is it wrong/junvenile to take a break from clubbing/going out with her for this reason?
In your case, it is not wrong or juvenile. It's being gentle with yourself.
The whole idea of going out is to have fun. If you're NOT having fun going out with her, take a break from doing so. Nevermind all the PC talk! It takes a lot of self-confidence to feel comfortable next to a glamorous friend. Obviously, you're not "there yet in terms of self confidence. You're in the process of building it, and as you're learning to feel more comfortable with yourself and own your strength as a woman, respect where you are and work with it.
Originally Posted by
poochie167
.......it kinda sux cuz we go to the best places in NYC where the guys look the best. and i can't get approached for the life of me. they ALL...AND I MEAN ALL OF THEM flock right to her....don't get me wrong, this isn't a self esteem thread. i love my friend and she definitely deserves all the attention she gets!
Now, I need to say this: There is no such thing as a beauty that ALL men like and flock to. There is NO such thing!! I wish this simple truth was drilled into our female minds since childhood.
Though a good number of them fall under the established cultural tastes of their particular country and era, men are very diverse in their taste, and it doesn't matter if you're tall, short, fat, slim, average, thick, skinny, long haired, short haired, feminine, boyish, motherly, outgoing, shy, sexy, classy, whorish, sluttish, black, white, yello, dark, young, old, damnit, some dude is going to look at you and think
When you're hanging out with your friend, you're too busy noticing the men who like her, and you're probably ignoring the men who like you.