, I would have nothing and no one.
aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
Wow! Sounds like a fairytale indeed. Happy for you. 
UPDATE!
So its been a lil bit over a month and things are almost fairy tale like for me. Its pretty serious.
Where do I begin about this guy? He makes my heart smile. We've seen each other every weekend since Mexico (we live 2 hours apart). We talk on the phone throughout the day (almost) everyday. We have not made things official yet but he gave me a date of when he was planning to make it official but neither of us think we'll last that long. He shared some very deep and personal things about his life with me this morning. He wants to tell his mom about me but I keep telling him to wait. He was talking to his mother yesterday and telling her he's saving his money to have a wedding next year and I looked at him like "UMM, when where you going to tell me about this?" I am sure we WONT be marrying next year. Prayfully, 2011 but who knows.
Last night, I sent him a text message telling him that he is the one for me and he's the one I want to spend my life with. He responded by calling me and telling me we need to start preparing for marriage spiritually, etc... I dont fear expressing a thought, feeling, or emotion. I have initiated saying I love you and I'm in love with you and he reciprocates always. He accepts and reciprocates everything. He's so affectionate, considerate, and attentive. He assures me all the time that I am everything he wants and needs and I will be the future Mrs. Day.
We've already discussed wedding destination ideas, themes, pre-marital counseling (a concern because we have a long distance relationship), church home (also a concern because we both love our church homes), where we will live, where the children should go to school, etc etc etc...
There are no games. There is no guessing. There is no confusion. I prayed and God answered. You know how some people find love when they least expect. Well, my husband coming to me was very intentional. I didnt expect him but I got him and I am so glad its him. There's a security in knowing that you prayed a prayer and this is your answer. There's also comfort in knowing that if he messes up, he'll have to answer to my sister and her DH (her DH is his best friend and his relationship with my sis and DH is VERY important to him). He knows that my sis and her DH will find comfort in knowing that the man that will marry me will be someone they are confidant will give me all the love, fidelity, care, affection, and protection a man can give.
Sigh...
God truly showed off. I thank God for him always and it increases my faith that God listens and will give you the desires of your heart if you delight in him. You dont have to be perfect but your obedience does make provisions for you. I am mindful to continue to grow in Jesus because He is my life line. All that I have comes from Him and is in Him and without Him, I would have nothing and no one.
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
Wow! Sounds like a fairytale indeed. Happy for you.
My best friend today was like GIRL YOU ARE GLOWING FOR REAL!
He makes me happy. I just called him, asked him what he was doing and he says, "Writing you a poem and printing out pictures of you."
:lovedrool: 
:reddancer: 
Renewed1
Well-Known Member
I pray that this is your time to shine. I wanted to thank you for starting this thread. This has been an encouragement for me.
I too ask God to allow me to meet my husband so we can be FRIENDS. We'll see. But your thread has been an encouragement.
I pray everything works out for you.
I too ask God to allow me to meet my husband so we can be FRIENDS. We'll see. But your thread has been an encouragement.
I pray everything works out for you.
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
I am so confident in the power of prayer. Just staying close to the heart of God, always praying and thinking about Him, reading the word, and MORE prayer. I said & read this one prayer many many nights:
[pray]"Lord God, your Word declares that if I delight myself in you—if I enjoy and seek your pleasure above mine—you'll give me the desires of my heart (Psalm 37:4). Desiring a husband is neither evil nor selfish because marriage is honorable (Hebrews 13:4). At the beginning of creation, you proclaimed, "It is not good that man should be alone" and then you created Eve to be a suitable partner for Adam (Genesis 2:18). In the name of Jesus, I ask that you would protect the husband—a suitable partner—you have chosen for me. Because the covenant of marriage is sacred (Mark 10:9), I ask for a man of God. Please give me a husband whose love for me is only outmatched by his love for you; a man who will cherish me and build me up (Proverbs 31:28); a man who will honor me (I Peter 3:7) and our marriage vows; a man who will be a good father and provider; a man whom I will be attracted to physically, emotionally, and spiritually; a man who will love me as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Keep me from attaching myself to another man out of desperation. I will not settle for a relationship that's second best, convenient, or one that feeds my insecurities. Guard my purity and give me the patience to wait. And when I meet him, confirm to me that he is the one. Release from me the baggage of past relationships, and prepare me for the man You have chosen to be my husband. Free me from any hindrances to a healthy and godly marriage: insecurities, habitual sins, selfishness, and emotional hurts. Dispel my unrealistic expectations that set me up for disappointment. I place my trust in you rather than my partner. In this period of waiting, I will look to you alone to be my companion and best friend. You are the one who redeems my life from the pit, who crowns me with love and compassion, who satisfies my desires with good things (Psalm 103:4-5). I will not be anxious, but as I present my requests to you, flood me with the peace that surpasses all understanding so my heart and my mind are guarded in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6,7). In this request, I commit myself to trust you and do good, to dwell in the land and feed on your faithfulness. I commit my way to you and trust that you will bring it to pass (Psalm 37:35). Amen" [pray]
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I pray many peace and blessing and love to coming running after you like nothing else. Also, look at who is around you now. He may not be EVERYTHING but God is still working on him and you.
How did I miss THIS news
SHOWERS OF BLESSINGS IN ABUNDANCE..& BLISS......
love the family connection..in all of it...
GOD IS GREAT
I love it too.
There's security in it. Thank you for your blessings. 
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Prudent1
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Wow!! What an awesome prayer! Pretty, I am so happy for you! How uplifting to be reminded of our God's faithfulness!
I wanted to share this one with some of the ladies too.
Knowing God’s Plan for You Regarding Marriage
Unto You, O Lord, do I bring my desire to find a godly husband (wife). Lord, I trust in, lean on, rely on and am confident in You. Let me not be put to shame or be disappointed; let not my enemies, the spirits of rejection, hurt, inferiority, or unworthiness triumph over me (Psalm 25).
Heavenly Father, it is written, “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you”, says the Lord, “thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Then you will call upon Me, and you will come and pray to Me, and I will hear and heed you. Then you will seek Me, inquire for, and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” says the Lord (Jeremiah 29:11-14 amp)
Heavenly Father, I am looking for Your plan, Your answer for my life. It is my desire to be married. But I must be sure in my decision that I am living as You intend and than I am accepting whatever situation You have put me into. According to Your Word, marriage will bring extra problems that I may not need to face at this time in my life.
Lord you weigh the spirits, the thoughts and the intents of the heart (Proverbs 16:2), therefore, I give them wholly to You. I ask that You cause my thoughts to become agreeable to Your will, and so shall my plans be established and succeed. Because You Lord, are my Shepherd and I have everything I need! I trust to You my life, Lord, that You will let me rest in the meadow grass and lead me beside the quiet streams. You will give me new strength and help me do what honors and glorifies You the most. Heavenly Father, help me to not be afraid, and to know that You are close beside me, guarding and guiding me all the way as I seek Your will for my life. Lord teach me to always pray and not to faint, lose heart, or give up that I may know Your will for my life. I ask You Lord to give me strength to accept Your will even if that means that it is not Your will for me to be married at this time (Luke 18:1). In Jesus Name I pray. Amen!
I wanted to share this one with some of the ladies too.
Knowing God’s Plan for You Regarding Marriage
Unto You, O Lord, do I bring my desire to find a godly husband (wife). Lord, I trust in, lean on, rely on and am confident in You. Let me not be put to shame or be disappointed; let not my enemies, the spirits of rejection, hurt, inferiority, or unworthiness triumph over me (Psalm 25).
Heavenly Father, it is written, “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you”, says the Lord, “thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Then you will call upon Me, and you will come and pray to Me, and I will hear and heed you. Then you will seek Me, inquire for, and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” says the Lord (Jeremiah 29:11-14 amp)
Heavenly Father, I am looking for Your plan, Your answer for my life. It is my desire to be married. But I must be sure in my decision that I am living as You intend and than I am accepting whatever situation You have put me into. According to Your Word, marriage will bring extra problems that I may not need to face at this time in my life.
Lord you weigh the spirits, the thoughts and the intents of the heart (Proverbs 16:2), therefore, I give them wholly to You. I ask that You cause my thoughts to become agreeable to Your will, and so shall my plans be established and succeed. Because You Lord, are my Shepherd and I have everything I need! I trust to You my life, Lord, that You will let me rest in the meadow grass and lead me beside the quiet streams. You will give me new strength and help me do what honors and glorifies You the most. Heavenly Father, help me to not be afraid, and to know that You are close beside me, guarding and guiding me all the way as I seek Your will for my life. Lord teach me to always pray and not to faint, lose heart, or give up that I may know Your will for my life. I ask You Lord to give me strength to accept Your will even if that means that it is not Your will for me to be married at this time (Luke 18:1). In Jesus Name I pray. Amen!
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
A little update:
Last night, we decided to come forward to the family this weekend. I am excited and nervous. This courtship has been awesome. He is the most amazing man. He loves and takes care of me. I never have to guess how he feels. He'll do anything for me. We have so much fun together. I could go on and on. I am truly grateful to God for his grace and mercy to send me someone that loves and cares for me so much as he does.
I dont know ladies....there might another engagement story in the future.
Last night, we decided to come forward to the family this weekend. I am excited and nervous. This courtship has been awesome. He is the most amazing man. He loves and takes care of me. I never have to guess how he feels. He'll do anything for me. We have so much fun together. I could go on and on. I am truly grateful to God for his grace and mercy to send me someone that loves and cares for me so much as he does.
I dont know ladies....there might another engagement story in the future.
PinkPebbles
Well-Known Member
A little update:
Last night, we decided to come forward to the family this weekend. I am excited and nervous. This courtship has been awesome. He is the most amazing man. He loves and takes care of me. I never have to guess how he feels. He'll do anything for me. We have so much fun together. I could go on and on. I am truly grateful to God for his grace and mercy to send me someone that loves and cares for me so much as he does.
I dont know ladies....there might another engagement story in the future.
That's exciting news....I wish you the best
!!!ladyofvirtue
Member
I am just so happy for you.
What a beautiful bride you will make!
Let us know when you "two shall become one."
What a beautiful bride you will make!
Let us know when you "two shall become one."
The Savvy Sistah
New Member
I am so happy for you! This is such a positive example for women who have a desire to do it "God's way"! Make sure you keep us posted and you will be in my prayers!
Renewed1
Well-Known Member
Yes, I'm happy for you prettyface. I recently started praying for my husband this summer. I do believe that God is going to deliver him complete and ready for me by the summer of next year.
But I love the part you asked God, if he's not the one to keep you active. Plus the other advice to keep your heart and mind aligned with God's.
But I love the part you asked God, if he's not the one to keep you active. Plus the other advice to keep your heart and mind aligned with God's.
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
Hey ladies. Thanks for your words of encourage. I promise you, the best thing you can do is pray and be ready for God's choice. It may not be what you expect but it will be the best thing you've ever experienced.
Hi prettyfaceanb
I'm so happy for u cause I've secretly
been following your tread and at the same time that u found this wonderful relationship and shared it with us (not the two crushes before...told you i was following your tread!) something amazing happened to me, i met my husband
to be and we are getting engaged this February!!!!!!!!!!!! 
I couldn't wait to hear from you, i was praying and hoping that everything was still on track... I'm so happy for you, i finally subscribe today so i could share with all of you, cause prettyfaceanb didn't have to share something so personal but she did even though it started with two different crushes!!!!
It was a blessing for me
, so i had to share and tell you how much of a blessing u were by share this. I hope I'm as much of a blessing to someone else by share this and yes as u read this and rejoice for prettyfaceanb and I remember if GOD can do it for us he would do it for u, even as you say to ur self i can't wait anymore 
. know that GOD is bringing u the perfect one for u!!
Sorry for being long,and going crazy with the smilies, feel free to ask away if you have any questions or comments
I'm so happy for u cause I've secretly
been following your tread and at the same time that u found this wonderful relationship and shared it with us (not the two crushes before...told you i was following your tread!) something amazing happened to me, i met my husband to be and we are getting engaged this February!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't wait to hear from you, i was praying and hoping that everything was still on track... I'm so happy for you, i finally subscribe today so i could share with all of you, cause prettyfaceanb didn't have to share something so personal but she did even though it started with two different crushes!!!!
It was a blessing for me
, so i had to share and tell you how much of a blessing u were by share this. I hope I'm as much of a blessing to someone else by share this and yes as u read this and rejoice for prettyfaceanb and I remember if GOD can do it for us he would do it for u, even as you say to ur self i can't wait anymore . know that GOD is bringing u the perfect one for u!!Sorry for being long,and going crazy with the smilies, feel free to ask away if you have any questions or comments
Renewed1
Well-Known Member
I hope I'm as much of a blessing to someone else by share this and yes as u read this and rejoice for prettyfaceanb and I remember if GOD can do it for us he would do it for u, even as you say to ur self i can't wait anymore
Thank you for writing this....I needed to hear this. Because I was just having fits about this earlier today.
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
LOL! I guess this thread has been a little journey for me. Those other guys, though nice, I see now that it wasnt supposed to go past just being friends. The first, well...he is truly a man of God...but I am too tall. Shallow but reality. The other, he was nice and fun to hang with but he never had a girlfriend soo....he had no clue about women. Totally clueless. So I am friends with them now.
This guy was 100% a pursuer. I prayed and he came to me. I remember when I first met him, I didnt think much of him. Now, he means the world to me. Go figure!
@Changed - Dont fret...God has a plan for you. It is impossible to please God without faith. Ask, be content, and trust that its coming without delay.
So I am friends with them now. This guy was 100% a pursuer. I prayed and he came to me. I remember when I first met him, I didnt think much of him. Now, he means the world to me. Go figure!
@Changed - Dont fret...God has a plan for you. It is impossible to please God without faith. Ask, be content, and trust that its coming without delay.
Hi prettyfaceanb
I'm so happy for u cause I've secretly
I couldn't wait to hear from you, i was praying and hoping that everything was still on track... I'm so happy for you, i finally subscribe today so i could share with all of you, cause prettyfaceanb didn't have to share something so personal but she did even though it started with two different crushes!!!!
It was a blessing for me
Sorry for being long,and going crazy with the smilies, feel free to ask away if you have any questions or comments
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Hi Changed
I know how it feels cause i have been there, always trying to remind myself to be happy for my friends who got there before me, not letting jealousy or envy sip through my heart..so this is what i would do..i would say: if GOD did it for her.. He is showing me that He is the GOD of miracles, and grace, and He can still do it for me... matter of fact i know he hasn't forgotten about be! So i would say Diane be genuinely happy cause u would want people to be happy for u when u r next! cause u are next!!!!!!
I would search my heart and make an effort to get rid of all envy or jealousy and be happy.
I started praying for marriage when i was 26, i am now 29 so i had my periods where i would boo ooh
, cried to my mom
and say when lord when
, how long lord i cant take this any longer
,
But i also took this time to work on me, on being a better person and grow in my lord.
I was all about me wanting to b marry, having a big wedding, having a family and children it was like a rite of passage and i wanted in, to make myself feel like i was okay, i wasn't a failure, I was good enough for someone good to marry me, and i would b on track to be happy and succeed, but it was all coming from a pretty selfish place.
Not that I'm perfect now far from the truth, but i know now, that I'm a better equipped to be a wife then i was before.
Marriage is about GOD, love, understanding,respect, and growing together,and be willing to put somebody interest before your own.
It about GOD because baby unless GOD says u r ready you are not so first and foremost turn to GOD and seek his face and even as it is taking some time trust that he is getting you prepare!
love cause obviously you need to love each other the kind of love that GOD gives, not infatuation, not hot steamy passion ( not that it hurts) cause after a while infatuation turns into reality and the person you thought u loved.. now u can't seem to stand anymore... and passion fades out,
but true love is the kind of love that GOD has for us and unless u know GOD and how much he loves you to the point that He gave the most important thing for you and never regretting it, even as we fall short! that the kind of love that we should have!
do u have that kind of love for ur husband, or ur husband to be or ur significant other! would you give what is most dear to u for their sake and never trow it back in their faces when they come short of what u expect or come down from the pedestal on which you put them!
would you allow them to be who they are without trying to change them into what you want them to be but would you love them still and even more once you realize u can't change them or would the Little habits that u were overlooking before start to annoy you or things that u used to consider cute qualities in ur partner become to be a source of frustration
understanding that u r not perfect and he or she is not, we run toward the price which is perfection but none of us has achieve it yet, so make room for each other to grow, encouraging, each other to be better and knowing that u might come short and he might as well come short, challenging each other to do better and never ever nagging no one likes to b kick when they are down or constantly be reminded of their short coming ,,,,are u sure u r ready for this
respect is so important, is to show the other u value them, their opinions, is giving ur partner some consideration and reciprocation, treating them with dignity no matter what
growing together so u don't grow apart, learn what is important to him share an interest, spend quality time together, pray together, fast together, never go to bed upset at each other, but also allowing him is alone time that might not necessarily involve you, but still feel secure and confident
i haven't master all of it but I'm definitely better at them now it took some time to get here but i can say it was Worth it !!!!
Changed as i type this know that u are being prepared and GOD is working wonder on ur behalf he loves too much not to.
It took 3 years for me to get here, i met my husband to be in July and in February we are getting engaged in Annapolison a boat.
Trust God and dream big cause GOD will out performed your dream cause their is no limit to our mighty GOD.
I love you in the lord and will keep you in my prayers
prettyfaceanb sorry for the long post
I know how it feels cause i have been there, always trying to remind myself to be happy for my friends who got there before me, not letting jealousy or envy sip through my heart..so this is what i would do..i would say: if GOD did it for her.. He is showing me that He is the GOD of miracles, and grace, and He can still do it for me... matter of fact i know he hasn't forgotten about be! So i would say Diane be genuinely happy cause u would want people to be happy for u when u r next! cause u are next!!!!!!
I would search my heart and make an effort to get rid of all envy or jealousy and be happy.
I started praying for marriage when i was 26, i am now 29 so i had my periods where i would boo ooh
, cried to my mom and say when lord when, how long lord i cant take this any longer, But i also took this time to work on me, on being a better person and grow in my lord.
I was all about me wanting to b marry, having a big wedding, having a family and children it was like a rite of passage and i wanted in, to make myself feel like i was okay, i wasn't a failure, I was good enough for someone good to marry me, and i would b on track to be happy and succeed, but it was all coming from a pretty selfish place.
Not that I'm perfect now far from the truth, but i know now, that I'm a better equipped to be a wife then i was before.
Marriage is about GOD, love, understanding,respect, and growing together,and be willing to put somebody interest before your own.
It about GOD because baby unless GOD says u r ready you are not so first and foremost turn to GOD and seek his face and even as it is taking some time trust that he is getting you prepare!
love cause obviously you need to love each other the kind of love that GOD gives, not infatuation, not hot steamy passion ( not that it hurts) cause after a while infatuation turns into reality and the person you thought u loved.. now u can't seem to stand anymore... and passion fades out,
but true love is the kind of love that GOD has for us and unless u know GOD and how much he loves you to the point that He gave the most important thing for you and never regretting it, even as we fall short! that the kind of love that we should have!
do u have that kind of love for ur husband, or ur husband to be or ur significant other! would you give what is most dear to u for their sake and never trow it back in their faces when they come short of what u expect or come down from the pedestal on which you put them!
would you allow them to be who they are without trying to change them into what you want them to be but would you love them still and even more once you realize u can't change them or would the Little habits that u were overlooking before start to annoy you or things that u used to consider cute qualities in ur partner become to be a source of frustration
understanding that u r not perfect and he or she is not, we run toward the price which is perfection but none of us has achieve it yet, so make room for each other to grow, encouraging, each other to be better and knowing that u might come short and he might as well come short, challenging each other to do better and never ever nagging no one likes to b kick when they are down or constantly be reminded of their short coming ,,,,are u sure u r ready for this
respect is so important, is to show the other u value them, their opinions, is giving ur partner some consideration and reciprocation, treating them with dignity no matter what
growing together so u don't grow apart, learn what is important to him share an interest, spend quality time together, pray together, fast together, never go to bed upset at each other, but also allowing him is alone time that might not necessarily involve you, but still feel secure and confident
i haven't master all of it but I'm definitely better at them now it took some time to get here but i can say it was Worth it !!!!
Changed as i type this know that u are being prepared and GOD is working wonder on ur behalf he loves too much not to.
It took 3 years for me to get here, i met my husband to be in July and in February we are getting engaged in Annapolison a boat.
Trust God and dream big cause GOD will out performed your dream cause their is no limit to our mighty GOD.
I love you in the lord and will keep you in my prayers
prettyfaceanb sorry for the long post
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
This was a great post. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Hi Changed
I know how it feels cause i have been there, always trying to remind myself to be happy for my friends who got there before me, not letting jealousy or envy sip through my heart..so this is what i would do..i would say: if GOD did it for her.. He is showing me that He is the GOD of miracles, and grace, and He can still do it for me... matter of fact i know he hasn't forgotten about be! So i would say Diane be genuinely happy cause u would want people to be happy for u when u r next! cause u are next!!!!!!
I would search my heart and make an effort to get rid of all envy or jealousy and be happy.
I started praying for marriage when i was 26, i am now 29 so i had my periods where i would boo ooh
But i also took this time to work on me, on being a better person and grow in my lord.
I was all about me wanting to b marry, having a big wedding, having a family and children it was like a rite of passage and i wanted in, to make myself feel like i was okay, i wasn't a failure, I was good enough for someone good to marry me, and i would b on track to be happy and succeed, but it was all coming from a pretty selfish place.
Not that I'm perfect now far from the truth, but i know now, that I'm a better equipped to be a wife then i was before.
Marriage is about GOD, love, understanding,respect, and growing together,and be willing to put somebody interest before your own.
It about GOD because baby unless GOD says u r ready you are not so first and foremost turn to GOD and seek his face and even as it is taking some time trust that he is getting you prepare!
love cause obviously you need to love each other the kind of love that GOD gives, not infatuation, not hot steamy passion ( not that it hurts) cause after a while infatuation turns into reality and the person you thought u loved.. now u can't seem to stand anymore... and passion fades out,
but true love is the kind of love that GOD has for us and unless u know GOD and how much he loves you to the point that He gave the most important thing for you and never regretting it, even as we fall short! that the kind of love that we should have!
do u have that kind of love for ur husband, or ur husband to be or ur significant other! would you give what is most dear to u for their sake and never trow it back in their faces when they come short of what u expect or come down from the pedestal on which you put them!
would you allow them to be who they are without trying to change them into what you want them to be but would you love them still and even more once you realize u can't change them or would the Little habits that u were overlooking before start to annoy you or things that u used to consider cute qualities in ur partner become to be a source of frustration
understanding that u r not perfect and he or she is not, we run toward the price which is perfection but none of us has achieve it yet, so make room for each other to grow, encouraging, each other to be better and knowing that u might come short and he might as well come short, challenging each other to do better and never ever nagging no one likes to b kick when they are down or constantly be reminded of their short coming ,,,,are u sure u r ready for this
respect is so important, is to show the other u value them, their opinions, is giving ur partner some consideration and reciprocation, treating them with dignity no matter what
growing together so u don't grow apart, learn what is important to him share an interest, spend quality time together, pray together, fast together, never go to bed upset at each other, but also allowing him is alone time that might not necessarily involve you, but still feel secure and confident
i haven't master all of it but I'm definitely better at them now it took some time to get here but i can say it was Worth it !!!!
Changed as i type this know that u are being prepared and GOD is working wonder on ur behalf he loves too much not to.
It took 3 years for me to get here, i met my husband to be in July and in February we are getting engaged in Annapolison a boat.
Trust God and dream big cause GOD will out performed your dream cause their is no limit to our mighty GOD.
I love you in the lord and will keep you in my prayers
prettyfaceanb sorry for the long post
I know you were talking to changed but I just got checked with this quote here.
Jenibo
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Ok this thread just provided me with insight. My reasonings for wanting marriage were very selfish, and when I truly think about what marriage entails I'm not ready. For now my focus is on God and I will wait on Him while He works on and through me. Thx to all the ladies who shared and for the prayers that were posted- and congrats Pretty!!!
Renewed1
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Thank you yahi. These last few months have been intersting for me. I went through being prompted to pray for my husband, to now just praying for myself and focusing on the areas of my life that needs repairing and keeping busy.
But before I read this post yesterday, I did pray that in my marriage that God gets the glory. I've done alot of self evaluation and my desire for marriage isn't selfish, but to glorify God. Thank you for confirmation as I wait on God.
Be bless.
But before I read this post yesterday, I did pray that in my marriage that God gets the glory. I've done alot of self evaluation and my desire for marriage isn't selfish, but to glorify God. Thank you for confirmation as I wait on God.
Be bless.
Hi Changed
I know how it feels cause i have been there, always trying to remind myself to be happy for my friends who got there before me, not letting jealousy or envy sip through my heart..so this is what i would do..i would say: if GOD did it for her.. He is showing me that He is the GOD of miracles, and grace, and He can still do it for me... matter of fact i know he hasn't forgotten about be! So i would say Diane be genuinely happy cause u would want people to be happy for u when u r next! cause u are next!!!!!!
I would search my heart and make an effort to get rid of all envy or jealousy and be happy.
I started praying for marriage when i was 26, i am now 29 so i had my periods where i would boo ooh
But i also took this time to work on me, on being a better person and grow in my lord.
I was all about me wanting to b marry, having a big wedding, having a family and children it was like a rite of passage and i wanted in, to make myself feel like i was okay, i wasn't a failure, I was good enough for someone good to marry me, and i would b on track to be happy and succeed, but it was all coming from a pretty selfish place.
Not that I'm perfect now far from the truth, but i know now, that I'm a better equipped to be a wife then i was before.
Marriage is about GOD, love, understanding,respect, and growing together,and be willing to put somebody interest before your own.
It about GOD because baby unless GOD says u r ready you are not so first and foremost turn to GOD and seek his face and even as it is taking some time trust that he is getting you prepare!
love cause obviously you need to love each other the kind of love that GOD gives, not infatuation, not hot steamy passion ( not that it hurts) cause after a while infatuation turns into reality and the person you thought u loved.. now u can't seem to stand anymore... and passion fades out,
but true love is the kind of love that GOD has for us and unless u know GOD and how much he loves you to the point that He gave the most important thing for you and never regretting it, even as we fall short! that the kind of love that we should have!
do u have that kind of love for ur husband, or ur husband to be or ur significant other! would you give what is most dear to u for their sake and never trow it back in their faces when they come short of what u expect or come down from the pedestal on which you put them!
would you allow them to be who they are without trying to change them into what you want them to be but would you love them still and even more once you realize u can't change them or would the Little habits that u were overlooking before start to annoy you or things that u used to consider cute qualities in ur partner become to be a source of frustration
understanding that u r not perfect and he or she is not, we run toward the price which is perfection but none of us has achieve it yet, so make room for each other to grow, encouraging, each other to be better and knowing that u might come short and he might as well come short, challenging each other to do better and never ever nagging no one likes to b kick when they are down or constantly be reminded of their short coming ,,,,are u sure u r ready for this
respect is so important, is to show the other u value them, their opinions, is giving ur partner some consideration and reciprocation, treating them with dignity no matter what
growing together so u don't grow apart, learn what is important to him share an interest, spend quality time together, pray together, fast together, never go to bed upset at each other, but also allowing him is alone time that might not necessarily involve you, but still feel secure and confident
i haven't master all of it but I'm definitely better at them now it took some time to get here but i can say it was Worth it !!!!
Changed as i type this know that u are being prepared and GOD is working wonder on ur behalf he loves too much not to.
It took 3 years for me to get here, i met my husband to be in July and in February we are getting engaged in Annapolison a boat.
Trust God and dream big cause GOD will out performed your dream cause their is no limit to our mighty GOD.
I love you in the lord and will keep you in my prayers
prettyfaceanb sorry for the long post
BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
Sometimes we feel like God has to get us 'ready' to be a wife or to bring our mate. Define ready? There is no definition because God uses big and small to serve a purpose. Your mate finding you is to serve a purpose and that purpose is to learn something about God and ultimately bring him glory.
I feel as though we as women expect so much of ourselves that causes us to place the focus on 'fixing' ourselves so God will be happy with you and then you'll find a husband. Thats often not the case. God uses the broken to accomplish great things, those people that feel they are least qualified. And its though the hard times that we learn the things we need to that prepare us to share ourselves with someone else.
I had been through a bad break-up before my SO. It caused me to run after God and reprioritize. My SO had been with women that were nice but did not understand the man he is and his needs. Its through the things we've been through that makes us fit so well and had we not gone through those things, we would NOT be on the same page now, I guarentee you that. I thought I was ready to meet my husband. When my SO came into my life and we began courting, I soon found out I wasnt very ready at all. We had to fix, communicate, compromise, and sacrifice to be ready for each other. I think thats the only thing I was really ready to do. And it was a blessing that God sent me a man that is 100% all about communication and compromise for the one you love.
So trust, I was not ready when I got with him. I am still getting ready.
God will send you someone when the time is right and the purpose he has set is ready to be put in motion.
I feel as though we as women expect so much of ourselves that causes us to place the focus on 'fixing' ourselves so God will be happy with you and then you'll find a husband. Thats often not the case. God uses the broken to accomplish great things, those people that feel they are least qualified. And its though the hard times that we learn the things we need to that prepare us to share ourselves with someone else.
I had been through a bad break-up before my SO. It caused me to run after God and reprioritize. My SO had been with women that were nice but did not understand the man he is and his needs. Its through the things we've been through that makes us fit so well and had we not gone through those things, we would NOT be on the same page now, I guarentee you that. I thought I was ready to meet my husband. When my SO came into my life and we began courting, I soon found out I wasnt very ready at all. We had to fix, communicate, compromise, and sacrifice to be ready for each other. I think thats the only thing I was really ready to do. And it was a blessing that God sent me a man that is 100% all about communication and compromise for the one you love.
So trust, I was not ready when I got with him. I am still getting ready.
God will send you someone when the time is right and the purpose he has set is ready to be put in motion.
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natural in ATL
15+ years natural
I just saw this thread and I read it from beginning to end. What an awesome God we serve! Pretty, I'm so happy for you and I wish you and your future DH all of God's blessings!
I totally agree with your last post about being "ready". I was not necessarily ready when I met my future husband - we were both enjoying our single lives and not necessarily looking for a spouse. I still had a lot of growing to do. But when God blesses a relationship you can see the difference in yourself. I became a better person once I was with him, I became more understanding/patient/loving/thoughtful/giving. And none of these changes took any effort or thought - they just happened! I believe that's how it flows when you finally meet the one God has created for you.
We are getting married in 2011 and I thank God every day for not bringing us together until the time was right. I'm praying for everyone in this thread who has expressed a desire to grow in their relationship with God while He prepares them for their husband! Trust me, it is worth the wait!!
I totally agree with your last post about being "ready". I was not necessarily ready when I met my future husband - we were both enjoying our single lives and not necessarily looking for a spouse. I still had a lot of growing to do. But when God blesses a relationship you can see the difference in yourself. I became a better person once I was with him, I became more understanding/patient/loving/thoughtful/giving. And none of these changes took any effort or thought - they just happened! I believe that's how it flows when you finally meet the one God has created for you.
We are getting married in 2011 and I thank God every day for not bringing us together until the time was right.
I'm praying for everyone in this thread who has expressed a desire to grow in their relationship with God while He prepares them for their husband! Trust me, it is worth the wait!!
