I can understand to a degree what you are saying
VelvetRain but in this situation it really doesn't apply. She should not waste time on him because he has already shown her who he is. Everyone has a preference weather it be white collar, blue collar, tall, short, no children, etc. Everyone may not be at the same place but its up to each of us to show and prove. We all know the saying "actions speaks louder than words". Some women don't mind fixer upper and may have the patience for that but if a male or female knows that isn't their personality its best to move on. Being single or never married isn't a death sentence but I know what you are saying. I think its a individual thing. As long as the person with potential isn't a leech off the other person it may not be a problem. Black women shouldn't lower their standards or dumb down just to have a man but they should look at inner qualities and work from there. I think the 5 Languages Of Love can help determine what is most important to each individual.