How do you know if a guy really likes you???

[JewelleNY]

...if he doesn't come out and say it

What are the signs, clues, etc? I am clueless in this area. erplexed

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

Are you talking about a guy you just met or one you've know for a while.

 

[JewelleNY]

either situation

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

Well, it's kinda tough, seeing that every guy is different. But from my experience, if a guy has liked me, I can see it in his actions--I might find him in my space (really close by when he's around me or trying to be near me), he might buy me a rose, or go out of his way to do something he think might impress me.

It's so many different ways.

 

[iCandyc]

If he's really touchy feely, wants to hug you, be near u often, might wana play fight with u a bit, likes to be around you/talk to you on the phn/text... Takes you out, talks abt a future w/u...............

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

Everything in actions towards you will show it and you will definitely feel it.

 

[Mleah]

Get this book in all its forms. He's Just Not That In To You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
Men are like bees. They go from flower to flower. It is there nature to wander. If they really want to be around you they will go all out to buzz around.


http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&tag...e's not that into you&sourceid=Mozilla-search

 

[hopeful]

I don't think you should have to guess. If he likes you when he is around you should feel pretty, comfortable, appreciated and...liked. I think it's how he makes you feel. He wants to hear what you have to say, wants to be near you, and asks you out. If it's really hard to tell then I would assume that he's not interested. And if he liked me and yet was sooo difficult to read I would be cautious because I think it would be hard to have a relationship with someone like that jmho. I would not have patience with an adult male over the age of 18 who could not express how he feels about me.

 

[JewelleNY]

Well, it's kinda tough, seeing that every guy is different. But from my experience, if a guy has liked me, I can see it in his actions--I might find him in my space (really close by when he's around me or trying to be near me), he might buy me a rose, or go out of his way to do something he think might impress me.

It's so many different ways.

so what would you do at that point? wait for him to make a real move or you make one, or move on?

 

[JewelleNY]

Get this book in all its forms. He's Just Not That In To You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.
Men are like bees. They go from flower to flower. It is there nature to wander. If they really want to be around you they will go all out to buzz around.


http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&tag...e's not that into you&sourceid=Mozilla-search

I have been hearing about this book. I find that guys are very shy around me. Do you remember anything from the book? I may have to put my order in.

 

[mxdchiq86]

you don't :\..

 

[JewelleNY]

I don't think you should have to guess. If he likes you when he is around you should feel pretty, comfortable, appreciated and...liked. I think it's how he makes you feel. He wants to hear what you have to say, wants to be near you, and asks you out. If it's really hard to tell then I would assume that he's not interested. And if he liked me and yet was sooo difficult to read I would be cautious because I think it would be hard to have a relationship with someone like that jmho. I would not have patience with an adult male over the age of 18 who could not express how he feels about me.

Sometimes I think this but in the past guys have hovered around and hinted at my friends until I did something. I found out that they thought I would have rejected them and were afraid to say anything.

Guys are strange

 

[JewelleNY]

you don't :\..

please elaborate

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

He will go out of his way to spend time with you and you will be on top of his priority list.
And he doesn't mind doing things with you he normally wouldn't do under normal circumstances.

 

[mxdchiq86]

please elaborate

yeah, that was a little bland, wasn't it?

but, in my head, you don't KNOW how another person feels about you.. but, there comes a point in time where you TRUST them when they say that they like you and you feel like they like you.

someone could act like they like you. buy you a dozen roses, write you a poem, and in the end.. it could all be for a piece of a** i've seen alot of people get hurt feeling like they '' know '' that someone is feeling them.. but, like i said.. you never know but, you trust.

 

[Bunny77]

Sometimes I think this but in the past guys have hovered around and hinted at my friends until I did something. I found out that they thought I would have rejected them and were afraid to say anything.

When you did something though, how did it work out?


In my experience, most guys that I have to "do something" with to get them to ask me out etc., were full of ****. I mean, I'll flirt and be open and approachable, but if you don't get the hint and do something after that, then I'll assume you're not serious and move on.

(Yes, I know there are exceptions, but I don't bank on those!)

P.S.: Go MSU!

 

[hopeful]

Sometimes I think this but in the past guys have hovered around and hinted at my friends until I did something. I found out that they thought I would have rejected them and were afraid to say anything.

Guys are strange

Again, this may sound harsh, but if a man is over 18 and likes me and I am friendly and nice to him and he is still soooo afraid to say anything to me, I just couldn't be bothered, shooo I need a man who can protect me and handle his business and he's scared to say "Hi, you wanna go out on a date?," I just don't have the patience. Jewelle you could not be that intimidating, you are very pretty but you are also very sweet. If every man you meet is intimidated then I would just work on the vibe I'm putting out, I would not be making the first move, but again jmho.

 

[aribell]

Sometimes I think this but in the past guys have hovered around and hinted at my friends until I did something. I found out that they thought I would have rejected them and were afraid to say anything.

Guys are strange

I've gotten this too. But at the end of the day, that much fear is a no-go. hopeful's right.

Again, this may sound harsh, but if a man is over 18 and likes me and I am friendly and nice to him and he is still soooo afraid to say anything to me, I just couldn't be bothered, shooo I need a man who can protect me and handle his business and he's scared to say "Hi, you wanna go out on a date?," I just don't have the patience. Jewelle you could not be that intimidating, you are very pretty but you are also very sweet. If every man you meet is intimidated then I would just work on the vibe I'm putting out, I would not be making the first move, but again jmho.

 

[juju]

If it is someone you have seen around a few times.

If he likes you his face will light up when you walks into the space he is in,maybe you are with a girlfriend you see directly that he is smiling with u and not ur friendbut that is not a gurantee he wants a relationship though.

 

[aribell]

If it is someone you have seen around a few times.

If he likes you his face will light up when you walks into the space he is in,maybe you are with a girlfriend you see directly that he is smiling with u and not ur friendbut that is not a gurantee he wants a relationship though.

Yes, "liking" and wanting a relationship are not the same thing.

 

[tocktick]

- always asking to spend time with you
- going out of his way to speak to you
- staring often

eta: I've run across many guys who have showed all the "signs" but didn't take it take that extra step. I used to get bothered by it because I was actually being receptive to their actions most of the times. However, now I feel like if a guy is not going to outright state that he likes me or ask me out, he's off my radar no matter how many signs he's exhibiting or if I like him. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone whose afraid to take action and I think some men like to show signs but don't really want a relationship. I literally wasted years thinking about guys like this (always saw them as they were in the same school) and it always left me disappointed.

 

[JewelleNY]

When you did something though, how did it work out?


In my experience, most guys that I have to "do something" with to get them to ask me out etc., were full of ****. I mean, I'll flirt and be open and approachable, but if you don't get the hint and do something after that, then I'll assume you're not serious and move on.

(Yes, I know there are exceptions, but I don't bank on those!)

P.S.: Go MSU!

actually, they were long-term relationships The guys were just really shy and I've been told I can seem uninterested at times, even when I am not feeling that way inside. The guys were very much into me and I broke off the realtionships in the end. I find that if I talk to the ones who do always approach then they are the ones that I am not that into and it shows as time goes on.

Maybe it is just an individual thing, I am not sure. I try to smile and look friendly but I am very shy too.

GO HEELS!!!!!!!

 

[JewelleNY]

Again, this may sound harsh, but if a man is over 18 and likes me and I am friendly and nice to him and he is still soooo afraid to say anything to me, I just couldn't be bothered, shooo I need a man who can protect me and handle his business and he's scared to say "Hi, you wanna go out on a date?," I just don't have the patience. Jewelle you could not be that intimidating, you are very pretty but you are also very sweet. If every man you meet is intimidated then I would just work on the vibe I'm putting out, I would not be making the first move, but again jmho.

I agree with you Hopeful, but I feel that if I don't make some kind of move, I won't get anywhere. I am very nervous around guys, especially in the beginning and it may come off as being rude or like I am not interested. Maybe I just need to work on that. I do get told this all of the time and my male coworkers told me a while back at my new job. One admitted to me that they all thought I was "stuck-up" and not interested in being friends with them which was far from the truth.

 

[JewelleNY]

- always asking to spend time with you
- going out of his way to speak to you
- staring often

eta: I've run across many guys who have showed all the "signs" but didn't take it take that extra step. I used to get bothered by it because I was actually being receptive to their actions most of the times. However, now I feel like if a guy is not going to outright state that he likes me or ask me out, he's off my radar no matter how many signs he's exhibiting or if I like him. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone whose afraid to take action and I think some men like to show signs but don't really want a relationship. I literally wasted years thinking about guys like this (always saw them as they were in the same school) and it always left me disappointed.

Thanks for your post.

Maybe I should also ask the question of what things one should do to show interest in a guy without being too over the top.

 

[JewelleNY]

yeah, that was a little bland, wasn't it?

but, in my head, you don't KNOW how another person feels about you.. but, there comes a point in time where you TRUST them when they say that they like you and you feel like they like you.

someone could act like they like you. buy you a dozen roses, write you a poem, and in the end.. it could all be for a piece of a** i've seen alot of people get hurt feeling like they '' know '' that someone is feeling them.. but, like i said.. you never know but, you trust.

that's okay

I agree that you are not really going to be sure in the beginning, I guess time will tell.

 

[hopeful]

...The guys were very much into me and I broke off the realtionships in the end. I find that if I talk to the ones who do always approach then they are the ones that I am not that into and it shows as time goes on.
...

Jewelle are you saying that when you make the first move you end up breaking up with them because you are not that into them? Did you mean "don't always approach?" Or are you saying that things work out better when you make the first move, and you are into the guys that are shy? I'm confused, trying to get an understanding as to why you end up breakup with the guys. Please clarify.

ETA: I will also admit that I may not be much help as I have never been shy around guys I liked, so I probably don't really "get" what you are describing.

ETAA: Also, how does it make you feel when you make the first move? Do you feel okay about it, empowered, frustrated, let down, excited? Just curious.

 

[natural in ATL]

- always asking to spend time with you
- going out of his way to speak to you
- staring often

eta: I've run across many guys who have showed all the "signs" but didn't take it take that extra step. I used to get bothered by it because I was actually being receptive to their actions most of the times. However, now I feel like if a guy is not going to outright state that he likes me or ask me out, he's off my radar no matter how many signs he's exhibiting or if I like him. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone whose afraid to take action and I think some men like to show signs but don't really want a relationship. I literally wasted years thinking about guys like this (always saw them as they were in the same school) and it always left me disappointed.

This is my experience...I seem to always have several guys around me (friends/dating/etc.) but I am 9 times out of 10 confused by their actions b/c many act like they want to pursue something but never take that step. I too have wasted time thinking that "any day now" they would ask me out. Sooooo, I've learned to let those situations go and allow these interactions to live fully in the friendship category - it helps me move on so I can hopefully meet who I'm supposed to be with and also takes a lot of unnecessary analysis out of my head.

 

[JewelleNY]

Jewelle are you saying that when you make the first move you end up breaking up with them because you are not that into them? Did you mean "don't always approach?" Or are you saying that things work out better when you make the first move, and you are into the guys that are shy? I'm confused, trying to get an understanding as to why you end up breakup with the guys. Please clarify.

ETA: I will also admit that I may not be much help as I have never been shy around guys I liked, so I probably don't really "get" what you are describing.

ETAA: Also, how does it make you feel when you make the first move? Do you feel okay about it, empowered, frustrated, let down, excited? Just curious.

I'm sorry, I wasn't really very clear I am trying to not post so much TMI of myself on here. I guess I just really wanted to hear what signs guys have given other ladies when they are interested

 

[rafikichick92]

I understand exactly what you mean. I think I come off the same way because in reality I am extremely shy and not sure how to act (generally happens around guys, esp ones I like :/)

I agree with you Hopeful, but I feel that if I don't make some kind of move, I won't get anywhere. I am very nervous around guys, especially in the beginning and it may come off as being rude or like I am not interested. Maybe I just need to work on that. I do get told this all of the time and my male coworkers told me a while back at my new job. One admitted to me that they all thought I was "stuck-up" and not interested in being friends with them which was far from the truth.

 

[1Aleeesha]

He sticks his tongue in your nose