In my 20s. One.
Soon I'll be 30. Two is now too many. I wouldn't hold anything against a 35-year-old, successful, respectable man who had a baby at 25 and things just didn't work out with the mama. (I just hope he doesn't have several children with the one baby mama. That's another topic.)
Girl I'm 31 and I used to say heyall no but now I'm reconsidering . There's a guy who's been interested me with kids who I've blown off but I'm starting to feel like I'm judging him harshly but still... ex-wives and baby mamas are not a game..
The tone on this thread suggests that a type of 'drama' comes from the mother of the children. Well, unless you have seen this 'drama' first hand do not always assume it is instigated by her. Beware the man who always blames the ex for the drama - in many cases he is a nasty peice of work causing HER the misery and you could well be believing all the lies he is spinning....next thing you know, you are the next 'baby mama' or ex-wife and he telling lies about you too.
I can only speak for myself. The ex was a monster. It's not always the guy who is a jerk. Good guys fall for horrible women every day.
Bublin said:But what you state here is the 'norm'/stereotype. I'm stating the not so obvious and giving a little food for thought.
Bublin said:That guy you meet with the woman causing the drama...ah poor him...well do you know what drama HE is causing on the sly?? Maybe he telling you he is paying child support when infact he isn't at all. It happens.
The tone on this thread suggests that a type of 'drama' comes from the mother of the children. Well, unless you have seen this 'drama' first hand do not always assume it is instigated by her. Beware the man who always blames the ex for the drama - in many cases he is a nasty peice of work causing HER the misery and you could well be believing all the lies he is spinning....next thing you know, you are the next 'baby mama' or ex-wife and he telling lies about you too.
-Kąditty- said:I don't want to deal with any baby mamas - considering I married while young. I do feel that the older you get in age, the less likely your chance of finding a man with no children. If I ever divorced at an older age, I would not expect a man of my age group to be childless. I have a child so who would I be to demand such?
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Source of my post: I recently reconnected with a guy that is really nice, loves working with children/teens (I'm a teacher), volunteers with young black males, great father BUT has 4...yes...4 baby mamas! This was/is a HUGE turn off. I don't want to consider him as a potential SO bc of this. I was thinking that this such a waste of a really great guy. I might have been be all over him if he had 2 at the most, but FOUR is overwhelming. To me it says so much about what kind of person he might be after the fairy dust settles and I meet the real him. Irresponsible, doesn't think abt the future or consequences of his actions, undisciplined...For a minute I wanted to bypass that red flag because he's a nice guy (and reminds me of my dad) but came to my senses.
I date a man who has 4 exes and 6 children. He is 6 years older than me. At first I thought there would be a problem with the exes but there are none. He doesn't chit chat with them to tell them anything about me, where I live, or who I am. I have one son and he is comfortable with the fact that I do not want anymore children. He understands that I will graduate soon and want to pursue a career, so the idea or notion of moving in his children is not an option. They aren't problem children either. They are mostly boys and they have his quiet demeaner. The daughter is not pesty either. They youngest one is and she is questionable which is why she is getting a DNA test but she's not all that bad.
loolalooh said:I hear ya. There was a guy I turned down because he had an ex-wife and an 8-year-old son. Instead, I went with his friend who had no kids or baby mama. Turns out the guy with the ex-wife was marriage-minded and about commitment while his friend was not so much.
AnKelly said:I date a man who has 4 exes and 6 children. He is 6 years older than me. At first I thought there would be a problem with the exes but there are none. He doesn't chit chat with them to tell them anything about me, where I live, or who I am. I have one son and he is comfortable with the fact that I do not want anymore children. He understands that I will graduate soon and want to pursue a career, so the idea or notion of moving in his children is not an option. They aren't problem children either. They are mostly boys and they have his quiet demeaner. The daughter is not pesty either. They youngest one is and she is questionable which is why she is getting a DNA test but she's not all that bad.
You've only got 1 child though. It's one thing to date a man with 1 or 2 kids (personally, I wouldn't. I prefer my men with no kids) but you are dating a man who has 6 kids with 4 different women! Does it not bother you that he is a little promiscuous and will go around making kids with all the women he dates or has dated. You said you're looking for someone who is responsible and has brains. How is having 6 kids with 4 diff women responsible and brainy? Does that not concern you?