Have you ever have tagged as committing a certain sin, but you didn't?

[mango387]

Have you ever been tagged as committing a certain sin, but you didn't?

What did you do?

I have two different scenarios where people have been accused of committing sins that they did not commit.

1) One is a young woman who has a nice number of male acquaintances. She has been accused of being a garden tool among other things. People are spreading rumors, but the young lady is just more comfortable around guys due to her upbringing. She is pretty, and some of the guys are interested in her, but she is not committing fornication or adultery. She is a born again Christian. These rumors about her are not dying.

2) The other is a young man. He is in a field where most of the men are married at his age and many have started a family. He is 28, and he has not married yet. He wants to be married, but it hasn't happened for him yet. He admits that he does have a few reservations about getting married right now, but he wants to get married. This person may seem slightly feminine or odd to a few people, but he says that he has never been attracted to a man, had sex with a man, kissed a man, or anything else. In other words, he vows that he is not closeted. Because of his slightly "off" mannerisms and lack of spouse, people are spreading rumors that he is gay. This rumor about him is not dying. There are no facebook pictures, texts, or anything else that backs up the rumor.

 

[mango387]

Re: Have you ever been tagged as committing a certain sin, but you didn't?

Let me add that both of them are in living in the Bible Belt and working in careers where this type of information could cost them their jobs.

 

[Shimmie]

In the girl's situation, she's asking for it. I'm just being real here. She's more comfortable with men because she LIKES the attention.

She's placed herself in a position which gives the strong appearance that she is in a 'free' lifestyle and frankly, I've just about had it with the weak excuses from women who claim they're more comfortable with men than women. 'They need to stop lying and just admit that it's the male attention they are thriving upon. If folks speak ill of her, she has only herself to blame for the Word of God clearly says, to '.. shun even the very 'appearance of evil.'

If she doesn't want the accusation then stop presenting herself as being that of a garden tool. God has called us to have a 'balance' in life. To have an equal and healthy balance of both male and female in our lives, be it in friends and / or family. You cannot go through life 'tilted' , we have to get along with both sexes, in order to have a healthy outlook on life. Jesus said, "I would that you would be at peace with 'ALL' men (and women).

All means all, meaning both sexes; and of course there are different levels of these relationships. However being stuck with men only or women only is not healthy, mentally. It indicates 'issues' unresolved about the avoided gender, which is actually a festering wound or a state of un-forgiveness as well as distrust, insecurity, intimidation of the avoided gender.

She should simply ask God to bless [her] with a healthy balance of both male and female companions; all to His glory. God will honour this prayer for it is His will to do so; to have all of His children healthy in spirit, soul, mind and body and healthy relationships. God would not have a child of His to be regarded as a garden ho', digging up the beautiful flower that He has created her to be.

As for the young man, he's not in a minority of men who 'delay' (avoid / run from) marriage; it's in a man's DNA to avoid marriage; it just is until one of a few things happens to change his heart.

Folks need to get a life and leave him alone. He's done nothing wrong, nor given anyone any valid reason to wrongly accuse him. If this man has Jesus, than he has nothing to fear. Nothing. For no weapon formed against him shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against him in judgment, he shall condemn. [Isaiah 54:17]

He has Psalm 1 and Psalm 3 as his advocate against all of his adversaries and Many are the afflictions of the Righteous, but the LORD SHALL Deliver him from them ALL ! Now one thing this man can do is 'buff' up his masculinity. Nothing drastic, but he can go to the gym and build up some muscle and perhaps an acting or modeling class for men which will help him strengthen his appearance from appearing 'delicate'. It's done everyday, in acting / modeling classes all over this country.

As for me personally being accused, yes it has happened. When I was going to college, I went to school during the day, and I worked at night in a bank where the checks taken in by the tellers during banking hours, were processed and sent to other banks for payment.

My children were badly teased by their friends in the neighborhood stating that I was working at night because I was a 'stripper' and a prostitute in the late night clubs. The bank paid excellent money in addition to a 20% differential added to my regular salary for working the evening shift; they also paid for our evening meals.

I 'ignored' what was being said about me, I truly did not care. I even took my children to my job several times to meet my boss, co-workers, and showed them the big computer room that I worked in. my boss was very helpful and even gave them a 'special' phone number where they could call me at work and speak with me 'there'; everyone there knew and supported my children in this; and although this gave them great comfort, I still had to quit a few years later, because the teasing was causing such trauma for my babies. I had to 'choose' what was more important. I was able to finish school on a grant which supported me and my children until I graduated college. It was rough, but God saw me through it.

 

[mango387]

Thank you so much for your response. I really wish that people would only testify to what they truly know not think, because you can really ruin someone's reputation. Anyway, did the people ever realize/apologize for falsely accusing you? Did that rumor ever die down, because that is a pretty big allegation? The guy has even arrived at the point where he does not want to hang with his male childhood friends (one is dating a female and the other is engaged to be married to a female), because he is afraid that it will be misinterpreted.

 

[Shimmie]

Thank you so much for your response. I really wish that people would only testify to what they truly know not think, because you can really ruin someone's reputation. Anyway, did the people ever realize/apologize for falsely accusing you? Did that rumor ever die down, because that is a pretty big allegation? The guy has even arrived at the point where he does not want to hang with his male childhood friends (one is dating a female and the other is engaged to be married to a female), because he is afraid that it will be misinterpreted.

No, no one apologized and in my personal stubborn attitude, I refused to let it get to me. I've learned that you can't make people un-think what they want to think.

Does that make any sense, how I worded that?

I was on a mission to have a better life for me and my two children and I didn't have time to care what they thought. But I did care about my children and their feelings. God blessed us to move into a better home and neighborhood and the irony is that now, my children have prospered and they are at peace. They know the Truth about me which was the total opposite of the vicious rumors.

I'm so sorry for your male friend. But you know what? He's going to rise above this. This is when he can grow more closer to God and allow God to protect and to promote him the same as God did for Joseph when he was lied upon. Remember Potiphers' wife who tried to seduce Joseph and lied and said that it was 'he' (Joseph) who approached her and Joseph was thrown into jail.

Yet God was with him and he still used him in a mighty way and Joseph ended up being the leader in a foreign land promoted by the very man who placed him in jail.

This is not to say that your male friend will be imprisoned, but it's to say that the challenge he is facing now, will only promote him far above his accusers.

For Jesus will be the lifter of his head (Psalm 3), lift him up above those who have accused him falsely. and Jesus will ask him, "Where are your accusers?"

BTW: The girl is not you is it? I'm sorry for being so hard on the girl's situation.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

I have been labeled the easy fatty.Back in my hay day I was very vocal about what I desire in a man sexually especially.Some dudes would be friendly with me and I of course denied their advances.I also use to get called a ick sucker because I have larger fuller lips the type most yt girls are paying for.At one point I got approached by a male teacher in middle school because I dressed up,had my hair down and he was all over me.Sad really.

 

[Shimmie]

I have been labeled the easy fatty.Back in my hay day I was very vocal about what I desire in a man sexually especially.Some dudes would be friendly with me and I of course denied their advances.I also use to get called a ick sucker because I have larger fuller lips the type most yt girls are paying for.At one point I got approached by a male teacher in middle school because I dressed up,had my hair down and he was all over me.Sad really.

They were 'all' fools. Anyone with good sense and a true heart can see how beautiful and precious you are and that you are worth all respect and honour.

You are a top class lady... and beloved child of God.

 

[mango387]

The girl is not me. =)

I definitely forgot about Potipher's wife and Joseph. I remember that he WAS actually imprisoned, but God blessed him even in the prison. Moreover, what's sad about these two is that when they were unsaved and unconcerned about living holy, no one paid much attention to either of them. Now, that they are trying to do the right thing it seems that Satan is attacking them LEFT and RIGHT. I do agree that they both actually could do a better job at "shunning the appearance of evil" though. I pray that God will bless each person who responded and will read this thread.

 

[Shimmie]

The girl is not me. =)

I definitely forgot about Potipher's wife and Joseph. I remember that he WAS actually imprisoned, but God blessed him even in the prison. Moreover, what's sad about these two is that when they were unsaved and unconcerned about living holy, no one paid much attention to either of them. Now, that they are trying to do the right thing it seems that Satan is attacking them LEFT and RIGHT. I do agree that they both actually could do a better job at "shunning the appearance of evil" though. I pray that God will bless each person who responded and will read this thread.

You have a beautiful heart, Mango... I sense the Spirit of meekness and gentleness of the Holy Spirit around you.

Regarding the 'attacks' upon your friends, it's not unusual for this to happen when one leaves the old life and receives the new life of Jesus Christ. As Christians, we each are subject to persecution; Jesus warned us of this many times in His Word. Yet, we endure it until the end.

We don't stop living just because someone 'attacks' us. We correct what needs correction and just keep it moving, for in due season, we shall reap the rewards of endurance and grow all the more stronger with each new challenge.

God bless you, Mango and have a wonderful day in the Lord... :Rose:

 

[Guitarhero]

When you say "tagged," do you mean on the internet or that people are just gossiping lies about them? Um, it's nothing at all new and most people have been the victims of gossips, whether religious folks or not. What you do is not respond to those people and continue to live your life to the fullest. If someone asks you in person about your alleged sin, simply tell them that it's not accurate and move on about your life. You don't owe any kind of proof to anyone.

I had an incident where a pastor accused me of something in front of the congregation. This was at a little tiny baptist church in my college town. I wasn't a member but I'd go from time to time. Hehe...he was later found out to have been sexually harassing the women. Anyhoo, life goes on. I wouldn't sweat it and people will always have something stupid and evil to say about folks.

Bible belt or no bible belt, there's such a thing as documentation of all accusations, gossiping & mistreatment on the job and handing over any type of firing based upon lies to the EEOC.

 

[Guitarhero]

There's such a thing as scheming and jealous or competitive females and it sometimes takes a while to find a true female friend who doesn't have ulterior motives. At one time, I had only 1 female friend and the rest, males. They were simply easier to get along with and I felt I could just be. If I wanted male attention, I'd go get it elsewhere.

I personally don't know this girl and I certainly couldn't say that she has male friends because she's pushing the image envelope. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt rather than a judgment on her intentions because we don't know. I'd also like to say that society worldwide is very quick to judge a woman as a whore for ridiculous reasons. And I don't think that the bible expects individuals to cater to a gossiper just to make sure they aren't misunderstood. Jesus ate with prostitutes. Was He a pimp? Nope.

She might have been a tomboy growing up and it might be more natural for her to have male friends kinda like older brothers. I think we should address those who speak evil of others just for the sake of it like those indicated by the OP. Unfortunately, we've all had to deal with them. People will just try and pin the awful on the most innocent of persons. And I've heard church folk say that girls going through puberty and weight gain were pregnant, when they weren't. I had a guy accost me on the street and tell me I had had a baby when I was fresh out of high school. LOL. When I told him he had the wrong person, he retorted that he didn't and that I was guilty!!! Anyhoo

 

[SND411]

Shimmie,

are you trying to insinuate that other peoples' sin of false accusation and gossip is the woman's fault? Do you want us to REALLY believe that a man's reluctance to marriage is purely biologically and in his DNA? That it has nothing to do with socialization? Your whole post was rubbish. No wonder why the Spirit of God is rarely found in modern day Christian communities.

People who are often the most victimized in society (women and gays) cannot even find refuge in the Christian church. How sad....very sad.

 

[fifi134]

^^ You can disagree without being so rude.

 

[SND411]

^^ You can disagree without being so rude.

It is what it is. I'm sick of the way women and other disadvantaged people are treated amongst "religious folk." I'm mad as hell.

 

[fifi134]

I disagree with some of the points stated above, but you can expound on why you RESPECTFULLY disagree. I'd actually like to hear some of them, because we may have some in common...

 

[SND411]

I disagree with some of the points stated above, but you can expound on why you RESPECTFULLY disagree. I'd actually like to hear some of them, because we may have some in common...

Sorry to Shimmie, sopo144, and everyone else on this forum for my decorum. But I am sick and tired of the church/society in general making women carry the burden of other peoples' sins. In the OP, she NEVER said that the woman only wanted male friends and only wanted to seek male attention. We need to stop this pseudo-psychoanalysis of a person we don't even know. The fact that people are spreading FALSE rumors about her IS the problem. Isn't that breaking one of the ten commandments? So what if the majority of her friends are male? Where in the Bible is it stated that a woman cannot have the majority of her acquaintances be male? Do you honestly think people will be saying the same thing about a male and his many female friends? Where in the Bible does it state our quotas of friendships between men and women must be 50:50? We need to stop constantly putting our issues based on socialization into the Word of God.

So basically, Shimmie stated that the fact people are gossiping about her is all on that woman's fault. I find this utterly ridiculous. There are people that will CONSTANTLY examine a woman to try to find her faults, flaws, and sham her. Yet the people gossiping about the woman get a free pass because the woman supposedly put herself in that situation and "made them gossip."

Also, the idea that it is in a man's DNA to delay marriage basically absolves a man from his irresponsibility. Again, the burden is placed on women to try to "change a man's biology" and convince them to get married. NO WHERE in the Bible does it EVER insinuate that a man naturally wants to delay marriage. In fact, the Biblical authors painted an opposite picture! Most men were determined to get married in order to carry their father's clan's line. Just because SOME men in our society want to delay marriage, does not mean it's in a man's DNA. Why would God make their DNA go against His holy plan?

With all this responsibility and burden women supposedly have, I have to wonder why are men ordained to be in charge?

 

[mango387]

^^^ I am sure that Shimmie can speak for herself, but I don't think she meant any harm by what she posted. In fact, Shimmie actually apologized for being too hard on the young lady in the scenario. If you look at my previous posts in the Christian forum, I am not a Shimmie stan or anything. To me, she just offered her suggestions for some situations. What might be nice is if you offered your suggestions as well, because you see things differently. I love this forum because I am exposed to different ways of thinking, but I believe that Christians especially have to be careful how we disagree. The world is watching us, so we have to be considerate of how we carry ourselves even in anger.

 

[fifi134]

I agree about the woman part. Yes, there are some women who have male friends simply for the attention, but not every woman is like that. I know the Bible says not to put yourself in situations where people are sinning, but many times there are women who are not doing that. I do feel though, that a lot of times, the guilt is automatically placed on the woman, so I agree with you there SND411.

The whole gossiping part is just as sinful, if anything, it puts an (oftentimes) unnecessary spotlight on someone who isn't sinning, potentially ruining her reputation because of speculation. I think we as Christians are wise enough to know which situations are appropriate or not. I don't think it's justified for a woman to be shamed simply because she only has male friends.

 

[Shimmie]

@SND411, I respectyour feelings, I mean this; and you are absolutely right, there is no 50 / 50 in the Bible;

It's 100%, for God expects from us, 'All' or nothing. We are to be at peace with 'all', for we as Christians are the members of 'One' Body, the Body, the Church of the Lord Jesus Christ. If we lean too far to one gender, it's an imbalance.

There are only two genders, male and female (created He them); we have to be at peace with one another.

No where in the Word of God does it instruct a woman to be in sole company of men for fellowship; and it is for obvious reasons. We as Christian women DO have to be mindful of this. And just because 'we' do not like it, doesn't stop it from being expected of us, from God our Father.

We can 'play' with this notion of having 'only' male friends all we want. but sooner or later it will lead to something that needs to be put in check. A 'normal' man will eventually want to move closer to a 'normal' woman. It's simply nature and it is something that we need to place our awareness of. Just how buddy-buddy far does it go? It's still male and female. We need to be careful about this.

Responding to Men and Marriage:

Men 'do' run from marriage. I'm sorry, but it's just like that. How many books, magazine articles, seminars, face, hair and body make overs are there for men out there in this world, in comparison, to those for women, seeking to be accepted and received by men. How many books are there written for 'women' on how to have a husband, in comparison to books written for men, how to have a wife? What's the ratio of men looking for a wife, in comparison to a woman looking [praying] for a husband and even more, to have a meaningful relationship.

How many single mothers are on this planet, because the 'man' did not marry them? Why did he not commit and marry her before having sex? In comparison to women, how many men can have sex and not feel an emotional attachment or the desire to make a commitment? Life is not the 'fairytale' that we'd like it to be. And I'm not speaking from 'religion', but from reality.

It's a harsh reality. I don't expect anyone to like it or agree to acknowledge it, however, the truth is what it is. Men 'do' run from marriage, and making a commitment until they are ready to get married; see a reason that is 'fit' for them to marry, or they end up falling in love with 'the' woman, and / or until God settles them with the right woman.

Please understand that I am not being arrogant or pious or whatever negative application that one can come up with. I am simply speaking the reality.

Am I saying that no man wants to get married? Noooooooooooooo. But they do indeed 'run' from it, cause it's what they do. Not all men, but enough to have made a perilous impact on the lives and broken hearts of one woman far too many.

Blessings... :Rose:



Sweet sleep and loving peace to all. For God has ordained peace for us, to be at peace with one
another.

 

[SND411]

Hey Shimmie,

The OP NEVER stated that the woman had the notion of "only having male friends." How do we know she only wants to have male friends? You are just assuming. The crux of the problem is that many people (like some of us in this thread) jump to conclusions about other people too quickly which often leads to gossip and the insinuatation that they are sinning. This is wrong.

And about the "men running from marriage," that definitely DOES NOT apply to every sub-culture in the United States and around the world. Just because this might be happening on some pockets of the black community (amongst others) does not mean this is applied to all men nor their DNA.

The reason there is more "advice" out there for women (which I don't understand since we are supposedly trying to convince men to defy their DNA) is because society has been socialized to place heavy burdens upon the female sex for some strange reason. It has nothing to do with some DNA design from God. Remember, society is constantly changing and it was not always like this.

And please, soooo many Christians have spoken ad naseum about how God created sex for as an emotional experience for BOTH men and women. Now we want to bring pseudo-science and insinuate that God made a man's DNA to be completely detached from sex. What?

 

[Shimmie]

Re: Have you ever been tagged as committing a certain sin, but you didn't?

What did you do?

I have two different scenarios where people have been accused of committing sins that they did not commit.

1) One is a young woman who has a nice number of male acquaintances. She has been accused of being a garden tool among other things. People are spreading rumors, but the young lady is just more comfortable around guys due to her upbringing. She is pretty, and some of the guys are interested in her, but she is not committing fornication or adultery. She is a born again Christian. These rumors about her are not dying.

2) The other is a young man. He is in a field where most of the men are married at his age and many have started a family. He is 28, and he has not married yet. He wants to be married, but it hasn't happened for him yet. He admits that he does have a few reservations about getting married right now, but he wants to get married. This person may seem slightly feminine or odd to a few people, but he says that he has never been attracted to a man, had sex with a man, kissed a man, or anything else. In other words, he vows that he is not closeted. Because of his slightly "off" mannerisms and lack of spouse, people are spreading rumors that he is gay. This rumor about him is not dying. There are no facebook pictures, texts, or anything else that backs up the rumor.

Oh Dear... I quoted the wrong post.... :Rose:

 

[dicapr]

Neither of the individuals in the sitation deserve to have their name dragged through the mud. There are alot of individuals who use what they would do or there experience as basis of fact. If a man isn't chasing women he must be gay. If a woman has male friends she must be a friend with benefits. In both cases the issue is with the darkness in the heart of the one who is judging.

 

[Prudent1]

Life is not fair. Really, it's not. Sounds like a few ppl think life should be fair. It's not. We do not get a pass from heartache or unfairness in life simply b/c we are Christian. We cannot define fair on our own terms b/c we are not God. However, we are equiped to overcome that stuff. In my personal experiences, Shimmie's statements have rang true. I have seen both of those scenarios many times. I also realize that as a person thinks in their hearts, they are(dicapr). That's why life's amphlifiers like say, money be it in abundance or a lack thereof is the heart magnifier it is. When it comes or goes we say things like, "I didn't know so and so was like 'x'." You can learn a lot about a person when money is involved.
The ppl spreading gossip clearly have a problem. We can't control them. We can decide how we will respond and control our actions.

Yes, there are many things that I have been accused of falsely. No one ever apologized either. I made a decision to keep living my life in a way that left no posibility for confusion or validation of the things I was purportedly involved in. I'll share 2 things that I have been accused of that were false and painful, embarassing, etc.
As a virgin teen, I was accused of engaging in anal sex. I was a true virgin b/c I wanted to be. I was not the 2010 kind who do everything but penetration (mutual gratifcation, sexting, phalangial[is that a real word?] penetration, oral, y'all know what's up). I was mortified. This rumor was started by someone who I later discovered was attracted to me but did not have the courage to approach me. I saw him recently. He still giving me that 'look'. I forgave him years ago.
After my divorce, I was approached by several ppl who inquired about my recovery from alcoholism and commented on the STD I gave my ex-husband. I continued/ continue to be approached at times by ppl voicing their concerns. Some sincere, some just being plain ol' messy. ((SHRUGS)) I have never had an STD. I have never struggled with an alcoholic addiction. Those were started curteousy of the ex. I forgave him too. Anyone who spends a few minutes with me in convo IRL let alone actually knows me ROFL at the above type accusations. I just don't git down like that. See, my character, although still very flawed and human, speaks for me at this point in life. There is a balance between the appearance of evil and allowing the ungodly to control you. It is obtained by asking God to give one wisdom on how to behave in such situations. Asking him what His opinion is on the matter. Then waiting. He'll answer. The beginning of wisdom is the fear ( ultimate, unwavering, respect) of the Lord. May your friends find godly solutions to their situations.

 

[Guitarhero]

Life is not fair. Really, it's not. Sounds like a few ppl think life should be fair. It's not. We do not get a pass from heartache or unfairness in life simply b/c we are Christian. We cannot define fair on our own terms b/c we are not God. However, we are equiped to overcome that stuff. In my personal experiences, Shimmie's statements have rang true. I have seen both of those scenarios many times. I also realize that as a person thinks in their hearts, they are(dicapr). That's why life's amphlifiers like say, money be it in abundance or a lack thereof is the heart magnifier it is. When it comes or goes we say things like, "I didn't know so and so was like 'x'." You can learn a lot about a person when money is involved.
The ppl spreading gossip clearly have a problem. We can't control them. We can decide how we will respond and control our actions.

Yes, there are many things that I have been accused of falsely. No one ever apologized either. I made a decision to keep living my life in a way that left no posibility for confusion or validation of the things I was purportedly involved in. I'll share 2 things that I have been accused of that were false and painful, embarassing, etc.
As a virgin teen, I was accused of engaging in anal sex. I was a true virgin b/c I wanted to be. I was not the 2010 kind who do everything but penetration (mutual gratifcation, sexting, phalangial[is that a real word?] penetration, oral, y'all know what's up). I was mortified. This rumor was started by someone who I later discovered was attracted to me but did not have the courage to approach me. I saw him recently. He still giving me that 'look'. I forgave him years ago.
After my divorce, I was approached by several ppl who inquired about my recovery from alcoholism and commented on the STD I gave my ex-husband. I continued/ continue to be approached at times by ppl voicing their concerns. Some sincere, some just being plain ol' messy. ((SHRUGS)) I have never had an STD. I have never struggled with an alcoholic addiction. Those were started curteousy of the ex. I forgave him too. Anyone who spends a few minutes with me in convo IRL let alone actually knows me ROFL at the above type accusations. I just don't git down like that. See, my character, although still very flawed and human, speaks for me at this point in life. There is a balance between the appearance of evil and allowing the ungodly to control you. It is obtained by asking God to give one wisdom on how to behave in such situations. Asking him what His opinion is on the matter. Then waiting. He'll answer. The beginning of wisdom is the fear ( ultimate, unwavering, respect) of the Lord. May your friends find godly solutions to their situations.

It's "fellatio." Your post had me cracking up. Your ex was spreading the first of those lol! I won't even tell you what mine said about me...and the whole raving community. It's good to laugh about these things because we're victorious, no?

 

[Prudent1]

It's "fellatio." Your post had me cracking up. Your ex was spreading the first of those lol! I won't even tell you what mine said about me...and the whole raving community. It's good to laugh about these things because we're victorious, no?

Uh, uh... I couldn't think of a nice way to say what we commonly referred to as obtaining the big 'O' through stimulation via his fingers. Hence my wordplay on phalanges. Yes, we are more than conquerors b/c of Jesus. ITA w/ you. That only scratched the surface of what he said/ still says about me.

 

[Shimmie]

It's "fellatio." Your post had me cracking up. Your ex was spreading the first of those lol! I won't even tell you what mine said about me...and the whole raving community. It's good to laugh about these things because we're victorious, no?

Uh, uh... I couldn't think of a nice way to say what we commonly referred to as obtaining the big 'O' through stimulation via his fingers. Hence my wordplay on phalanges. Yes, we are more than conquerors b/c of Jesus. ITA w/ you. That only scratched the surface of what he said/ still says about me.

Your posts are hilarious In a good way, I can't read both of your 'words' without laughing here at my desk.

Anyhooooooo !

I can attest to both of your experiences about those kinds of rumors.

@Prudent1, I was just like you a 'virgin' [my ex-husband was my 'first'] yet in school, there was a guy who lied and said that they 'had' me. And I never did anything! I was a 'Momma's girl and a Daddie's girl all my life. I went to school, and went straight home each day; had excellent grades; I spent my free time [from school] in New York with my grandparents.

I had a few 'starryi-eyed' [innocent] crushes on a few guys, what girl doesn't, most of the guys were cute and during recess, the girls and I would get together and 'giggle' and talk about how cute 'Dennis' was and how tall and handsome 'Harry' was. It was all normal and innocent. :blush3:

There was one guy whom we didn't think was so cute, he was rude to everyone, and he was offended because I didn't respond to him when he yelled out and called me 'stuck-up'. I ignored him and I remember some of the other students making fun of him. The next thing I knew was the rumor was he 'got me'.

That fool didn't have a 'got' to git'....

@volver... I've been labeled the 'crazy' one during my divorce as well. And I was, I was crazy to have married a fool.

 

[Guitarhero]

Uh, uh... I couldn't think of a nice way to say what we commonly referred to as obtaining the big 'O' through stimulation via his fingers. Hence my wordplay on phalanges. Yes, we are more than conquerors b/c of Jesus. ITA w/ you. That only scratched the surface of what he said/ still says about me.

If and when you are remarried, life has moved on for decades...he's still gonna be saying all that stuff.

 

[Shimmie]

^^^ I am sure that Shimmie can speak for herself,

I need a big wavey flag that says:

This is not a rumor...

I will say this, if Shimmie can do nothing else, she can speak for herself.

J / K

Here's a big un-rumored hug to everyone. [Un-rumored means, it's for real]



:Rose:

 

[Poohbear]

To answer the question posted in the title of the thread... yes, I have been accused of sinning when I really was not committing a sin. Most of this is from my father (who is a pastor):

1. Not going to every Wednesday night Bible study
2. Not going to every church outreach ministry
3. Not believing the same exact things that my dad interprets from the Bible
4. Not tithing according to the man-made standard of 10% gross income
5. Not calling people in "church" Sis. or Bro. I usually call adults older than me Mr. and Mrs. out of respect. If they are my age or younger, I call them by their first name.

That's all I can think of right now, but I do not think those are sins listed above.

 

[Shimmie]

It's "fellatio." Your post had me cracking up. Your ex was spreading the first of those lol! I won't even tell you what mine said about me...and the whole raving community. It's good to laugh about these things because we're victorious, no?

Uh, uh... I couldn't think of a nice way to say what we commonly referred to as obtaining the big 'O' through stimulation via his fingers. Hence my wordplay on phalanges. Yes, we are more than conquerors b/c of Jesus. ITA w/ you. That only scratched the surface of what he said/ still says about me.

To answer the question posted in the title of the thread... yes, I have been accused of sinning when I really was not committing a sin. Most of this is from my father (who is a pastor):

1. Not going to every Wednesday night Bible study
2. Not going to every church outreach ministry
3. Not believing the same exact things that my dad interprets from the Bible
4. Not tithing according to the man-made standard of 10% gross income
5. Not calling people in "church" Sis. or Bro. I usually call adults older than me Mr. and Mrs. out of respect. If they are my age or younger, I call them by their first name.

That's all I can think of right now, but I do not think those are sins listed above.

No, you haven't committed a sin. I can feel your hurt.