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FemmeFatale
Is he a mama's boy OR the type that has his mama on speed dial to call for advice or seek approval?
The latter isn't a mama's boy per say but the rules and method of operation for mothers and female family members pretty much run the same.
Based on the very little you've shared, he likely fits the profile.
But if yes to either one of those categories DON'T GO.
It's not a compliment, it's more like a test. In other words, this is not an attempt for you to get to know his family---IT'S YOUR JUDGEMENT DAY. An attempt to get everybody's two cents to formulate opinion he needs to do by himself.
you'll be yourself a favor and you'll be doing him a favor in the long run by setting boundaries that this is a
UMBILICAL CORD-FREE ZONE.
OAN: Besides it's too soon to see how his mama and the other women in his family treat him for any of that to seep into your subconscious. As of right now the only thing that should be directing your interactions with him and your understanding of him is HIM and his behavior directly. Because if the women in his family treat him the way I treat my male relatives it'll only serve as an early trap. A baited trap for you to do too much unnecessary foolishness or give too much consideration most likely leading down a dark slow path toward: EVERYTHING is all about him (or too many things). He may or may not be the way I think he is, I'm only speaking from experience--- I know I can be a bossy ***** but take it from me my closest male relatives are emotionally spoiled and somewhat catered too/ego-stroked. I'm their perceived prototype. I am nice. But that's because they ain't f*ckin me.
Also, just like their mama & sister(s) I meet all the random females or hear about them. Doesn't mean ish. I swear men are emotionally unstable they fall in and out of love as the wind blows. Just last month my closest male relative's sister told me about all this time she's been spending with him and his new-girlfriend but when I asked him about it he said he didn't have a girlfriend.
Then he proceeded to add in some wordy bs disclaimer that was entirely f*cked up. I asked him if she knew she wasnt his gf, this fool said 'yea' like it was a given.
That said, if any of my male relatives' SOs or little girlfriends were to consider meeting me as a sign of flattery or utilize any of my behavior with my male relatives as expected standard would be doing themselves a disservice. Those arent brownie points to be achieved toward cementing his affection, those are deductions bout to place you on the losing team in the longrun. Don't get played. lol And yes, you can still be a fall victim to being played even if you get married. Families pull subtle okey-dokes on new relatives all the time.
So yea, do yourself a favor. Meet up with him xmas morning, give your well wishes to his family that you anticipate meeting them. But tell him he's too late, maybe next year. You already have plans that can't be changed.
Do you think he invited you because of your family not celebrating Christmas and thought that would make you happy? More than thinking it was "time"? I look forward to seeing what you decide to do and how it goes. A part of me wouldn't go because it does sound stressful. But another part thinks it's a very sweet idea and everything might turn out wonderfully. And it does say something about how he feels about you and his family -- like he's proud of you and them. Maybe you two can go but set it up so you aren't stuck there for hours? Idk but good luck FF.
that's a lot of women.
