misskris816
Well-Known Member
Hi Ladies -
How much of a factor has a man's career (or lack thereof) played in your decision to stay together? Can you really have it all?
By most standards, I am considered successful. (Background info only: I received my Masters degree and bought my first home at the age of 22. Now at the age of 29, I've held two well paying positions at two corporate headquarters of two well-known companies.)
I've always pictured myself marrying a successful man with a white collar position. 6 months ago, I met the nicest guy...he is 29 also. He had been a traveling bartender for 8 years in the Caribbean and Martha's Vineyard, but recently moved back home due to his mother being sick. He's now selling cars.)
I've never met anyone so attentive and sweet (almost too much sometimes). Now that we've been exclusive for 6 months, I'm starting to question if we should stay together or break up. Even though he's great with me emotionally, I can't seem to get past the fact that he doesn't have a career path. He talks about going to school to be a radiology tech, but that would be at least 2 years until he finishes, assuming he starts school right away.
I talked to my mom about it and she thinks I'd be making the wrong decision and should stick by him. At this point in my life, I don't want to be the emotional support while a man finds his career. I've been there and done that for myself. On the other hand, I'm afraid of breaking up with someone who treats me well since I've never had that before...but I can't seem to shake the desire of wanting to be with a more successful man.
Does emotional support trump success, or can you really have it all?
Any advice or discussion would be appreciated!
How much of a factor has a man's career (or lack thereof) played in your decision to stay together? Can you really have it all?
By most standards, I am considered successful. (Background info only: I received my Masters degree and bought my first home at the age of 22. Now at the age of 29, I've held two well paying positions at two corporate headquarters of two well-known companies.)
I've always pictured myself marrying a successful man with a white collar position. 6 months ago, I met the nicest guy...he is 29 also. He had been a traveling bartender for 8 years in the Caribbean and Martha's Vineyard, but recently moved back home due to his mother being sick. He's now selling cars.)
I've never met anyone so attentive and sweet (almost too much sometimes). Now that we've been exclusive for 6 months, I'm starting to question if we should stay together or break up. Even though he's great with me emotionally, I can't seem to get past the fact that he doesn't have a career path. He talks about going to school to be a radiology tech, but that would be at least 2 years until he finishes, assuming he starts school right away.
I talked to my mom about it and she thinks I'd be making the wrong decision and should stick by him. At this point in my life, I don't want to be the emotional support while a man finds his career. I've been there and done that for myself. On the other hand, I'm afraid of breaking up with someone who treats me well since I've never had that before...but I can't seem to shake the desire of wanting to be with a more successful man.
Does emotional support trump success, or can you really have it all?
Any advice or discussion would be appreciated!