TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
My "return-to-the-dating" saga continues. I'll admit that I haven't put an enormous amount of effort into getting back out there because I'm not pressed (the first time in my life at this point).
However, I would be lying if I didn't admit that I would like a special someone in my life... the RIGHT special someone. According to my well-meaning wed and bred counterparts, I'm setting myself up for being single forever.
I'll say this... dying single doesn't equate to dying sad for me. I've reached a point in my life where being a ME instead of a WE isn't a bad thing. If it happens, it happens BUT sometimes those coupled-up counterparts lead me to question whether I AM being a bit to picky.
So I've known this guy for... at least six years through mutual friends. We never really connected...were always just acquaintances. I ran into him about two years ago, and ended up giving him my number for business reasons. Of course, he tried to holla, but I kept the door firmly closed.
Well, he must have caught me at a weak moment, because I finally agreed to meet him for lunch (being single for two years can do that to a gal). Here's the thing. He's not... awful looking. He's successful, physically fit...seemingly good on paper...just not my type. He seems like a nice enough guy, but I'm sorry... there was just NOTHING there. The conversation seem strained. Lunch was... painful. Absolutely no connection at all.
When I shared this with "the breeders" I was immediately met with the onslaught of "That's why you're going to die alone". They seem to think that I'm looking for the perfect guy, that I'm too picky... blah blah blah. This was followed by anecdotes about how they weren't attracted to their husbands at first, but they gave him a chance...
It just made me think. Am I closed minded? Should I apologize for NOT being attracted to this guy? Should I go out with him again (I really am NOT feeling it)?
I dunno. In my mind, I shouldn't have to manufacture attraction. I'm not even sure why what they said is even bothering me...
However, I would be lying if I didn't admit that I would like a special someone in my life... the RIGHT special someone. According to my well-meaning wed and bred counterparts, I'm setting myself up for being single forever.
I'll say this... dying single doesn't equate to dying sad for me. I've reached a point in my life where being a ME instead of a WE isn't a bad thing. If it happens, it happens BUT sometimes those coupled-up counterparts lead me to question whether I AM being a bit to picky.
So I've known this guy for... at least six years through mutual friends. We never really connected...were always just acquaintances. I ran into him about two years ago, and ended up giving him my number for business reasons. Of course, he tried to holla, but I kept the door firmly closed.
Well, he must have caught me at a weak moment, because I finally agreed to meet him for lunch (being single for two years can do that to a gal). Here's the thing. He's not... awful looking. He's successful, physically fit...seemingly good on paper...just not my type. He seems like a nice enough guy, but I'm sorry... there was just NOTHING there. The conversation seem strained. Lunch was... painful. Absolutely no connection at all.
When I shared this with "the breeders" I was immediately met with the onslaught of "That's why you're going to die alone". They seem to think that I'm looking for the perfect guy, that I'm too picky... blah blah blah. This was followed by anecdotes about how they weren't attracted to their husbands at first, but they gave him a chance...
It just made me think. Am I closed minded? Should I apologize for NOT being attracted to this guy? Should I go out with him again (I really am NOT feeling it)?
I dunno. In my mind, I shouldn't have to manufacture attraction. I'm not even sure why what they said is even bothering me...