Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for YOU

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Well I would just like to say that I get about 70% more male attention when I look like I put minimal effort into my hair, makeup, and clothes (ponytail, lipgloss only, beater and jeans lol)


ChocolateLove!!!! Where are you!!!!??? Come baaaack!! :look:
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

She didn't say wear lots of makeup and fancy clothes, she said your natural look shouldn't be homeless-looking.

Anyway, I was expecting to see some ridiculous stuff from Chocolatelove, but this is mostly logical advice... :up:

We'll see where it leads.......
 
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Hello ladies... I'm back... did you miss me :grin:

Part II

I'm just freestyling by the way lol. It's not like I've prepared structural points, and blah blah.. I'm just going with the flow. So ermm where was I. Ohhh yeaaah lets get you ladies your toys!

1) Stop being so damn delusional. Its very true when people say 'when a man shows you who he is, BELIEVE IT.' Enough with calling your girlfriends who sit there for hours trying to rationalize the situation. Stop making excuses for the Knee-grow. Stop trying to understand him. If you're complaining about a man regurlarly and you decide to stick it out because you think it's love, all I gotta say is you're dumb. People try to justify their stupidity by saying it's love. Somebody who loves you will not dawg you out. All he's doing is having you there till he finds somebody he loves.

Have you ever wondered why the man you gave your love to treated you so bad but the next girl he got with he married her, and treated her 10x better than you. It's because you were just the girl in his life he spent time with to just pass the days. You were always just one of his options, never his priority. I know rejection can be hard, but it can make you stronger. Rather than trying to win this man's love, or fighting to prove to him that you are the one..............just let it go......... You will find a man who will love you for simply breathing. That is why it is so important to allow the man to chase you, and not the other way round.

2) What have I told you about emotions? Yup... you keep that to yourself. A very important rule is don't get attached. We ladies have the tendency to build a character in our mind, and later we're dissapointed when the man in question does not meet the expectations of the character we created :lol: Personally it takes a minimum of 6 months, in some cases a year to even get a glimpse of who the guy really is. Ladies always be crying about 'He changed.... he changed'' No, he never. He was always like that but he just presented another side to you.

Ok.... now lets talk about the real game :grin:

3) You have to be a good tease and good at manipulating. Always keep 'hope' in their hearts. Let him think he has a chance to get with you because that's what keeps them around. Whatever a grown woman chooses to do, that is her business. I do practice celibacy (my own version), and I started practising that after my Ex. Not giving the candy away does give you the power. You don't need to mention that straight away... only when things get hot. I usually don't mention it until after I pushed their head down. (I don't mind receiving) Then when I get what I want :lick: ... yes... that is the bomb :yay: .. I say no wait.. stop, but they carry on, and after I reach the heavens and scream Jeeeeeeeesus, who looks down on me and says You go Gurllllll... I get up in a rush. Tell them they're the best I've ever had but I can't do this. Ignore them for a while, and then when you get back in contact just tell them you had no intention of going there but they were so amazing. You build up their ego and before you know, you are being :lick: anytime, anywhere. Well they hope that you will give something back. Ofcourse you don't! It's hard but you have to make it out as if you don't want it from them, and whenever it does happen it was by accident! Then you fly out like Superman :superman:... bada bing bada boom :superbanana: :lol:

3) When it comes to the money situation now, you have to be smart. Again, manipulation comes into play. The person has to trust you before you manipulate them. Learn to offer to pay, if the guy takes up your offer... drop him. He will not be a your toy. No fun to play with. The one who refuses.. he becomes your target. Do the purse trick. Always get it out to pay at the beginning, until he becomes accustomed to always paying. That's when you start leave it at home. Next thing you know, your meals come free, you're watching movies for free. You go out but you're saving money. Great! :grin:
 
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Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

I'm just going out and say it. ^^^ Those are great advice for gold diggers.
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

I'm just going out and say it. ^^^ Those are great advice for gold diggers.

My thread is for people who want toys.

I'm not here to give marriage advice........ this thread is for ladies who just wanna have fun :grin:
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

Hello ladies... I'm back... did you miss me :grin:

Part II

I'm just freestyling by the way lol. It's not like I've preparded structural points, and blah blah.. I'm just going with the flow. So ermm where was I. Ohhh yeaaah lets get you ladies your toys!

1) Stop being so damn delusional. Its very true when people say 'when a man shows you who he is, BELIEVE IT.' Enough with calling your girlfriends who sit there for hours trying to rationalize the situation. Stop making excuses for the Knee-grow. Stop trying to understand him. If you're complaining about a man regurlarly and you decide to stick it out because you think it's love, all I gotta say is you're dumb. People try to justify their stupidity by saying it's love. Somebody who loves you will not dawg you out. All he's doing is having you there till he finds somebody he loves.

Have you ever wondered why the man you gave your love to treated you so bad but the next girl he got with he married her, and treated her 10x better than you. It's because you were just the girl in his life he spent time with to just pass the days. You were always just one of his options, never his priority. I know rejection can be hard, but it can make you stronger. Rather than trying to win this man's love, or fighting to prove to him that you are the one..............just let it go......... You will find a man who will love you for simply breathing. That is why it is so important to allow the man to chase you, and not the other way round.

2) What have I told you about emotions? Yup... you keep that to yourself. A very important rule is don't get attached. We ladies have the tendency to build a character in our mind, and later we're dissapointed when the man in question does not meet the expectations of the character we created :lol: Personally it takes a minimum of 6 months, in some cases a year to even get a glimpse of who the guy really is. Ladies always be crying about 'He changed.... he changed'' No, he never. He was always like that but he just presented another side to you.

Ok.... now lets talk about the real game :grin:

3) You have to be a good tease and good at manipulating. Always keep 'hope' in their hearts. Let him think he has a chance to get with you because that's what keeps them around. Whatever a grown woman chooses to do, that is her business. I do practice celibacy (my own version), and I started practising that after my Ex. Not giving the candy away does give you the power. You don't need to mention that straight away... only when things get hot. I usually don't mention it until after I pushed their head down. (I don't mind receiving) Then when I get what I want :lick: ... yes... that is the bomb :yay: .. I say no wait.. stop, but they carry on, and after I reach the heavens and scream Jeeeeeeeesus, who looks down on me and says You go Gurllllll... I get up in a rush. Tell them they're the best I've ever had but I can't do this. Ignore them for a while, and then when you get back in contact just tell them you had no intention of going there but they were so amazing. You build up their ego and before you know, you are being :lick: anytime, anywhere. Well they hope that you will give something back. Ofcourse you don't! It's hard but you have to make it out as if you don't want it from them, and whenever it does happen it was by accident! Then you fly out like Superman :superman:... bada bing bada boom :superbanana: :lol:

3) When it comes to the money situation now, you have to be smart. Again, manipulation comes into play. The person has to trust you before you manipulate them. Learn to offer to pay, if the guy takes up your offer... drop him. He will not be a your toy. No fun to play with. The one who refuses.. he becomes your target. Do the purse trick. Always get it out to pay at the beginning, until he becomes accustomed to always paying. That's when you start leave it at home. Next thing you know, your meals come free, you're watching movies for free. You go out but you're saving money. Great! :grin:
:lachen::lachen::lachen:

I agree except for that purse trick. I'm not going to even pretend like I'm paying:nono:
Anyway, most of this advice are in my various dating/self help books, blogs, and various threads you see on here. Thanks for sharing.
 
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KEEP EM COMING GURL!!! I LOVE THE CHOCOLATE LOVE TIPS!!!!

The First one totally relates to me. . . My Fiance (now EX fiance) tried to pull some bull. "The server at this restaurant gave me her number." Um no u must think im bozo the clowns first cuzin. Bra we thru. . .
 
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1) Stop being so damn delusional. Its very true when people say 'when a man shows you who he is, BELIEVE IT.' Enough with calling your girlfriends who sit there for hours trying to rationalize the situation. Stop making excuses for the Knee-grow. Stop trying to understand him. If you're complaining about a man regurlarly and you decide to stick it out because you think it's love, all I gotta say is you're dumb. People try to justify their stupidity by saying it's love. Somebody who loves you will not dawg you out. All he's doing is having you there till he finds somebody he loves.

Have you ever wondered why the man you gave your love to treated you so bad but the next girl he got with he married her, and treated her 10x better than you. It's because you were just the girl in his life he spent time with to just pass the days. You were always just one of his options, never his priority. I know rejection can be hard, but it can make you stronger. Rather than trying to win this man's love, or fighting to prove to him that you are the one..............just let it go......... You will find a man who will love you for simply breathing. That is why it is so important to allow the man to chase you, and not the other way round
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You Preaching Right HERE!

When I finally got it in my head that all I have to do is be and the man for me will do anything to be with me, it was a game changer.

My cuz and me take shots to "Ninja's aint sh*t"...its to remind us that we got this and to never be dumb over d*ck again.

Now, I have the man I want and I am treated the way I need to be treated. Amen!:yep:
 
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I always offer to pay on first dates, but they always insist on taking care of the bill. It would be really funny if one day a guy said okay pay then lol!
 
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You Preaching Right HERE!

When I finally got it in my head that all I have to do is be and the man for me will do anything to be with me, it was a game changer.

My cuz and mine shoot taking toast is "Ninja's aint sh*t"...its to remind us that we got this and to never be dumb over d*ck again.

Now, I have the man I want and I am treated the way I need to be treated. Amen!:yep:

Really... you? You looks so sweet and innocent in your siggy :lol:

ChocolateLove you crack me up. I know you did not imply that Jesus gave you his blessing as you reached orgasm. That is a hot mess.
 
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ILY OP. I needed a little reminder of how to handle men. I was getting a bit soft. smh.
Right when I got a little soft, ***** don't want to call. lol
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

You Preaching Right HERE!

When I finally got it in my head that all I have to do is be and the man for me will do anything to be with me, it was a game changer.

My cuz and mine shoot taking toast is "Ninja's aint sh*t"...its to remind us that we got this and to never be dumb over d*ck again.

Now, I have the man I want and I am treated the way I need to be treated. Amen!:yep:

AMEN Sista PrettyfaceANB!

:band2:
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

Okay, I just read part II- That whole sex thing is dirrrtyy!!! lol I'd be mad!! But I dont have sex period. so it's w/e. the rest of the advice is key.
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

3) You have to be a good tease and good at manipulating. Always keep 'hope' in their hearts. Let him think he has a chance to get with you because that's what keeps them around. Whatever a grown woman chooses to do, that is her business. I do practice celibacy (my own version), and I started practising that after my Ex. Not giving the candy away does give you the power. You don't need to mention that straight away... only when things get hot. I usually don't mention it until after I pushed their head down. (I don't mind receiving) Then when I get what I want :lick: ... yes... that is the bomb :yay: .. I say no wait.. stop, but they carry on, and after I reach the heavens and scream Jeeeeeeeesus, who looks down on me and says You go Gurllllll... I get up in a rush. Tell them they're the best I've ever had but I can't do this. Ignore them for a while, and then when you get back in contact just tell them you had no intention of going there but they were so amazing. You build up their ego and before you know, you are being :lick: anytime, anywhere. Well they hope that you will give something back. Ofcourse you don't! It's hard but you have to make it out as if you don't want it from them, and whenever it does happen it was by accident! Then you fly out like Superman :superman:... bada bing bada boom :superbanana: :lol:

3)

@ the bolded: OMG!! :lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
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Really... you? You looks so sweet and innocent in your siggy :lol:

ChocolateLove you crack me up. I know you did not imply that Jesus gave you his blessing as you reached orgasm. That is a hot mess.

I am sweet and innocent :peace::look:

But after 25 years of BS with men, I realize they respect you when you treat them bad :whipgirl:

Its really backwards to me, oh well. But I'm super sweet and nice, until you rub me wrong :angeldevi:

Then once we get back to normal, I am sweet again :angel2:


Cheers to the freakin' weekend, I'll drink to that :girlbar: :lachen:

AMEN Sista PrettyfaceANB!

:band2:

Play Choir. :lachen::lachen:
 
Re: Have you ever heard the words 'It's not you, it's me' - Then this thread is for

I have done some of these tips and I had my fun:lachen: in the last year. They do work and they work well on ANY guy anywhere after that initial contact. Be detached and not give a flying hoot if they are there or not and it's like they become hooked. You can't get rid of them. This is Psychology 101 though.

A lot of this has been said on here but you put your own special spin on it OP.
 
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LMAO at "If you're looking natural, but you look homeless.... that's a problem." LMAO! This is actually good advice choc
 
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