nlv
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I'm feeling a bit down. Just wanted to vent. My ex & I live together which is a big mistake. We ended up breaking up 10 months ago (3 months into moving in with each other) but were still acting and carrying on as if we were still in a relationship. We were actually in the process of working things out.
Backstory:
He has this "friend". To my understanding, they'd only been friends for only 3 years (via MySpace) but act as though they've known each other for years. He never bothered to introduce me to her and he used to only hang with her when we had an argument. I found out by snooping. This broad has publically disrespected me via Twitter (he has never checked her) and used to post little things pertaining to their friendship to piss me off. (This is what he told me.) I could never understand why she would waste do such things and why he'd still remain friends with her after she did these childish things. I was actually jealous for a brief minute because he did things for her that he wouldn't do for me. Recently, she wanted to so-call apologize for her childish behavior because of him. According to her, he is her only friend that won't stand her up.
Recent:
Lately they've been hanging together a lot. Every weekend. Him & I made plans last week to go out this past Saturday. She invited him to some Melanie Fiona x Dwele concert last minute and he decided to go with her. I was upset so I went out with a friend of mine. I didn't get in until 5am and happened to notice him sitting in his car in front of our building. I assumed we just pulled up at the same time. Everything was fine. I was over it and even treated him to breakfast later that morning. After he dropped me off to go to work, me being the suspicious person I am, I decided to to look at her Instagram so see how much fun they had (she takes pics of everything) and noticed she had taken a full body photo in my bedroom mirror before they left for the event. OH NO. I was in disbelief. I still feel numb. I immediate confronted him with the picture and he kept apologizing. I didn't even respond to his texts.
Later that evening when he returned home, I gave it to him. I cried a little harder than I should. He sat and said he was sorry that I found out. Huh? He said they came in for drinks before the event (didn't want to drink in the car) for 10 minutes and she wanted to take a full body picture and him not "thinking" let her go into my room and use MY mirror. I am devastated. He also said he didn't think I would find out. He assumed her IG was private. He had the audacity to ask me out on a date that night (to make it up to me). I declined. I also told him that he disrespected me and that we need to move ASAP. He then GOT MAD and told me that he had no where to go so I told him to ask her to let him stay with her. He stormed out and left. I haven't seen him since. Well, he'll come into the apartment when I'm not there and leaves before I return. I am still hurt, upset, angry. I'm still crying. I loved this guy. I can't believe this.
I can't eat, sleep, etc. I don't even lay in my room anymore. I won't step foot in there. It just doesn't feel right anymore. This girl isn't even his friend. She cut him off once because he wouldn't take semi-nude pictures of her and because he wouldn't sex her when she was high once. Why does he go above and beyond and is willing to mess up this for her? Someone who turned him down for a relationship? Someone who only calls him when it's convenient to her? I feel so low.
Backstory:
He has this "friend". To my understanding, they'd only been friends for only 3 years (via MySpace) but act as though they've known each other for years. He never bothered to introduce me to her and he used to only hang with her when we had an argument. I found out by snooping. This broad has publically disrespected me via Twitter (he has never checked her) and used to post little things pertaining to their friendship to piss me off. (This is what he told me.) I could never understand why she would waste do such things and why he'd still remain friends with her after she did these childish things. I was actually jealous for a brief minute because he did things for her that he wouldn't do for me. Recently, she wanted to so-call apologize for her childish behavior because of him. According to her, he is her only friend that won't stand her up.
Recent:
Lately they've been hanging together a lot. Every weekend. Him & I made plans last week to go out this past Saturday. She invited him to some Melanie Fiona x Dwele concert last minute and he decided to go with her. I was upset so I went out with a friend of mine. I didn't get in until 5am and happened to notice him sitting in his car in front of our building. I assumed we just pulled up at the same time. Everything was fine. I was over it and even treated him to breakfast later that morning. After he dropped me off to go to work, me being the suspicious person I am, I decided to to look at her Instagram so see how much fun they had (she takes pics of everything) and noticed she had taken a full body photo in my bedroom mirror before they left for the event. OH NO. I was in disbelief. I still feel numb. I immediate confronted him with the picture and he kept apologizing. I didn't even respond to his texts.
Later that evening when he returned home, I gave it to him. I cried a little harder than I should. He sat and said he was sorry that I found out. Huh? He said they came in for drinks before the event (didn't want to drink in the car) for 10 minutes and she wanted to take a full body picture and him not "thinking" let her go into my room and use MY mirror. I am devastated. He also said he didn't think I would find out. He assumed her IG was private. He had the audacity to ask me out on a date that night (to make it up to me). I declined. I also told him that he disrespected me and that we need to move ASAP. He then GOT MAD and told me that he had no where to go so I told him to ask her to let him stay with her. He stormed out and left. I haven't seen him since. Well, he'll come into the apartment when I'm not there and leaves before I return. I am still hurt, upset, angry. I'm still crying. I loved this guy. I can't believe this.
I can't eat, sleep, etc. I don't even lay in my room anymore. I won't step foot in there. It just doesn't feel right anymore. This girl isn't even his friend. She cut him off once because he wouldn't take semi-nude pictures of her and because he wouldn't sex her when she was high once. Why does he go above and beyond and is willing to mess up this for her? Someone who turned him down for a relationship? Someone who only calls him when it's convenient to her? I feel so low.
sounds like he's been dating her the whole time. if hes going out with her every weekend and not you, obviously he done switched sides.
