thetall1
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DH and I took "breaks" ....and he still became DH.....
i guess if its meant to be, its meant to be.....
About how long were the breaks?
DH and I took "breaks" ....and he still became DH.....
i guess if its meant to be, its meant to be.....
About how long were the breaks?
I'm really sorry to hear that. I can't imagine the pain your feel right now. I don't have any advice, but I did want to say that it will get better. I know you're thinking that'll never happen. Trust me..it does get better.![]()
I'm in the same situation! My boyfriend of five years told me last saturday that he needed a break from the relationship, because he's been unhappy for quite sometime...I was extremely hurt by this and I want to respect his wishes, but I have been blowing up his phone, texting, leaving voice messages etc. since. I also would like to know if "breaks" work. He has contacted my friend via facebook and basically vented to her; she told me that she recommended that he take a break from me as well. I'm confused should I let him have his break or just move on with my life. He is an excellent boyfriend, I just haven't been the best girlfriend (background info). But it is killing me not to contact him...
Met my husband at 17,took a break at for a few years, rekindled at 27, engaged at 28, and married at 29. The moral of this story is we were teens when me met and carried teen baggage into our adult relationship. After a few years experiencing the world we learned to love properly. The break was the best decision we ever made. I think all teen sweethearts should take a break, because life experience and time will help you decide if the person is really the right one.
So from what I gather from this thread, the breaks that "worked" were ones where people were together from their teen years, broke up as young adults and then gravitated back to each other under their own free will.
The key also seems to be that these breaks don't have a set time period. Both parties have to move on, not expect to get back together, date other people, grow/live, etc., and THEN when they are more mature and ready, they might return to each other.
As for "breaks" when you barely know each other, y'all might as well just break up PERIOD.
Oh, I do have a sorta story. I dated a guy for five months, we argued and he was upset. He said he needed a one-week no-contact break to cool off. Now, I was okay with perhaps going the weekend without contact, but not a weeklong break.
However, I told him, "If you'd like to do that, you can, but I guarantee you that when you come back, you will not get a very positive response from me."
Guess what? His butt didn't take a break.
We did end up breaking up a month later... the fact that he wanted to react that way to an argument should have been a sign.
I think it is important for many people to date several people before settling down or committing at a young age. For some of us, after a while you subconsiously feel like you might have missed out on something (not saying this is what is going on with you and your bf). It works for some people and in my case, breaking up (or taking a break) was the best thing I ever did.
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**update** so much has happened since my last comment....He and I are still not together...However, the table has turned and he won't leave me alone!!!!! Talk about karma...
Well, "technically" it's not playing games...I just state that because I'm not following my heart/emotions and only leading my actions by logic...makes sense? But yes, It's not really playing games...I just usually state that...
For an example, He's calling you 50 trillion times and you know darn well you want to answer that phone, at least one good time. But, you don't...instead of answering the phone you ignore the person etc...I don'k know how to explain this...so...yea...lol maybe Danell can chime in??
He doesn't want me seeing other guys and has even made threats.