Has a stylist ever cut your hair 'behind your back'

[zora]

Ok, so I'm sitting in my stylist's chair and I ask my usual questions.

'How does my hair look?'
'Has it grown?'
'Do you see any split ends?'

After I ask the last question, she's like 'No, I gave you a trim the last time, so your hair has no ends'

Me: 'Umm, no, you didn't'
Her: 'Sure, I did. I pretty sure I remember trimming your ends'

At this point, I don't feel like going back and forth with her, because I KNOW for a fact I didn't ask her to give me a trim, but now I'm wondering if this chick cut my hair behind my back.

This happened to me before in NY. If I didn't look up in time to see it happening, I wouldn't have even caught it. The stylists there-especially the upscale ones- won't even style your hair if it's not freshly trimmed and crisp. So my stylist up there just took upon herself to give my a freaking trim w/o asking.

Has this ever happened to you?

 

[princesmich]

yes 4 inches off after I she turned me around and said it would be a trim. i haven't been back to her in about a year

 

[SerenityBreeze]

She brought me back to a nape lenght bob right after I had grown it out to shoulder. I could not beleive it!! That is what lead me right here to you wonderful ladies! Enough was Enough!

 

[B_Phlyy]

Yes. She said she was just lining up my nape. She gives me the mirror to check out the back, and the back somehow got shave down to a quarter inch.

 

[thefineprint]

yep. he told me he was going to trim my shoulder length hair. when i left it was alittle below my ears. i still was too ignorant back then to trust anyone else's opinion so i didn't even realize anything bad happened

 

[Angelicus]

Every stylist I have had (with the exception of one) has done this to me. It's really sad. They need to ask us if we want it cut.

 

[blackmaven]

Yes, I just went to get my hair relax eight weeks after having my baby perm was not taking during pregnancy. I used perm rods all over my hair so long and beautiful. This flaming *** hairstylist cut me into a "Bob" and faded the back of my head. I was like what is that noise am hearing in the back of my head. Flashback no dam hair in back made me so dam mad. I acted a plum fool cried all the way home on the bus lucky he got some money.


Second story was not even going to get my hair done just going with one of my friends. The stylist smoked her hair begged to get in mine. I was being mean like no am on strike from beauticians. Finally they sweet talk me into the chair big mistake. The stylist did ask what he could or could not do. I was upfront I have a big ole head do not cut me short hair was past shoulder lenght. I could see the hair falling everywhere just could not seem to be able say anything. When he finished turn me to look at the mirror yawl I cried big crocodile tears. My friend was like it is a wee bit short it will grow back. Well easy for her to say she is Puerto Rican. When we to to counter she paid. Remember, I was being mean when he initially tried to get in my head so I screamed real loud am not paying you for this Sh*t. He says politely I was not going to charge you. I continue to cry straight to my boyfriend's house. He thought the cut was nice just to short for my head. I recieve so many compliments from co-worker that following Monday. Grrrrrr I did not see the beauty in that layered cut until three months later.

 

[naturallylovely]

yeah, my mother did...i told her i didn't want my ends clipped (even though i really needed it) and she did it anyway....she only dusted though, but i was still mad at her.....but in the end my hair looked and felt much better...so i guess mother knows best

 

[seraphinelle]

Well easy for her to say she is Puerto Rican

Pardon me?

Anyway, I have never had this happen to me. And if it did, I wouldn't pay them, and they would sure as hell know not to do that to anyone else again.

teeeheee.

This happened to my friend recently, and she was crying, and all that. It was like a huge big deal to her... *yawn* I told her it was hair, it'll grow back, she ended up paying the guy $300..

Because after he cut it too short, she got extensions that jacked up her hair style.

 

[Softresses]

I had plenty of stylists that would cut insted of trim. But one was going to do a sneak job after I said no. I was hyper alert and caught her when I heard her pick up the scissors. I firmly stated for her not to put them in my hair. She told me, "I'm the stylist!" I told her it is my hair and I don't want any scissors in it. I did not get a trim but I never went back either. I was sick of them doing what they wanted to insted of what I wanted.





Softresses

 

[JewelleNY]

Yes, I went in with about APL hair that was very curly to hair that was about 1-2 inches all around like a shag I was about 12 and too scared to say anything. My hear flips when I write this even though I am 32 now I can still remember it. She was supposed to give me a trim and I think she just kept cutting and cutting.


I never let anyone cut my hair anymore

 

[Lucia]

Every stylist I have had (with the exception of one) has done this to me. It's really sad. They need to ask us if we want it cut.

That used to happen to me all the time too. They're jJust too wrong.

 

[taraglam2]

I had a "hairdresser" (prior to hairboards) that would just grab scissors and "cut" my hair. She never asked me or anything. I should have known after the very first time I went to her and got a relaxer and she "cut" my hair. Then I noticed it became habit with her that she would just "cut" my hair--say it was a trim and it was more and more frequent. Finally I told her--"No more cutting". She said she had to "cut" my hair. That was the last time I went to her !

I went to another stylist(had a mini consultation) prior to hairboards and told her I wanted a half inch trim---As she was supposedly trimming my hair I noticed that 2 and 3 inch pieces were falling to the floor. She said---"I decided to give you a cut". Your "cut" will be great and very easy to manage." I was extremely upset ! Who told her that she could decide to give me a cut !!!!

 

[tenderheaded]

Yes. The hag took off 3 inches, and this was AFTER she had cut it 2 weeks earlier after a vrigin relaxer. Whose hair needs cutting that much??That was 2000 and I'm still mad

 

[january noir]

My stylist (bless his heart) ALWAYS consults with me about what's happening with my hair, recommends a solution (tells me the pros and cons if I do or don't do it), THEN do it if I say so.

If I don't want something done, he won't do it. He would never just cut/trim/dust my hair and I have never seen him do that with any of his clients.

I guess that is why I have been with him so long.

 

[dynamic1]

I don't believe in violence, but.......................I understand it if just one time somebody thought about it! This is such a shame, that stylist just think they can do anything they want with a part of your body! How about a black eye, I didn't get your permission but it's all the same.

I have been fortunate enough not to experience this, but I did get the opposite when I was letting my hair grow out. Some just didn't want to cut, when I wanted them too! Now, I will say, one of my alternate stylist was really upset at the amount of hair someone else cut. But I wasn't really that focused on it until he made me pay attention.

I remember sitting in my stylist chair, watching a hair cutting disagreement between another stylist and customer. She did not want her hair cut but it looked really, really damaged and actually needed to be cut if she wanted to wear it out (coming out of braids). She cried in the chair and the stylist gave her a very small trim, and cornrows. There was absolutely nothing else she could do with it! I felt bad for the girl, the stylist was very sweet and patient and tried to explain. But she listened to the customer and that is what counts!

 

[Britfem27]

Yes me too. Asked for a trim and got a very short cut. I was left with 3-4 inches of hair from shoulder length. This was last year. It grew back but as the stylist cut it in extreme layers and sliced, use drazors etc it is very uneven and I have to trim it every month to even it up.

 

[breezy]

Wow. Now I feel lucky that I don't go get my hair done anymore! I wish somebody would cut my hair, after all the effort I've put into growing it out healthy. I would fight a B****over cutting my hair, and I'm dead serious. You cut my hair, and it's over. Then they wanna try to act like you're being silly "it's just hair" chick please...

 

[Ms Red]

Yes. One stylist cut me to almost ear length and at the time I was shoulder length. I was furious and cannot mention what I did to that shop. It was 2 years later until I could bring myself to go to a salon and even then, before I sat in her chair I said loudly 'I do not want a cut. I don't need a trim. As a matter of fact, I don't even want to SEE scisors in your hands."

 

[PhonyBaloney500]

Yes, I went in with about APL hair that was very curly to hair that was about 1-2 inches all around like a shag I was about 12 and too scared to say anything. My hear flips when I write this even though I am 32 now I can still remember it. She was supposed to give me a trim and I think she just kept cutting and cutting.


I never let anyone cut my hair anymore

OMG what is wrong with these people? So spiteful eh?

I've had them cut off more than I anticipated (say an inch more) or add some layers I didn't ask for. Now I make sure they show me how much they're cutting.

 

[Qetesh]

I don't believe in violence, but.......................I understand it if just one time somebody thought about it! This is such a shame, that stylist just think they can do anything they want with a part of your body! How about a black eye, I didn't get your permission but it's all the same.

I have been fortunate enough not to experience this, but I did get the opposite when I was letting my hair grow out. Some just didn't want to cut, when I wanted them too! Now, I will say, one of my alternate stylist was really upset at the amount of hair someone else cut. But I wasn't really that focused on it until he made me pay attention.

I remember sitting in my stylist chair, watching a hair cutting disagreement between another stylist and customer. She did not want her hair cut but it looked really, really damaged and actually needed to be cut if she wanted to wear it out (coming out of braids). She cried in the chair and the stylist gave her a very small trim, and cornrows. There was absolutely nothing else she could do with it! I felt bad for the girl, the stylist was very sweet and patient and tried to explain. But she listened to the customer and that is what counts!

I have had similar experience. Only 1 time did I feel like I had a cut instead of a trim, and honestly it was because I probably needed it, she may have cut an inch or two overboard. I went from bra strap length to shoulder length she cut about 5 inches off, b4 hand my ends were terribly chewed from me hot-curling and not properly taking care of it. I was young and it seemed like it grew back within a year or so.

The last time I got a trim the stylist didn’t want to give me one, because my ends didn’t look bad; she ended up cutting about 3 inches off. Sometimes I think the stylists cut more than you would like because they are evening it up somehow in their head, she gave me layers which I didn’t have b4. ODD but true. I am not getting another trim until mid Feb-March and I may even just have my fiancée try at it then.

 

[JazzyDez]

all of these stories are crazy to me. luckily Ive never had a stylist like this. I just started going to the salon and I am on my 3rd stylist (trial and error). I left the first because the burned the heck out of my scalp and I left the 2nd because she didnt even deep condition (can you believe she said extra $15 for the treatment not included in the relaxer!)....so I am on number 3. Ive never got a "cut" or an excess amount trimmed. One told me she was trimming my hair and I told her as little as possible and she listened. the other two asked before they trimmed and I also told them very little, only to remove the scraggely ends which were needed. I am not about to let no hair stylist walk all over me or tell me what they are going to do after I say no. And if they did, believe me there would be a scene in the salon that day

 

[chica_canella]

Well my stylist just trimmed my hair when she thought it needed to be cut. I mean, I trusted her and I never told her she couldn't. It was my cousin also. But it seemed that she would trim to much and also too often which left me just above bsl at the longest. It seemed as if my hair would gain length very slowly. This wasn't true though it was just she was cutting it too much.

 

[HersheyKiss0903]

I vented about this on my very first post to LHCF. The stylist kept pushing for a trim even though I didnt feel like my ends were that bad. I finally agreed to a trim but told her just to do a dusting. She was real careful at first and then showed me the hair that she cut after she was done. I was pleased but then I started hearing little snip, snip noises again in the back of my head and can you believe she had the nerve to turn up her music to maybe drown out the sound. Needless to say she has lost me as a client FOREVER.

 

[Guyaneek]

Two years ago I had a stylist chop a good deal of hair off but I never thought much about it until you ladies went into your stories about these malicious stylist. I'm certain the situation was the same. I guess I was a bit naive in thinking that this doesn't really happen. Now, I trim myself!

 

[sugarose]

I had a friend who went in with almost APL unstretched hair and came out with relaxed ear length hair. All in the name of "trimming her split ends".
I've been to one stylist only, and she tried to cut my hair behind my back, but thankfully I heard the click of the scissors and after about 3 minutes of arguing (she was insulting me and everything) she realized I was not having it and she gave up. But boy did she want to cut my hair!! erplexed

 

[dlewis]

My former stylist cut 3" in September and forced me to start doing my own hair. Now I cut or trim, relax, etc..........

 

[TowsonGirl]

This is exactly why I dont go to stylists anymore. When I was about 12, my mom took me to one for a trim, I had SL hair. When I left, I had a Halle Berry cut. Needless to say, I was traumatized beyond words. I didnt go to a stylist for another 4 yrs for my moms wedding, and after that, another 5 yrs. Some of them are very sneaky...

 

[godzooki]

Yeah, I noticed the last few times my stylist has been getting sneakier and sneakier. I would have been at bra strap (no questioning!) probably months ago if not for her sneak snips. I'm due for a touch up any week now and I'm so dreading it because I know we're gonna have issues. I don't know why she does not listen. Is it pettyness? jealousy? Are they that conditioned that they have to cut in order to feel like they've accomplished something?...I wish I could relax my own hair.

 

[CAPlush]

Yeah, I noticed the last few times my stylist has been getting sneakier and sneakier. I would have been at bra strap (no questioning!) probably months ago if not for her sneak snips. I'm due for a touch up any week now and I'm so dreading it because I know we're gonna have issues. I don't know why she does not listen. Is it pettyness? jealousy? Are they that conditioned that they have to cut in order to feel like they've accomplished something?...I wish I could relax my own hair.

I think it is 80% jealousy, and 20% just plain old lack of basic decency!