but time really does help.
i think a lot of us has been there unfortunately.u live and you learn and try to move on. there was a great thread about unrequited love a few years ago.
it hurts
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=148299&highlight=unrequited
yep. it hit me like a ton of bricks out of nowhere for a guy i would never have expected to fall for. and once i realized i did and how quickly it happened, whatever grasp i could have had on the situation quickly flew out of my hands
i told him early on that i wanted there to be something more between us and he basically told me that he did not want a girlfriend. so i said ok. looking back, im not sure what the rationale was for hanging around knowing from day one he was not going to be able to reciprocate my feelings for him other than that both our cards were on the table and knowing where he stood - even if it wasnt in the same place as i was - was good enough for me. i think it was just that i gave myself permission to ride it out
so that first year was excruciating, but not in an entirely bad way. the feelings were intense and exquisite and i imagine most people want that feeling from a relationship (even if it's a "bad" one). some things hurt but overall i think i was enjoying the ride. the second year was probably the worst. i tried to let go, and couldn't. one time it got so bad
i remember crying and begging for it to stop, to go away. i didnt want to feel the way i did and it was like i had no control over it. i couldnt make it go away. the third year he transferred schools so we didnt see each other as much, and that helped. then came some other issues and after that we tried a fourth year but it was perfunctory... it wasnt what it was anymore and since i had started grad school i was also drifting away for other reasons. the fifth year, i didnt feel anything anymore. i was done
I wonder if i was the kind of woman who would have hung on to false hope if i would still be wishing on some kind of fantasy. luckily i was always realistic about what was going on and mostly just needed to give it time to run out. when it did i just let it go. i remember
the last time. he wanted to come over and i had moved and i wouldnt tell him where i
was. we havent spoken since
Majority of the time, what you're looking for will never happen, at that point he has lost all respect for you for allowing it this long...But know this, as long as you allow it, he will continue and continue and continue to use you, to make himself feel like a king. Even if he has an iota of love for you, him being able to have his cake and eat it to, trumps all...
Ya know, some people don't realize how much of a Blessing it is to find a human being to love, that actually loves you back...Really.
To love a person who does not reciprocate is one of the most torcherous things a person can go thru...It puts you in a position to be treated like a fool. Most of the time the paingiver takes full advantage of the situation and because we love them, we allow it, thinking everytimeee, this one timeee, "This is it, were gonna be happy"...
And sometimes He'll even get another woman, while you're waiting on the back burner, where you will remain...The only relief is for the receiver to walk away!
meesch said:yep. it hit me like a ton of bricks out of nowhere for a guy i would never have expected to fall for. and once i realized i did and how quickly it happened, whatever grasp i could have had on the situation quickly flew out of my hands
i told him early on that i wanted there to be something more between us and he basically told me that he did not want a girlfriend. so i said ok. looking back, im not sure what the rationale was for hanging around knowing from day one he was not going to be able to reciprocate my feelings for him other than that both our cards were on the table and knowing where he stood - even if it wasnt in the same place as i was - was good enough for me. i think it was just that i gave myself permission to ride it out
so that first year was excruciating, but not in an entirely bad way. the feelings were intense and exquisite and i imagine most people want that feeling from a relationship (even if it's a "bad" one). some things hurt but overall i think i was enjoying the ride. the second year was probably the worst. i tried to let go, and couldn't. one time it got so bad i remember crying and begging for it to stop, to go away. i didnt want to feel the way i did and it was like i had no control over it. i couldnt make it go away. the third year he transferred schools so we didnt see each other as much, and that helped. then came some other issues and after that we tried a fourth year but it was perfunctory... it wasnt what it was anymore and since i had started grad school i was also drifting away for other reasons. the fifth year, i didnt feel anything anymore. i was done
i wonder if i was the kind of woman who would have hung on to false hope if i would still be wishing on some kind of fantasy. luckily i was always realistic about what was going on and mostly just needed to give it time to run out. when it did i just let it go. i remember the last time. he wanted to come over and i had moved and i wouldnt tell him where i was. we havent spoken since
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