This might be a long post so i apologise in advance....
Back story....Over A year ago i got out of an abusie relashionship with my husband and divorced. My husband was a creep and a loser to say the least. He was never home, took my car, stole money from me, stole rent money when i had just gave birth to our daughter a week ago. Come home at 4am after being gone since 10am the day before. physical and emotional abuse. well...6 months after it ended i met a nice guy through a mutual friend whom i have now been dating seriously for 7 months going on 8. I really wasnt looking to date anyone it just happed and this guy is like night and day from my Ex husband. sensitive, caring , thoughtful, * a little on the feminine side* but i liked that.
So i live by myself with my 2 kids ages 3 and 4 and my boyfriend lives maybe 3 mins up the street from me. I just moved to my house 2 months ago. Since my boyfriend lives so close he is at my house all the time...like he lives here. This doesnt bother me too much because my kids love him and im glad to have some help. Also we have discussed an engagement in the near future. When we are both established in our careers. I have told him about what i went through with my ex...(just adding needed info)
2 months ago my boyfriend crashed his car and it is now in the shop waiting on parts. Since he is always at my house I offered to take him to work (5mins up the street) or if his shift is super early I let him just take himself. I dont mind since he puts gas in my car and bought a new cd player and is respectful when bringing it back after he gets off. Well atleast until 2 days ago. He came back to my house after not having to work that day (he thought he did) and wanted to play video games (sigh i kno
) and long story short my son spilled pop on his game and the system is trippin and i need to replace it. He was fine and said he was going to take the game back to the store (also the game got scratched when the system started trippin) he got dressed and then left without saying nothing to me...i fell asleep on the couch.
i think he left around 3pm a few hours went by and i called his phone back to back to back...i was pissed because i dont like to be stuck at home even if i dont plan on leaving i like the option. didnt hear from him I went to bed at 2:30 am and i think he came to my house at 3 or 3:30 I asked him if he had his phone and he said no but im sure that was a lie...and i asked him whats up and that isnt cool and he said he was mad when he left...AND THAT I THINK HE;S GOING TO TREAT ME LIKE MY EX DID...wtf!? his reasoning was beyond off then mumbled something and asked me if i wanted him to leave. I didnt say anything then he went off about if he had his car this wouldnt be a problem blah blah blah pity party...oh yeah and might i add he made my room smell like liquor when he walked in. So then after setting his alarm on his phone he fell asleep. I woke him up a few hours later for work and I took him myself. He didnt talk to me AND didnt say thankyou or nothing when i dropped him off. He then showed up at my house later on once he got off i assume he took the bus or rode with a coworker. He let himself in and didnt say 2 words to me...went and got into some house clothes and sat on my computer with his ipod headphones in his ears. The only thing he said to me in 24 hrs was thankyou when i gave him a food plate. I went to bed at 10pm last night thinking he would leave but i woke up at 3am or so and he was passed out next to me then silently took his butt to work this morning on the bus. He is still at work now...I dont kno what to do because i get really pissed when someone comes to my house and cant speak ( i was waiting on an apology thats why i let it slide yesterday) I just wanted him to go home. It seems like there is a pattern that im starting to think is my fault since my ex did this (taking my car like its his) Maybe im not ready for a relationship or need to seek counseling for my marriage to heal, move forward and not make the same mistakes. Im hoping its not me and guys just try and test how far they can go. i feel like if i am being a good person and respect the other persons feelings that i should get the same in return. How can i squash this behavior before it gets out of hand? Thankyou so much any opinions, info will be greatly appreciated.
Back story....Over A year ago i got out of an abusie relashionship with my husband and divorced. My husband was a creep and a loser to say the least. He was never home, took my car, stole money from me, stole rent money when i had just gave birth to our daughter a week ago. Come home at 4am after being gone since 10am the day before. physical and emotional abuse. well...6 months after it ended i met a nice guy through a mutual friend whom i have now been dating seriously for 7 months going on 8. I really wasnt looking to date anyone it just happed and this guy is like night and day from my Ex husband. sensitive, caring , thoughtful, * a little on the feminine side* but i liked that.
So i live by myself with my 2 kids ages 3 and 4 and my boyfriend lives maybe 3 mins up the street from me. I just moved to my house 2 months ago. Since my boyfriend lives so close he is at my house all the time...like he lives here. This doesnt bother me too much because my kids love him and im glad to have some help. Also we have discussed an engagement in the near future. When we are both established in our careers. I have told him about what i went through with my ex...(just adding needed info)
2 months ago my boyfriend crashed his car and it is now in the shop waiting on parts. Since he is always at my house I offered to take him to work (5mins up the street) or if his shift is super early I let him just take himself. I dont mind since he puts gas in my car and bought a new cd player and is respectful when bringing it back after he gets off. Well atleast until 2 days ago. He came back to my house after not having to work that day (he thought he did) and wanted to play video games (sigh i kno
) and long story short my son spilled pop on his game and the system is trippin and i need to replace it. He was fine and said he was going to take the game back to the store (also the game got scratched when the system started trippin) he got dressed and then left without saying nothing to me...i fell asleep on the couch.i think he left around 3pm a few hours went by and i called his phone back to back to back...i was pissed because i dont like to be stuck at home even if i dont plan on leaving i like the option. didnt hear from him I went to bed at 2:30 am and i think he came to my house at 3 or 3:30 I asked him if he had his phone and he said no but im sure that was a lie...and i asked him whats up and that isnt cool and he said he was mad when he left...AND THAT I THINK HE;S GOING TO TREAT ME LIKE MY EX DID...wtf!? his reasoning was beyond off then mumbled something and asked me if i wanted him to leave. I didnt say anything then he went off about if he had his car this wouldnt be a problem blah blah blah pity party...oh yeah and might i add he made my room smell like liquor when he walked in. So then after setting his alarm on his phone he fell asleep. I woke him up a few hours later for work and I took him myself. He didnt talk to me AND didnt say thankyou or nothing when i dropped him off. He then showed up at my house later on once he got off i assume he took the bus or rode with a coworker. He let himself in and didnt say 2 words to me...went and got into some house clothes and sat on my computer with his ipod headphones in his ears. The only thing he said to me in 24 hrs was thankyou when i gave him a food plate. I went to bed at 10pm last night thinking he would leave but i woke up at 3am or so and he was passed out next to me then silently took his butt to work this morning on the bus. He is still at work now...I dont kno what to do because i get really pissed when someone comes to my house and cant speak ( i was waiting on an apology thats why i let it slide yesterday) I just wanted him to go home. It seems like there is a pattern that im starting to think is my fault since my ex did this (taking my car like its his) Maybe im not ready for a relationship or need to seek counseling for my marriage to heal, move forward and not make the same mistakes. Im hoping its not me and guys just try and test how far they can go. i feel like if i am being a good person and respect the other persons feelings that i should get the same in return. How can i squash this behavior before it gets out of hand? Thankyou so much any opinions, info will be greatly appreciated.
. I became reckless and making illogical decisions in regards to dating men, I would always put men in the same category as my ex.
