silverbuttons
Not Impressed
Hard pass.
He Proposed With No Ring. What's Your Answer: Yes Or No?
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movingforward13
I do what I want...
It depends....
I am very picky with jewelry. I don't wear jewelry on the regular and when I do--- it is high quality. My dream ring is a VVS2 or better, color D, .75 - 1.25 carat round diamond set in a platinum halo. Chances are, I am not going to get that... the stone alone costs $5K+ from a quality dealer. I would like some input on my ring so if I was proposed to without a ring but could go shopping for mine afterward... I would do it.
But as my ex MIL famously said to me - "Your man should know you well enough to get a ring he knows you would like from his heart." She was shading me because I was sending her son ring ideas and she felt it was inappropriate. Since then my thoughts have changed... I agree with her- your man should know you well enough to either get you a ring he knows you would like or take you shopping afterward. But he should also know if proposing without a ring (depending on the reason) is OK.
One of the guys I am seeing now asked me to send him a picture of a ring (friend got engaged a few weeks ago) because I said it was pretty and he wanted to see it. Didn't think much of it then but last week he asked me if I like circle or square stones (he doesn't know they are called Round or Princess cuts lol) so I think he is trying to get an idea of what I like. I would not take him seriously if he didn't propose without a ring and didn't take me shopping right after.
I am very picky with jewelry. I don't wear jewelry on the regular and when I do--- it is high quality. My dream ring is a VVS2 or better, color D, .75 - 1.25 carat round diamond set in a platinum halo. Chances are, I am not going to get that... the stone alone costs $5K+ from a quality dealer. I would like some input on my ring so if I was proposed to without a ring but could go shopping for mine afterward... I would do it.
But as my ex MIL famously said to me - "Your man should know you well enough to get a ring he knows you would like from his heart." She was shading me because I was sending her son ring ideas and she felt it was inappropriate. Since then my thoughts have changed... I agree with her- your man should know you well enough to either get you a ring he knows you would like or take you shopping afterward. But he should also know if proposing without a ring (depending on the reason) is OK.
One of the guys I am seeing now asked me to send him a picture of a ring (friend got engaged a few weeks ago) because I said it was pretty and he wanted to see it. Didn't think much of it then but last week he asked me if I like circle or square stones (he doesn't know they are called Round or Princess cuts lol) so I think he is trying to get an idea of what I like. I would not take him seriously if he didn't propose without a ring and didn't take me shopping right after.
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**SaSSy**
3rd Big Chop on 7/18/2016
I'm so glad she doesn't look like that anymore.
NO.
A ring is symbiotic of your status in his eyes. I wish I would have a man on one knee talmbout "Imma get you a ring later". Stop trying to lower the bar for men
But on to matter at hand, that's a major red flag to proposed to a woman with no ring, get married 3 weeks later, than finally get a ring a year later. Was he going to jail or something?
ITA, but I wouldn't be waiting and not exploring my other options just to "wait" for him to get his finances in order. I'll date him, but won't seriously commit to a man who's in serious debt. That's not a healthy way to start a marriage.
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Ivonnovi
Well-Known Member
Yep, they got married, moved in toge'va and split the expenses. After 365 days, he was able to afford the 1st ring (trinket); then during the 2nd year and after he paid his car off he was able to afford the 2nd ring.
.......and SHEEEEEE Helped! [But don't know it] It is her choice and her business, but she really Should neither Brag nor put down women who won't settle like she did.
(for ya'll old head the bolded should be read in the voice of the Shake n'Bake little girl)
MissNina
Libra Girl
No, I need a ring. But bae could propose with a ring from the Cracker Jack box for all I care as much as I love him.
But, ironically, the only reason we didn't get engaged a year ago is Bc he wants to buy me this huge, stupidly expensive one that I think is 100% uncalled for and yet he doesn't want to settle for anything else lol. Most men in love really do see the ring as a representation of their love for you, so having a proposal without even an inexpensive one is telling, IMO.
But, ironically, the only reason we didn't get engaged a year ago is Bc he wants to buy me this huge, stupidly expensive one that I think is 100% uncalled for and yet he doesn't want to settle for anything else lol. Most men in love really do see the ring as a representation of their love for you, so having a proposal without even an inexpensive one is telling, IMO.
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curlicarib
Lovin'' All of Me
I don't like diamonds, so............................I'll take the equivalent in registered Bearer Bonds. Thank you.
chassiecrane
Well-Known Member
I need to pick my own ring. I've always known the exact ring I want and it's not something one can find at Jareds or something. I ain't waiting yearssss though.
Petal26
Well-Known Member
But.. If he had money to go get them uglass tattoo rings he had money to get her a tasteful inexpensive ring....?
She probably paid for them.
"If you can't accept a man at his worst then you don't deserve him at his best" is the saddest thing I've read in a while. These low expectation having, "please pick ME" chicks are pathetic.
von rose
Active Member
5K+ for the stone alone??? I gave my bf a hard max of 1k for all the rings (mine his and the bands). Then again as I said jewelry is pretty low on my priority list so yeahhhhhhh.
movingforward13
I do what I want...
Yeah- I don't wear jewelry but my engagement ring would be the one thing I would want to splurge on. Color D stones over .75 carats are going to cost a few grand, unless you go to the Middle East. I hear diamonds don't have the ridiculous mark up out there that they do here.
von rose
Active Member
Gotcha, I guess i'm just lucky my tastes align differently (I like pearls and onyx over diamonds) and the De Beers are just exploitative as hell. But hey if you're frugal in everything else go for it ^-^
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