LunadeMiel
Well-Known Member
So...How long do you usually wait before getting back on the market?
You don't wait. You just go whenever the opportunity presents itself & wherever you feel like going. Whomever you feel like going with. You don't need a uniformed increment of approval to do your thing. IMO the sooner the better. Helps get your mind off of the ex and keeps you from sulking in the house by yourself on a Friday night. It's just dating. Keep it light.
You don't wait. You just go whenever the opportunity presents itself & wherever you feel like going. Whomever you feel like going with. You don't need a uniformed increment of approval to do your thing. IMO the sooner the better. Helps get your mind off of the ex and keeps you from sulking in the house by yourself on a Friday night. It's just dating. Keep it light.
Good Post I never thought of it that way.
You go back "into the market" when you are ready; and I'd suggest that you wait until you can do so without hauling the "baggage" from your most recent split to the market with you.
So...How long do you usually wait before getting back on the market?
You and your boyfriend broke up?
I've always heard it takes half as long as the relationship was to truly get over the past relationship and be ready to move on.
So, 1 year=6 mos.
Soooooooooo agree with Browndilocks.
Move on to bigger and better ASAP. No need in dwelling on a dude who was not worth your time, treated you like ish, and/or did not respect/love you enough to work on his relationship with you.
Why stress over him when another man can care for you, court you and just love you.
Life is short.....don't waste it dwelling on dude when a gentleman is waiting.
I think its a good thing to spend some time alone after the break-up of a serious relationship. (or divorce but I'm not sure if this is included) However, I don't think there's a set time frame
The time alone should be used for evaluation. What went wrong, what did/didn't I like about that person, what do I need to work on etc.
That time should also be used to heal, if necessary. No sense in bringing your bs into another situation. Or using someone else to get over your ex.
Also, you don't have to sulk at home. There are plenty of things to do besides date.
Also the excuse that men do it doesn't justify why anyone else should do it. In fact I always wondered why men just jump from one "relationship" to the next. Never thought it was wise.
But hey, we all have different ways of living life.
Yes.....
But not all relationships end because someone screwed you over.
These responses have me wondering whether or not people have issues with being without a man.
i didn't say it was all about a man screwing you over. it could that the person is wasting your time and standing in the way of the one you are meant to be with.
a person does not have to have long dry spells in order to be comfortable by herself. the point is that she should not purposely prevent herself from pursuing another relationship if one just ended. IMO let things happen naturally and the cards fall where they may should she meet another man the next day.
This is where I am at this point...i also think it depends on the magnitude of the relationship.....when i was younger i was in and out of them.....experiencing and learning pretty quickly.....
nope not what i want
next
nope not u either
next
and sometimes was in another one before previous one was over
all different experiences and circumstances.....
my few serious ones.....i tried to move on fast and it didnt work, and ended up with me hurting other people and myself while i was not dealing with unresolved feelings
so i would say it depends on how long it takes to resolve feelings involved..and I don't think its any given time frame...and some of us have resolved feelings before its even over knowing we want out of it and we are done so we may have disconnected and processed awhile before... so its easier to move on
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This is where I am at this point...