I completely agree! Especially with the comment in bold.
It really doesn't have much to do with looks at all. It's how you carry yourself, and your general attitude. Do you love yourself? I mean
REALLY love yourself? If you do, then guys will pick up on that. If you don't, then that will show and guys will pick up on that too! Haven't you seen some women who were not all that great-looking snag some very nice-looking handsome men? A lot of women think: "Hmm...what does he see in
her??" LOL!
But I'm telling you, it's
ALL about the attitude. And how you come across.
I noticed this a while ago back when I was still in school, I wasn't really trying to attract any guy attention. I was focused on my studies, and wasn't really looking to start a relationship. I think this showed in my overall attitude/demeanor too. I must have been giving off a certain vibe. I wore my hair pulled back in buns all the time, I wore glasses (I was studious you know...lol), and I didn't really smile or laugh much. Even my guy friends would joke about how I was being a total "book worm".
Now days however, I laugh, I have fun, flirt, joke around and banter with guys, wear my hair down more often, dress nicely (not overdoing it, but you know...looking presentable), and smile more at guys. Now days I see more guys are coming up to me, and are feeling more comfortable in approaching me. I haven't really changed physically. I'm the same person I was before. I haven't had plastic surgery, or lost a great amount of weight, or gone overly "glam" with the make-up. Nope! I just changed my "vibe"/attitude. Before, I was giving off "don't approach" signals. And trust me, guys can pick up on them!
Let me tell you... that "Smiling" thing is noooo joke! I decided to try a little "experiment" about a few months ago and tried to just make and effort smile more in public for about a week. Whooo! Ladies...that is a deadly weapon with men! LOL! I couldn't even continue the "experiment" for more than two days because I was getting all kinds of guys coming up to me, approaching me on the metro, in the street, at work, etc. LOL!
I'm telling you, that "smile" is deadly!
Only use it if you want a guy to approach you. Even a not-so-drop-dead-gorgeous girl can make a guy approach her if she just smiles his way. So, if you don't want guys to approach you, just put on your mean mug and frown. haha!