missty1029
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Ok so there is this guy I have been dating for about 2 years and a stumbling point that we have or I should say that I have is that he is the kind of guy that will be there for me and do stuff for me but with conditions. And by conditions I mean:
I have to ask him. He never does anything random.
And he also feels like what he does do to show me he cares should be a clear indication of how he feels.
When he ask me to explain what it is I feel like I am missing it always seems like I am asking for him to do more material things for me. Which is a part of it too. He never bought me anything except a CD and my favorite ice cream and flowers on my birthday. And its been two years. We like to go out so he will take me to shows and really good restaurants.
He is the kind of guy that always ask what I want to do and where I want to go. I have to give him the okay to make plans and tell him what he has planned is ok to do.
He is very supportive and more times then not when I need a shoulder to lean on he is there. I know we all have different ways of expressing ourselves but I am unhappy because there is no romance, there is no randomness, there are no little things here and there. I dont feel like I can be vunerable and he will see that and step up. I feel like I have to tell him how to treat me and everything I need for him to do for me.
Am I looking for too much? I broke it off with him but hes still trying to understand what the problem was. And I guess a part of me is wondering am I asking for too much?
Thanks guys
I have to ask him. He never does anything random.
And he also feels like what he does do to show me he cares should be a clear indication of how he feels.
When he ask me to explain what it is I feel like I am missing it always seems like I am asking for him to do more material things for me. Which is a part of it too. He never bought me anything except a CD and my favorite ice cream and flowers on my birthday. And its been two years. We like to go out so he will take me to shows and really good restaurants.
He is the kind of guy that always ask what I want to do and where I want to go. I have to give him the okay to make plans and tell him what he has planned is ok to do.
He is very supportive and more times then not when I need a shoulder to lean on he is there. I know we all have different ways of expressing ourselves but I am unhappy because there is no romance, there is no randomness, there are no little things here and there. I dont feel like I can be vunerable and he will see that and step up. I feel like I have to tell him how to treat me and everything I need for him to do for me.
Am I looking for too much? I broke it off with him but hes still trying to understand what the problem was. And I guess a part of me is wondering am I asking for too much?
Thanks guys