twilight80
Well-Known Member
I have for ten years now and it has just started to get it's wear on me. Naturally I am a quiet person, peace maker and a people pleaser so I blame myself for letting it carry one this far.
I met my husband in 1999 which was my first year of college...actually my first day of college and been with him ever since. I have been about this man from day one and have not flirted, had male friend or even really talk to any male since I've been with him in order to keep peace. Yet he still gets the feeling I want to find someone else. It seems like things have escalated this year to were I find myself looking down when I'm out so he doesn't think I'm looking at someone that maybe in my view. Oh and let it be a shirtless guy and he's like a hawk trying to catch to see if I'm looking. All this comes from things he has seen in other woman and people he had dated before me. I am maturing with my confidence and life over all and just tired of everything being so complicated.
Anyone have any advice on how this can be changed with out having to get divorced? or is this just a lost cause? It's too hard to think about divorce because other than the trust issue he is a great father to our children, we get along very well and the fact that I have been in love with him for so long. I know my mistakes but they are in the past and I can't change any of that now ect. I got involved in the relationship too young and have not had the chance to be myself or on my own, making my own decisions. I changed in order maintain peace.
I met my husband in 1999 which was my first year of college...actually my first day of college and been with him ever since. I have been about this man from day one and have not flirted, had male friend or even really talk to any male since I've been with him in order to keep peace. Yet he still gets the feeling I want to find someone else. It seems like things have escalated this year to were I find myself looking down when I'm out so he doesn't think I'm looking at someone that maybe in my view. Oh and let it be a shirtless guy and he's like a hawk trying to catch to see if I'm looking. All this comes from things he has seen in other woman and people he had dated before me. I am maturing with my confidence and life over all and just tired of everything being so complicated.
Anyone have any advice on how this can be changed with out having to get divorced? or is this just a lost cause? It's too hard to think about divorce because other than the trust issue he is a great father to our children, we get along very well and the fact that I have been in love with him for so long. I know my mistakes but they are in the past and I can't change any of that now ect. I got involved in the relationship too young and have not had the chance to be myself or on my own, making my own decisions. I changed in order maintain peace.