I DID IT! Naturals and Relaxed heads <3

Congrats!!! Now where dem pitchas at? You know how we do when there ain't no pitchassss!

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^^^ LOL at that avatar!!!!!

Congrats OP!! I might be going the same way, you have to do what is right for you and your hair!
 
lmao @ you gave up the good fight:lachen:
congrats. im sure your hair will continue to grow healthy and long.
 
I just want to say thank you for all the responses! When I posted this I was at school and was not able to respond by time I left school! But I really thank everybody for responding and I will say that this new hair will be an adventure seeing as though I never mastered it the first time around! lol :lachen:
 
Congrats on your decision! :clap: Now you know you need to show pics right? :look:

lol! I will, right now I am literally boring the heck out of my hair because it's in buns buns and more buns. lol. I am trying to get the hang out using protein now due to the obvious reasons! lol relaxer + color = need protein in my life! I NEVER used it when I was natural!
 
i'll take pictures! But my hair is just in a bun! I'lll be wet buning, or damp buning and stretching my relaxers until I grow out the front of my hair!:wallbash:
 
Its your decision so there is no need to explain it :) I wanna see pics too:drunk:

Keep the name you may decide to stop relaxing :lachen:


lol thats true! but I rather it be versatile so I won't be back and forth with it. So far I'm enjoying my relaxed hair btw. This girl annoyed me today though, she was like,"Oh we like it like this, keep it this way." I was like, "Well if I decide to go natural again I will." Made me want to cut it off right there. lol, just because she was being so typical. :nono:
 
As some of you may know, I put up a thread about wanting to relax and or cut my hair etc. Well 2 nights ago I made the decision to try the relaxer again after 1yr and 5 months of being natural.

The experience: I did my first self relaxer. I didn't leave it on any longer than I was supposed to. I neutralized and based my scalp. It was so weird seeing my hair straight like that. I had a sad feeling (but that was the same feeling I had when I first went natural or the 5 times I cut my hair short lol)

Afterthoughts: I don't regret doing it, but I do feel like I betrayed the natural world (even though i know its not that serious! lol) I have 2 ladies at work that are natural and we just talked about being natural the day before. The next day I went in with a bun and bangs and they both complimented my hair, and asked did I flat iron. I told them no and the one said, "You gave up the good fight." I felt bad... like she really was upset with me or something!

My initial reason to go natural was to start off with healthy hair. I never was a die hard natural. I was never the one to knock relaxers, or talk down on people who did use them. I honestly felt like the only way to get my hair long was to go natural. I was so naive to healthy hair practices PERIOD. But coming on LHCF has let me know that there are plenty of healthy long haired relaxed heads.

My decision was try the relaxer again was due to:
TIME
MANAGEABILITY
NEED FOR CHANGE


I know that many naturals will say that if I wanted a straight look then just flat iron. But honestly that was not a realistic option for my lifestyle. I know that everybody is different, but for my situation I wasn't able to get this done as often as I'd like. Also, it takes way too much time to do anything to my hair. Hours upon Hours that I really don't have. I won't say that I gave up, because I was not FED UP with my hair necessarily. I just made a conscious decision for my life.


Also, I know that many people say that our hair is so versatile in it's natural state... and it IS. But so is relaxed hair. You can obtain curls, waves, twists etc as well. So it's all versatile IMO.


But the moral of this is to let everybody know that I did decide to try the relaxed life again. It's a new challenge for me and I'm now stalking relaxed youtubers and LHC members. lol It's not bone straight, but it's straight enough to now manage! I will stretch for as long as I can and if I decide to go natural again, I'll just CHOP IT OFF. I need to not stress myself over it.

And YES, I'm going to change my user name to a more versatile name lol.


I realized one thing about life: Live in the moment and don't take life too seriously.


Thank you ALL for the support!

everything you said, describes me, how i felt being natural. i also felt like i was betraying the natural world. and i also had sad/happy feeling after i was relaxed.

and flat ironing was so unrealistic for me as well. shoot who wants to stand over a sink and flat iron for 2 or more hours, not me. id rather wake up with my hair already straight!

lol when you said "I neutralized and based my scalp. " got me to thinking:rolleyes:, becuase i didnt even base my scalp when i texlaxed lol. and i didnt use gloves. :drunk::drunk::drunk:<--
 
Congrats to you! You may want to incorporate so ceramides into your routine.

Did you use a lye or no lye relaxer?
 
Congrats to you! You may want to incorporate so ceramides into your routine.

Did you use a lye or no lye relaxer?

I used a no-lye. It was a very cheap relaxer. I'm going to try ORS next time, but I REALLY want to try a lye. But if I don't see bad results from no lye I don't see any real point of switching up.

"If it ain't broke, then why fix it?"
 
Uploading pics now, and they are pretty JANK looking, but you can get the idea. My battery "exhausted" while trying to snap a few better shots lol. Give me 5 minutes! And then then will be added! Should I put them in the OP or in a new thread?
 
I used a no-lye. It was a very cheap relaxer. I'm going to try ORS next time, but I REALLY want to try a lye. But if I don't see bad results from no lye I don't see any real point of switching up.

"If it ain't broke, then why fix it?"

Since you used a no lye, you will need to use a chelating shampoo and definitely get some products with ceramides.

Good luck in your relaxed journey!
 
Apparently I didn't get my roots well (it was my first time doing my own relaxer, bare with me lol). Butttt, I honestly love waves anyways so it didn't bother me. I may never totally make my roots extra straight (intentionally)

But this is it, I can now lay my hair down without having to get in the shower every time I want to put it in a bun. lol Sorry the pictures aren't all that and a bag of chips.


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Since you used a no lye, you will need to use a chelating shampoo and definitely get some products with ceramides.

Good luck in your relaxed journey!

I was going to get ORS aloe shampoo but I decide otherwise. What about Joicio Chelating Shampoo? Do you use lye or no lye? And also, is porosity control necessary after a chemical service?

Which products have ceramides, and what is the benefit of them? Thanks!
 
I use a no lye relaxer and I chelate my hair immediately (or at least a few days) after a relaxer and once per month with Joico chelating shampoo.

For porosity control, I use Joico Cuticle Sealer, but I do not have a problem with porosity. Have you done the porosity test? (take a hair, put it water, if it floats, you are ok. If it sinks you have a porosity problem)

Here is a good thread about ceramides:

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=442532
 
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I use a no lye relaxer and I chelate my hair immediately (or at least a few days) after a relaxer and once per month with Joico chelating shampoo.

For porosity control, I use Joico Cuticle Sealer, but I do not have a problem with porosity. Have you done the porosity test? (take a hair, put it water, if it floats, you are ok. If it sinks you have a porosity problem)

Here is a good thread about ceramides:

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=442532

So if it floats should you still use pc? or is it not necessary?
 
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