Was going post in another thread but...well..you know....
So the guy i'm dating i have decided after just two dates to put on the back burner.
Anyway, i have known this guy at work for many years and i have never felt an attraction towards him. You see, i always go for the very good looks who always turn out to be a nightmare...these type always give me the butterflies and that is what i'm used to. Without those strong initial feelings i am not interested.
We recently starting talking about relationships and we were both shocked to find out we are both single and went through similar with our ex's. Hes said we shoudl go out for a drink and talk about our woes and laughed a little.
So, I have just picked up an email (the next day) and he is officially asking for a drink.
So i'm taking this to mean he 'likes me'.
We work in different buildings and colleagues of mine have worked with him closely and have nothing but good things to say about him but i just don't fancy him. My work mates are saying i need to step out of the box and go for someone who will take care of me and not play me. They say if i spend time with him i WILL see a different side to him and may grow to really like him (they have had drinks with him afterwork and such whilst i only know him in passing little chats at work).
I don't know if i'm going to accept but wish i could feel some kind of spark. i think that feeling is really clouding my judgement . I'm a sucker for fireworks and butterfly feelings and it always ends badly.
Has anyone else felt this way and then that man has grown on them to the point where they start fancying them?
So the guy i'm dating i have decided after just two dates to put on the back burner.
Anyway, i have known this guy at work for many years and i have never felt an attraction towards him. You see, i always go for the very good looks who always turn out to be a nightmare...these type always give me the butterflies and that is what i'm used to. Without those strong initial feelings i am not interested.
We recently starting talking about relationships and we were both shocked to find out we are both single and went through similar with our ex's. Hes said we shoudl go out for a drink and talk about our woes and laughed a little.
So, I have just picked up an email (the next day) and he is officially asking for a drink.
So i'm taking this to mean he 'likes me'.
We work in different buildings and colleagues of mine have worked with him closely and have nothing but good things to say about him but i just don't fancy him. My work mates are saying i need to step out of the box and go for someone who will take care of me and not play me. They say if i spend time with him i WILL see a different side to him and may grow to really like him (they have had drinks with him afterwork and such whilst i only know him in passing little chats at work).
I don't know if i'm going to accept but wish i could feel some kind of spark. i think that feeling is really clouding my judgement . I'm a sucker for fireworks and butterfly feelings and it always ends badly.
Has anyone else felt this way and then that man has grown on them to the point where they start fancying them?
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