How did you do it?

[wofford16]

How did you break the news to your spouse that you wanted a divorce?

I wimped out and told him in an e-mail today to avoid the confrontation but he called me immediately after reading it. I am so emotional I knew I wouldn't be able to say everything I needed to say so face-to-face.
I needed to write it all down. It is impersonal but I really had to get EVERYTHING off my chest once and for all...

 

[Cheekychica]

We both knew it was coming so it wasn't a surprise. We just talked about it.

 

[MissYocairis]

We didn't. I actually left him and stayed gone for a year before I filed. Over the course of that year, I let him know gradually, that I wasn't coming back. He didn't know about my filing until he received his papers in the mail. He had been begging us to return and I knew it was over. He still tried to beg us back after he got the papers. At one point, he bought me an Expedition and a diamond necklace and came to me pleading. Trying to show me that he would take better care of our family. I refused it. It was sad. But, I knew the day I left I was never going back. And, when I waited so long to file, it was because I wanted him to get used to the idea that it was over.

The time was all I could give him. I couldn't give him discussions and such because I knew he would go through a lot trying to change my mind and I could not deal with that emotionally. It took me a long time to leave for good so when I did, I had to protect my mind and stay strong. I don't regret how it was done. We cool now. He's enjoying his single life as far as I know and hasn't remarried or shacked up with anyone.

Even after divorce, we went through a healing process that took years....where we had to really forgive each other. There is no easy way to do it. But, if it's what you want, protect your mind and remain steadfast.

 

[alwaysinchrist]

I keep telling myself that....I could be with you and be miserbable or be without you and just be sad that it didnt work out. I chose the latter one!!!!!! Life is soo good without the lies and stress.

 

[ThickHair]

I just told him.

 

[Charz]

Sorry to hear this wofford16

I remember reading the thread you made a while backabout you two reconciling after the first marriage.

Wish you the best

 

[itismehmmkay]

I had told him the reasons I wasn't happy. I think I had even outlined in an email the 'reasons I will divorce you'. I'm sure they just sounded like threats.

Then I had that mf served out of state while he was headed to work.

Oh! yea and when he saw the movers come and get my stuff out the apartment.
And then I arranged to have his stuff moved to the storage unit cause I got the apartment sublet.

But...I'm sure he got the picture once he was served.