WanakeeWannaBe
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I'll probably get flamed for this (got mah gasoleen drahws on :burning but I don't blame a guy for becoming a babydaddy, even multiple times. She knew she wasn't married to him when she got pregnant, and while she didn't get knocked up by herself, she certainly remained that way alone. Last I checked, abortion is still legal in all 50, and if she doesn't/didn't believe in abortion, she shouldn't have been fornicating. Yesyesyes - a man can strap on and/or pull out but unless his nuts'r cut, sometimes fertility happens, and he gets zero say if he'd rather pay for an abortion over child support.
So whether the guy has one child/one bm or 5-6 w/3-4, I can't get mad at him. Even if he's not paying support, doesn't see his kids, I can't get mad at him. The female made the ultimate decision to lock herself into his life with a kid, and she's at fault for not making a better choice in a father for her child.
Full disclosure: I dated a guy with multiple kids, multiple babymamas, and discovered that he was a phenomenal person who treated me very well. So whatever mistakes a man, or any person, makes in his past don't have to define his future. JM
So whether the guy has one child/one bm or 5-6 w/3-4, I can't get mad at him. Even if he's not paying support, doesn't see his kids, I can't get mad at him. The female made the ultimate decision to lock herself into his life with a kid, and she's at fault for not making a better choice in a father for her child.
Full disclosure: I dated a guy with multiple kids, multiple babymamas, and discovered that he was a phenomenal person who treated me very well. So whatever mistakes a man, or any person, makes in his past don't have to define his future. JM