I don't believe in texting as a substitute for phone conversations so I'd tell him to call me. There are a lot of people, however, who don't like to talk on the phone and prefer texting. Does he fall into this category? Do you have an issue with him not calling you and, if so, have you said something to him about it?What do you think about that sentiment?
Say you are dating a guy, you go out on dates about 2x a week, you get a text from him a few times a week, but he hardly ever calls. Is that a sign to KIM?
IT'S TRUE!He's Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You...What do you think about that sentiment?
YES! KEEP IT MOVING!Say you are dating a guy, you go out on dates about 2x a week, you get a text from him a few times a week, but he hardly ever calls. Is that a sign to KIM?
Definitely stop texting and see what happens! I also did what MD Lady suggested once with the conversation thing and he still kept texting. That gave me my answer.
I agree with the general sentiment though... I'm not saying that a man has to be on the phone with me all night (or even that long), but I take it that if he's not calling, he's not that into me. Men had to communicate by phone not that long ago or they just wouldn't be able to talk to a woman. Texting does not replace calling, as far as I'm concerned.
So is he texting you to ask you out on dates? How long have you two been 'dating'.
I actually wouldn't say KIM as in stop dating him.
You two are just dating, and he's probably seeing other people. If you were seeing other guys, I would tell you to place him at the end of the line and stop texting him. If he's the only guy you're dating, I can see how you might spend a little more time than necessary wondering why he isn't calling.
I say this because in the past I dealt with this, and I would jump the gun and just cut a guy off when we were only dating. Looking back I should have just taken it for what it was. Dating. I would have also dated multiple guys and just given first priority to the guys who kept in constant contact with me. In that case, if a guy wasn't calling, I wouldn't have time to think about it because I'd be preoccupied with others. When he finally decides to call and place his bid in, we can go out.
Not to negate your opinion, but from personal experience and the experiences of most of my friends telling a man that you prefer to be called usually doesn't achieve the desired result. He will probably call once or twice then go right back to texting.Tell him what you want. He should be able to accommodate your request. It doesn't mean he isn't interested, some guys just need an extra push.
So is he texting you to ask you out on dates? How long have you two been 'dating'.
I actually wouldn't say KIM as in stop dating him.
You two are just dating, and he's probably seeing other people. If you were seeing other guys, I would tell you to place him at the end of the line and stop texting him. If he's the only guy you're dating, I can see how you might spend a little more time than necessary wondering why he isn't calling.
I say this because in the past I dealt with this, and I would jump the gun and just cut a guy off when we were only dating. Looking back I should have just taken it for what it was. Dating. I would have also dated multiple guys and just given first priority to the guys who kept in constant contact with me. In that case, if a guy wasn't calling, I wouldn't have time to think about it because I'd be preoccupied with others. When he finally decides to call and place his bid in, we can go out.
Tell him what you want. He should be able to accommodate your request. It doesn't mean he isn't interested, some guys just need an extra push.
What do you think about that sentiment?
Say you are dating a guy, you go out on dates about 2x a week, you get a text from him a few times a week, but he hardly ever calls. Is that a sign to KIM?
I preferred texting over talking. However, I do think things would have worked out differently if he didn't put in his time like he did. He made it clear that he was interested in me through his actions. Once we started getting serious we would see each other at least 3-4 times a week, and often more than that. If we were only seeing each other occasionally then texting would not have been as acceptable IMO...
Yay! I'm so glad he called within 24 hours. See you got your answer right there. He's into you enough to try a bit harder when the first method of reaching you doesn't work.well since yesterday I stopped responding to texts, I've gotten three phone calls since and I didn't have to say anything, lol, first I got an FB message asking if my phone was broken, I ignored that message and then the phone calls started.
Gosh I wish I knew it was that easy before
I've always said that when it comes to dating it's best for a man to take the conservative approach until he's told otherwise. This means doing things the "old-fashioned" way: calling, reserving sexual talk for later conversations (I once had a man use the words penis and vagina when breaking down male/female relationships on our very first date), planning dates, etc. If the woman wants to play by a different set of rules she often shows this through her actions pretty quickly (e.g. returning his voicemail by texting, asking him out for a specific date and time). Too many men nowadays want to take shortcuts from the jump and it's oftentimes not because they aren't interested but that they don't even know HOW to formally woo a woman. That's why women need to teach men how we want to be treated. OP, you did this perfectly by not replying to the text. From what I can tell you and this man are NOT in an exclusive relationship. In my experiences, telling a man who isn't my man that I want him to do X,Y, or Z instead of A, B, and C only yields temporary behavior modification at best, especially if I still accept or have been accepting A, B, and C actions. Men respond more to what we do vs. what we say so not answering his texts got the OP's message across loud and clear without her having to say a word.